Hi all! Hope youāre having a great day. :)
What Iām Looking For:
Ideally a long-term (maybe even forever!) relationship with femdom and FLR elements. Historically Iāve been a switch and used to be what I call a āprincess subā but over the years Iāve become a bit of a āPrincess Dommeā - so I have a deep understanding of both sides of the coin. I also have extensive understanding of D/s in real life long term relationships; pretty much every relationship Iāve ever been in has incorporated kink. Iām used to negotiating and balancing elements of kink with the more vanilla and everyday aspects of a romantic relationship; you should be too. Unfortunately Iāve connected with some subs who seemed to have almost exclusively online experience with Dommes, or who have compartmentalized the kink aspect of themselves so they are unused to or incapable of blending that with the realities of actual intimate partnership, and some have not been able to see their Domme as an actual human being with Her own needs and desires (and needs for pampering and soothing), rather than an on-demand kink dispenser or symbol. I am looking for something truly integrated and holistic. Iām not looking for something where I have to beg a sub/partner to dote on me, message me, be attentive, etc. You should genuinely enjoy giving pleasure, attention, and having your womanās needs and desires top of mind. This should not be 100% about your boner, which has been my complaint about some who consider themselves submissive. Remember who is who, lol. Iām looking for an actual relationship and Iām not a pro for a reason!
About Me: - Mid 30s, incredibly sexy body if you like curves (not a BBW but have both assets) - White, long hair, almond shaped eyes - Very educated and driven; cultured and sophisticated - Have been told I have an intimidation factor but also that I am incredibly down to earth - Growth oriented, emotionally intelligent - Strong communicator and negotiator - Easy laugh, fun to be around - Love bonding over food, restaurants, wine - Politically conservative
Kink Details: - I like being verbally praised and physically worshipped - Pussy worship - make me cum a zillion times - Breast and nipple play/sucking (on me) - I have really nice feet, and am happy to indulge foot fetish play, especially in a dominating sense; you take my shoes on and off - I like being pampered; my love languages are gifts, acts of service, and words of affirmation - Love JOI and orgasm control (of you), you asking Me for permission to orgasm - I like having my fingers sucked and shoving them down your throat - Dirty talk in general - Slapping you (with consent lol) - I like having you say thank you (especially for anything sexual with me, whether thatās permission to jerk off, permission to cum, or permission to have sex with me), and I like having you beg for my pussy and other sexual things; I like you proving youāre worthy - Some lifestyle control is enjoyable to me, ie: No porn, no other dommes/women, no strip clubs, making you work out often to maintain your physique, etc; sexualized possession and making you my property - Love having service tasks done for me, ie errands, groceries, cleaning, massage, meal prep - Love when a man takes some control outside of the bedroom as well, ābeing a manā - provider energy, planning dates, carrying bags, opening doors, etc; for me this is kinda vanilla but also sexy foreplay and a subtle form of public play - I like some room for vanilla sex! Letās mix it up! Ideally you donāt need a kink dynamic 100% of the time and are able to cum and enjoy sex without it - A lot of this is up for negotiation but thatās a lot of the main things Iām into
You: - Fit, some muscles or firmness = hot - 5ā11 - Open to something serious and long term coming from this; not just looking for quick and easy sexual escapades - Big dick - Look good in a suit, and can clean up well - Professional/good job - Genuinely happy to plan dates, open doors, and have an old school masculinity vibe; in a vanilla sense, you take pride in making your woman happy and satisfied and cared for - Are either a switch or subby - Arenāt sexually selfish - Arenāt looking for a kink dispenser - Arenāt the kind of sub who is intentionally incompetent or stupid/insubordinate in order to get punished. Competent subs only, no brain dead subs (itās not my thing) - Can have a wide variety of kinks; honestly I have a lot of experience with things that are freaky and unconventional so I am open minded if the dynamic feels right - HOWEVER if you want to be in sissy sub mode 100% of the time this will not work out at all - Young is ok hot IF you have your shit together, are serious, are emotionally mature, not a flake! - You do not disappear after a sexual experience or the sharing of D/s headspace - if you are disgusted with yourself and ghost/flake once you get āpost nut clarityā or shit starts to get real, please do not contact me lol! - You are not a total slave to your turn ons; you know when and how to be a normal person and can provide emotional support too!
Thank you very much for reading and good luck out there everyone šš
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