I've heard it said that if you try hard enough, the universe will help you find what you're after. So that's what this is about.

Having recently moved to NYC from Seattle, I'm looking for someone either in my geographic vicinity (NYC area) for a D/s relationship ideally with friendship and lots of chemistry. I have no expectations going in for anything long term/serious but if it develops, that's amazing!

Vanilla: Single, well educated, monogamous, loves to write, reads lots, travel and stay active (hiking, surfing). If you are interested in history, philosophy, psychology or sexuality, we'll get along swimmingly. Overall, I'm resourceful, social, ambitious, constantly pushing myself and vulnerable with the right person.

Kinky: As a sub, I like to be teased and have my buttons pushed, face sitting/riding, bondage (all kinds), some masochism, sex based games (let's get imaginative), spanking, LOVE nipple play (mine are extra sensitive), curious about CNC. I'm really open minded y'all. I am also super open to switch with the right people. As a dom, I love watching someone get turned on despite them being in discomfort (ropes, toys, restraints) or in mild pain (impact.) I like service subs, and am curious about degradees. I really like to understand my subs and tailor my style of play to match their turn ons. So i guess I’m a pleasure dom in some sense.

Physical description: I'm \~5' 6" and 145 lbs. Athletic, dark tan skin, black hair and brown eyes. Happy to trade pics.

Kink experience (1-10): Solid Five. I know who I am and what I prefer. Not looking for that quickie and instantly regretting/feeling shame later, a common phenomenon among sub men. Kinky *mostly* in the bedroom but like I said, those boundaries are porous :)

Who I'm looking for: Single, 23-36, likes to read, intellectually curious, Imaginative, loves experimentation, willing to switch. Oh also, in a time zone that works ( /- 3 hours max).

I'm attracted to someone who

* loves to experiment

* Is curious/interested in exploring the psychological aspects of D/s rather than just sexual acts

I'm not into: financial manipulation, blackmail, demanding 'gifts.' Anything commercial.

Soft limits: Longer term chastity, heavy cbt or extreme pain, age play.

Hard limits: Blood, anything illegal, vore, scat, age or race play, incest, forced-bi, permanent bodily harm, findom, weird occult rituals.

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