Hi there! I had interesting responses with my previous ad but nothing that went beyond conversation. Partly my fault since I didn't present much about my vanilla side and focused on what I wanted out of a dynamic. I really need the time investment to make sense so I can't justify a long conversation just for the sake of it.

Me (Vanilla Version) I'm a black woman with a STEM background, I work full-time although my job doesn't quite scratch the intellectual itch so to fill my plate, I do research. I'm a chaotic gym-goer, mainly strength training although I really found home when I tried aerial yoga. I'm trying to get into running and I think Exercised by Daniel Liberman will give me the nudge I need to make it into a sport.

Artistically I'm into languages of which I speak four at different fluency levels. I won't claim that I'm into a particular discipline but I follow the works of McMillan Cottom, T. and Manne, K. quite closely. I'm a big fan of behavioral science and my first exposure to the field was Grace Lordan but Nudge is the classic must-read. I also think everyone early in their career should read Designing Your Life!

I'm trying to go back to the basics and increase exposure to different literary works, so I'm almost done reading The Picture of Dorian Gray and Nabokov is next, not quite sure which book yet.

Physically I'm 5'7" with short, dark brown hair, broad shoulders, while I hate to objectify my own body I'm 'thick' (also a great book by an author mentioned above!) I'd like to be leaner but I'm quite happy with how I look now and consider myself feminine. I'm not attracted to what my vanilla friends would consider my masculine equal (pick one) muscular or powerlifter body, too tall, intimidating or arrogant.

Kinks If we progress well, I'd want some authority beyond the sexual. My non-negotiable for starters is a dynamic with an element of physical sadism (impact play) beyond the context of punishment with a tool of my choice. If we properly click, I'll ask for sexual control. I really only want this if the chemistry is there, I wouldn't broach the topics if no real chemistry exists. This conversation can't be rushed imo, it can only brought up when it feels right.

This is both a warning and for the right person, an invitation. I'm generally blunt and I can be emotionally sadistic. I get validation and arousal when that's met with acceptance. I will catch myself and apologize if I do it unprompted. However, I'd like someone who not only accept its but relishes it too. I will likely keep you on your toes in the beginning for a bit with my questions as I try to gage if we're compatible.

Limits How old were you when you learned that dommes can have limits too? :p I'm not into chastity, any form of anal play, feminization.

I'm into power exchange but even then I'm looking for an equal so I quite frankly don't want to be anyone's mommy, life coach, mentor or first introductory experience.. (they charge for all that for a reason!)

You (Ideally) In your 20s and hopefully what I'd consider an intellectual equal and with high EQ. Conventionally attractive or plain CUTE, masculine-presenting, short hair. Not to be vain but it adds to my fantasy to imagine dominating someone taller than me even if it's just by 5 inches. Sub-leaning switch or submissive. I don't like the slave archetype and I don't consider myself a Goddess. Active body.

I'm looking for a dynamic that's completely online to start. If you're in the US there might be a world where the dynamic can translate to in-person, happy to share more privately. Otherwise and pessimistically, the assumption is this will be short-term and online-only. I do need exclusivity for a lot of my kinks, so no open arrangements/ENM/poly.