Bismillah, Discover Harmony in a FLR with a Devout Muslim Dominant

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Assalaamu Alaikum/Greetings of Peace,

*I copied my previous post and made some minor edits as well.* https://imgur.com/a/Dgc4EVP

To those seeking a Nikah with a compatible person, let us be blunt, it is impossible to meet someone through a matchmaker or approach them to inquire if they are interested in a Female-Led-Relationship. The sad fact is, you would dread causing offense or being labelled a deviant within our community. 

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Under these circumstances, the only option is to…take another chance, inshallah khair! I will introduce myself: my profile name is *Lady Abyss*. Lady for wanting to signal that I need to be treated with decency, courtesy, and respect and Abyss is short for my ancestry. Inshallah, please address me as either *A* or *Lady Abyss*, thank you in advance! 

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About Me

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I am a 40-year-old devout Muslim woman, tough yet gentle, and my ideal match would be a devoted submissive, a gentleman who embraces Islam and values the principles of a Female-Led-Relationship (FLR). 

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I am a **strong-willed**, reserved, firm, compassionate, and protective woman who prays to continue to find strength in my iman. Inshallah, I pray to stay on a path where I can get closer to Allah (SwT) and observe the five pillars of Islam.

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Alhamdulillah, I live in Ontario, Canada, I am single, live with my family, have a post-secondary degree, and am happily employed. Please know that I have traditional family-oriented values and progressive social values. 

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I would describe my physical appearance as having: melanated skin, black/grey hair, brown eyes, height of 165cm, hourglass figure (weight of 211 pounds), birthmarks (many moles/dark spots - think Trills from Star Trek), and lifemarks (scars/acne/stretchmarks/smile lines/forehead sometimes has visible veins – think Klingons). Also, I wear corrective lenses and rarely wear makeup. 

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I **LOVE** being outdoors – everyday nature walks lasting from anytime I (hopefully one day, I can say **WE**) can spare to hours long, YES, please!!! I would even be happy to be outdoors when there is precipitation (except for freezing rain – lmao, who am I kidding!? I would be fine with freezing rain if I had my spikes on my boots and I took proper safety precautions – you might as well know, being out in nature and risk management are both important to me). 

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What I Seek

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Inshallah, I pray to find a devoted submissive who has respect for the teachings of Islam and is conscious that it is possible to explore dominance and submission while also remaining committed to Islam. My preferred age range would be between 30 years old to 50 years (plus or minus a couple years).

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My ideal match would lead us when it comes to our deen and salaat. Inshallah, I will take over when it comes to our relationship/home. Everything else we would need to discuss; however, *please note that I would prefer a higher level FLR*.

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The character traits that I find beautiful, mashallah, someone who is: considerate, charitable, optimistic, concerned about others, conflict avoidant, open to compromise, willing to enhance what I am attracted to physically, emotionally mature, health conscious, knowledge seeker, and financially responsible/independent. 

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Physical attributes that I find appealing, mashallah, someone who has: good posture, a bright cheerful smile, and excellent hygiene/grooming. A good fitness level and strength are attractive as well.

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I do not have any children, inshallah, I would feel blessed if I had biological children, adopted children, or stepchildren. A compatible gentleman with a child or children is not a dealbreaker. Allahu a’alam, there is no guarantee that a couple can have biological children. I pray that I find someone primarily seeking a life companion. 

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As for location, I would much prefer living in my city within Ontario, Canada (located within 800 km of Toronto, Ontario). Ideally, I would like to find someone willing to relocate; however, I am conscious that whether you find someone in this dunia and where you end up living is the Qadr of Allah (SwT). I would potentially consider relocating but it would depend on several factors. You would clearly need to explain why relocating is not a possibility for you. 

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**Dealmakers:**

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* Communicate with me in a respectful and timely manner 

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* Enjoy performing domestic acts of service such as cooking and cleaning 

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* Be kind, proactive, responsible, reliable, and safety conscious 

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* Willing to live in a pet-free home since I have severe allergies 

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* Family-oriented and keen to spend fun quality time together especially outdoors 

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* Share your ideal *D.E.W. date timeline* (how many months from dating to engagement to wedding/Nikah – *I would like to get an idea if our timelines match*)

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**Dealbreakers:** 

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* Does not care about religion 

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* Poor communication 

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* Untrustworthy, reckless, condescending, entitled, vulgar, abusive, and angers easily 

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* Judgmental of others based on their faith, identity, status, and wealth 

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* Unable to take accountability 

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* Consumed with their online activity (social media, gaming, etc.)  

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Our FLR with Islamic Values

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Inshallah, my dream is to have a monogamous Female-Led Relationship where we both respect the boundaries set by our deen. Possibly, impact play, as a form of discipline with an awareness that we mutually agreed for me to correct your behaviour in an ethical manner to motivate you to improve. We would both consent to a power exchange dynamic and ensure that we treat each other with love and mercy. 

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Sometimes my eyes glaze over in tears because I need to be loved by a gentle submissive man who is action-oriented, patient, and cares deeply about my safety, comfort, and happiness. 

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In contrast, on some occasions, I feel eager for an aggressive physical outlet. For example, I imagine myself in the role of either an enforcer on a hockey team or a defensive tackle on a football team. Depending on my urges, I would like to either rush, hip check, drive my spouse into a wall, or tackle him. I would like to stress that my goal is to be my spouse’s protector against anyone who tries to intimidate or harm him; however, I also want my spouse to be the focus of my physical intensity.

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By no means, am I 100% gentle! At the same time, I can assure you that I DO NOT want to cause you physical, emotional, or psychological harm. Under no circumstance would I consent to knowingly, break your skin, cause you to bleed, deeply bruise you, not respect your safe word, not shower you with aftercare, or degrade you for preferring to wear gender non-conforming clothing at home. 

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Inshallah, you would be my priceless gift from our creator, and I vow to do my utmost to prioritize you, make you feel seen, appreciated, secure to be vulnerable within my arms, and desired with a ferocious hunger. Without a doubt, it would be my privilege to accept your submission.

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We would also thoroughly discuss topics such as how to engage in D/s with a focus on: *Safe, Sane, and Consensual / Risk Aware Consensual Kink*. Safe words for both of us, aftercare, prioritize honest communication post-aftercare, and continue to educate ourselves on safe power exchange practices. 

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I am uncomfortable with explicit detailed intimate conversations or NSFW images outside of marriage (this is a HARD limit). **Please respect my boundaries**. It is possible to have respectful SFW conversations without graphic NSFW details. I am grateful to say that I have met wonderful gentlemen on this platform who respected my **HARD limit**.

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As vulnerable as this makes me feel, I have decided to include my *NSFW Dealmakers and Dealbreakers*, as a guide for you to verify if our NSFW inclinations are aligned. 

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NSFW after Nikah (living in our sanctuary, inshallah)

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**Dealmakers:** 

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* Service submission, Primal play, Domestic discipline, Bondage, Impact play, TPE, (TBD)

**Dealbreakers:** 

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* NOTHING Illegal, NO 3rd Party - I DO NOT SHARE, Sissification, NO Toilet play, NOTHING Public, NO recording anything NSFW, (TBD) 

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*Allahu a’alam, if you think that we may be compatible but one of my dealmakers is outside of your comfort zone, you can respectfully let me know. If you decide to respond, you can use the number 9 for yes and the number 0 for no.* 

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How to Connect

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If you are out there, my dream suitor/future - fiancé/husband/best friend/submissive/prey/little spoon/pet, please take a risk as well and reach out with a respectful and well considered response, first impressions matter. 

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Inshallah, please introduce yourself by sharing with me your understanding of Islam, your commitment to its pillars, and your openness to exploring submission within the context of our deen. 

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Write the word “Courtship” in the subject field of your response. Please confirm your religion/sect, age and location. Also, please read these articles and let me know your thoughts. 

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* [https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12063822/emotional-labor-gender-equality/](https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12063822/emotional-labor-gender-equality/)) 

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* [https://www.huffpost.com/entry/weaponized-incompetence-women\\\_l\\\_61e71983e4b0d8b665717814](https://www.huffpost.com/entry/weaponized-incompetence-women\_l\_61e71983e4b0d8b665717814)) 

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*I have difficulty reading huge blocks of text without formatting so please use spaces in between your paragraphs.*

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As a super helpful community member suggested, I downloaded/created a Feeld account today for vetting purposes. If your response is promising, inshallah, I will share a link to my Feeld profile.

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Barakallahu feek, *A*

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