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I’m looking for a short-term or long-term dynamic, all depending on our chemistry/compatibility, preferably with FLR elements BUT at the same time… I want a man who is CONFIDENT in himself and able to speak his mind by communicating openly without shutting down. To be blunt: I do not want a clingy, whiny partner who needs me to be their Mommy. 

This will be a strictly online-only connection as I’m currently exploring my options and I’m not willing to change my mind just because someone wants to force things to happen. Be yourself! We’re either a match or we’re not, it’s as simple as that, and I’m here to have fun so please don’t waste our time if you’re not able to accept this. Trust, honorifics, and partnership has to be earned while building upon a strong foundation. IF you and I click, it’s possible that the dynamic could become a relationship one day, but I will not discuss that any time soon so do NOT push me or lovebomb me.

You should be able to communicate with me, express yourself honestly, and put in real effort rather than waiting for me to give you breadcrumbs every step of the way. Know that I want someone who has actual dating experience and isn’t some teenager fresh out of highschool or a college student who’s never been with a woman before. I’m not here to hold someone’s hand and teach them how to romance a woman, so PLEASE don’t waste my time! I also need you to understand that I am a human being, that I want Femdom/FLR where the focus is on ME and MY NEEDS rather than dealing with men who selfishly center themselves because they want to get their dick wet. I don’t want to have to tell you to treat me like your princess or that I have to train you on how to be attentive, romantic, and thoughtful. You have to enjoy giving pleasure and keeping my needs and desires above everything else in your head, so don’t even bring up your boner. You are the submissive one here, not me, so prove yourself worthy of me and serve me properly.

SUB (YOU):

• Age Range: MUST be within 25-40!!!
• Location: USA
• Height: Tall. Tall. I like tall men. NO SHORT KINGS. If you have to ask how tall you need to be, you are probably not tall enough for me. You need to stay tall af even when I wear my heels.
• Body Type: Slim Tone or Fit Muscular
• Political Spectrum: Left
• Experience: Not a newbie to Femdom, relationships, FLR
• Relationship Status: Monogamous, Single, not sexually active or dating IRL.
• Green Flags: Communicator, Giving, Honest, Independent, Kind, Listener, and Loyal. Gemini is a plus.
• Personality: You are polite/courteous enough to say please, yes ma’am, and thank you. You enjoy showing off for me, pampering me, giving words of affirmations, wooing and romancing me. My mom would believe you’re the perfect gentleman who pulls out my chair and opens doors for me, while also showing up with gifts on Valentine’s Day to remind me how much you adore me. You can have an ego and be a bit sassy, but you treat me like your princess and give me what I want eventually. Sense of humor is also a must!
• Morals and Values: You are an ally for the queer community. You have to care about women’s rights. You also understand that the world is full of different people with different values, so you know not to be an asshole as long as they’re respectful toward you and others. You also respect other cultures. I have my own culture. We have food and customs, so I don’t want to see you throwing a fit because you think it’s gross or weird. You treat waiters and retail workers with kindness, patience, and respect. Your road rage (or any rage, for that matter) does not exceed mild irritation. You’re not a control freak, and you are not possessive of me, so you accept that I have friends, including guy friends. Bonus if you can be friends with them eventually.
• Looks and Hygiene: You shower regularly and keep up with proper grooming. You’re not bald, and you don’t have a beard. You don’t shave all your body hair off but also don’t be a gorilla. Ido not want a man that has no body hair or too much body hair. I like guys that have hairless thighs but hairy calves and some wispy chest hairs/back hair, if that gives you any ideas. Dress classy and tastefully when I expect you to (use common sense. I’m not your mommy and shouldn’t have to tell you when to dress nicely.) Casually, I like a man in black. Show me what you can do with your wardrobe. I’ll decide whether I like it or not. You either have long hair or you have it cut and styled; either way, it must be maintained properly. You have to make me look good wherever you go - especially if you do get to stand next to me in public. You must smell good and brush your teeth. Tattoos and classy fashion sense are a big bonus.
• Things I don’t want: If you play LoL, I instantly have a distrust of you. No Virgos. No virgins. No small weiners. No little dick energy. NO SHORT KINGS. No control freaks. No insecure little boys who have mommy issues or need to be reassured that I find you attractive or that we’re “okay.” stfu. No money issues/financial problems. No baby mama drama/kids/child support/bankruptcy/court bullshit. Have your shit straight and sorted out. No criminal activity-having-ass motherfuckers. I don’t have time or energy for your drama and bullshit. No racists, bigots, or general assholes.
• BONUS: You love Harvest Moon/SoS, JRPGs, and/or Final Fantasy XIV and can crush a whole ass watermelon between your thighs.
• I’m gonna go balls to the wall and say that if you know who Emet-Selch is, then we’re in business. If you can cosplay him and do a good job, I’m keeping you.

ABOUT ME:

• Late 20’s; 5’3”. Long black hair and brown eyes. Tattoos and piercings. Stiletto nails. Small bust/waist. Wide hips. If you like big, brown eyes, you’re in luck.
• I like to be silly and goofy, I also want to engage in sophisticated conversations, too.
• I frequently travel and like seeing new things, but I also like staying in and playing video games or drawing/making art.
• If I were to describe myself, I would say that I can be very sweet and nice when I want to be. I am a college-educated woman that has worked hard to get to where I am today and am continuing to build on that. I’m funny and enjoy laughing, but a good story will also make me cry. I enjoy exploring new/different things in all aspects of life. I’m adaptable, caring, creative, fun-loving, outgoing, romantic, and sentimental. I want to feel safe enough to be soft, but I’ll be a bitch if necessary. I can be a little unhinged.
• I take care of myself, and I’m very busy. My time is spread extremely thin as it is. I can’t have someone clingy or whiny pestering me to give attention when I can’t/don’t want to. I need you to be a confident and independent adult with your shit together and things going for you in your life.
• I draw digitally, and it exclusively involves gaming art/shitposts based on chats with friends
• I have been told that I have really bad resting bitch face
• I like wholesome games that tell a good story, play DnD with my friends, and enjoy meeting new people with similar hobbies and interests
• I love trying new foods/activities, but I frequently visit a lot of Japanese and Mediterranean restaurants in particular. I like a glass of white wine wherever I go, and if I can dress for the occasion, even better.
• I want words of affirmation. That is extremely important to me because I want to feel special. I know I am beautiful and smart and clever, but I want YOU to tell me. Not the guy at the fucking gas station. This is YOUR job. Not his. Not only that, but I want to hear genuine compliments about me as a person beyond just my physical appearance. I want to be pampered. I like to know I’m thought of based on your actions.
• I want you to do more than the bare minimum with showing up. I want you to listen and care and step in when I need/want you to without treating it like a chore or burden. This is your job. Figure out the things I enjoy and make an effort to anticipate my needs/desires. I want you to show that I’m important to you; especially on Valentine’s Day or other special occasions. I am your princess. Treat me as such. I want peonies and perfume. My favorite chocolates are from Europe. Use context clues to figure out what I want and need.

NSFW DETAILS:

• I will let you know if I’m interested in discussing kinks/NSFW topics.
• Do not send a close-up photo of your nudity.
• Always ask for my permission before sending photos.
• I will NOT change my mind so NO means NO.
• Do not treat me like a kink dispenser or act horny at inappropriate times.
• If you want to beg then it better be in a sexy way and not a pathetic little bitch way. I want to be romanced and I want to be turned on, the opposite will give me the ICK so fast.
• I love being verbally praised and hearing that you’ll worship me for all kinds of reasons. Be my biggest simp and let me know that you adore every part of me.
• I like being the receiver of breast/nipple play, cunnilingus, fingering, and penetration.
• I love being pampered in every sense of the word so my love languages will include words of affirmations, acts of service, quality time and gifts. I want to come home and have my shoes taken off, being massaged after a hard day of work would be a blessing, and I want to receive special care. Make my life easier, not harder.
• There are many things I’d like to explore… I want to try slapping my man, shoving my fingers down his throat and having him suck them, flogging him and being rough with him. His response should be “thank you!” and he should be grateful that he’s the one at the end of my heel. I would love to hear you thank me for anything and everything, especially if I’m allowing you to have the pleasure of serving me or touching yourself. You can beg but remember to act sexy when doing so. Tell me what you want and show me that you’re worthy.
• Use your words and talk dirty to me in a way that would make me wet, don’t talk to me like you’re a fuckboy. I want to hear about the things you’d like to do to service me and help me cum, without you mentioning your dick. You want to live for my pleasure and that is incredibly hot to me.
• Roleplay and cosplay would be HOT!
• I will not allow you to watch porn, entertain romantic/sexual discussions with other women (PERIOD), or do anything that a single BACHELOR would be doing. I love a man who works out and takes care of himself too, so act like you want me to consider you for the long haul. I want you to show off to me and I want you to be eye candy for me. If I say to take a selfie while doing a certain pose, then give me what I want without having to ask twice. At the end of the day you should ask yourself: Who do you belong to?
• You should be eager to do service tasks for me and figure out what would be helpful. I want a man who is able to take some control outside of the bedroom so being a provider, showing your romantic side and planning dates, opening doors for me, carrying my shopping bags, acting like you enjoy spending time with me when I do whatever I want to do, and coming along with me when I feel like exploring or trying new things.
• My Hard Limits: Blood, Diapers, Permanent Scars, Scat, Watersports

So if you made it this far and think that you can match with me, just send me a REDDIT CHAT REQUEST with answers to the following questions:

• What’s your name, age, gender, pronouns, and location?
• How would you describe yourself as a person AND a submissive man? (Please try to express yourself as best as possible here, thank you.)
• What kind of job do you have?
• Can you tell me about your hobbies and interests?
• Have you ever traveled anywhere or done something really fun somewhere?
• Do you have any previous experiences with dating, Femdom, FLR, or online dynamics?
• Would you be willing to send a selfie with you holding up a piece of paper that has MY username written on it? If so, please don’t hide your face and keep it SFW. :) Remember you want to impress me.

Here we are at my closing statement, congratulations! I’m happy you took the time to read all of this so I will share one more thing with you before telling you my expectations. I mentioned earlier that I am unhinged and I hope that you could see my personality throughout this post. lol I’m mostly joking and I wanted to get that across along the way, so either you can handle that like a champ or I’m not the one for you. It’s fine if we’re not a match! You don’t need to tell me that I sound like a bitch with high standards OR that you can’t fit XYZ criteria but still wanted to shoot your shot anyway. Just have a good day and be on your way, thank you!

LAST STOP… I will appreciate it very much if you are able to fully commit to following through with everything I want to see within your chat request! If not, then it’s for the best that you do not waste our time because I will not give second chances or explain why I've ignored your message and likely reported you to the mods as well. THIS IS NOT A CHARITY so I do NOT owe you anything if you think that I’m some kink dispenser waiting to play out your sexual fantasies. Otherwise, I will let you know if we’re not compatible if you did take the time to put effort into your message. Please respect my boundaries and do not send NSFW photos of any kind, do not call me by honorifics, and do not assume familiarity with me. We are strangers so you should not act like you’re a fuckboy trying to get in my pants in your first message to me.