I was checking another personals sub for a comparison and realized how relatively blunt people seeking M/f dynamics can be and whether downplaying what we really want out of femdom and F/m is the reason for everyone's demise. I'm certain that a 24/7 dynamic is above my emotional bandwidth so I'm looking for a friendship with femdom in the background except the scope is limited to what I'll discuss below.

(If I can't talk to you about my day then it's unlikely I will feel dominant over you, no downplaying of vanilla chemistry and it can't be forced either. It's more than you being a submissive and me being dominant.) Hopefully my profile compliments my personal; I do not share all my kinks somewhat by design. There are people I'm only compatible with on the kink front and that's always a shame.

I'm a sadist, good at creating discomfort, great at relieving it. Hurt/Comfort is a great description I've seen. I reserve physical sadism for romantic partners so I don't care about your impact toys. My emotional sadism is a byproduct of a good and real connection. I believe this falls under Edge Play and if there's chemistry, I want to discuss a 'termination protocol' even prior to starting. How would we end it all, when it inevitably ends? What words of validation/affirmation would we both want to hear? Are we going no contact or waning it slowly?

In this friendship, I want to do the opposite of sugar coating. I want a space to be brutally honest, maybe even rude. If we're chatting but you're starting to bore me, I want to tell you that. And when what you're talking about isn't interesting, to have you talk about something more interesting. I wouldn't go out of my way to do this and it would happen somewhat organically but in a controlled, pre-negotiated environment. I need to do this with someone who can self-advocate and say No when it's too much. I don't want to do this if you have low self-esteem because I won't reinforce it. Only approach me if you consider yourself to be mentally intact, resilient and strong emotionally. You would be a safe space for me to explore my psychological sadism and I would fulfill your desires for mental domination and masochism. Aftercare is part of the package and it's for us both. *I'm not doing this for altruistic purposes, this fulfills a carnal desire of mine.

While I'm analytical and thoughtful, I'm also superficial. I seem to land on a type, my previous partners have been 6' or taller, certain body, short hair. Just something to keep in mind if we decide to exchange photos down the line. No ENM/poly/other arrangements, I just don't want to care about another partner so.. don't make me. Save your kink list. Oh and I won't interact if your message isn't personalized to my ad.