As this is a femdom personals kinda thing I focus on dominant partners within this post for simplicities sake.

This is a long post, I read a lot so I am used to typing out long texts, I basically wrote this down once and use it as a bit of a template for my posts, though I usually change it up a little for the occasion. I know that this scares off people, but if you read this and have some sort of concentration or reading problem, feel free to hit me up with an honest info about not being able to read all of this. I am fairly fine to just talk :)

Info: I am biologically male but slowly going down the MtF path, did the whole coming out stuff to family / friends, but I am at the very beginning of this path so I am fully biologically male right now with efforts to look fem, just look at my profile and decide for yourself how I look in your eyes :)

Good day to you fine people of this reddit. I hope that whichever time it is where you’re living, you’re having a somewhat acceptable, good or even great day. I’ll apologise in advance for my sometimes confusing choice of words, I primarily learned english through reading, listening to it and just general interaction, therefore I might make some errors in my choice of words. If you’re from Germany you can simply reply to me in german instead of writing in english, I’m fine with communication in both languages.

The only other, really important thing that I want to add is that I absolutely don’t care about gender, I just post in this group because I had some sad interaction with the male population so yea, maybe fems are a bit more patient? I am not good when talking about gender identity and stuff, so please give me a rough description of that if you’re something apart from old school gender identities, I don’t want to misgender people but I don’t have a personal connection to the topic so I’m not totally knowledgeable about it.

I’ll separate this post in different categories, you might want to first look if our interests match up before you decide to write me, but I hate starting with demands, just search for the part of my post that you want to read first in the following list for an easy reading experience!

The topics are: -who am I as a person apart from kink?

-kink related informations and thoughts about it

-what am I searching for (dynamic specific)

-who am I searching for?

1. Who am I as a person? Right, so generally speaking I am your somewhat average person, I wouldn’t call myself either the most intellectual, nor the most fit or the most handsome person in the world, but I am fairly confident in my skills, knowledge and appearance so there is no real insecurity on my part about who I am. I consider myself to be quite the patient person, I don’t rush into something head first, but I don’t get stressed out by fast pacing action either, this plays a huge part in my kink preferences as you’ll see later on. Besides that you gals can bet your butt (plug, heh) that I can be excited for basically anything, I love new stuff and don’t mind new experiences, this plays a huge part in my personality as I do consider myself to be someone who’s rational and fun loving. Romantically I am headed towards a consensually settled polyamorous/ monogamous dynamic (I don’t criticise), I am not an envious person and especially when talking about online or long distance stuff I totally understand the need for touch.

As for hobbies, I am 24 years old so you’ve probably guessed a preference for gaming already, I am not your average "oh I dislike the big games" type of person, I do play stuff like league, but I usually go for either story or strategy based games. While I do like gaming, I am not your biggest fan of watching shows, movies or anime, I watch all three occasionally and with others, but on my own I prefer reading a good book. That leads me to my second biggest hobby, I love reading and I have the calmness to just rest and focus my mind on a good book. The genres differ greatly, but generally speaking sci fi is my biggest book preference, old stuff like Asimov or Heinlein, but also "new stuff" like Gibson. All of this doesn’t mean I’m a "stay at home person", I enjoy hiking, I am somewhat into fitness which is required for my job and I enjoy social interaction, so I’m neither introverted nor overly focused on a certain type of living. As for music, I am fairly open to listen to everything but I have a thing for gothic, metal, industrial and blues music, older stuff like Johnny Cash, experimental stuff like Nine Inch Nails, alternative stuff like she wants revenge and the birthday massacre. Music is a big and defining part of a person in some cases and for some people, so I thought sharing it with you guys might be a good idea

As for a physical description, I don’t mind verification on my part, I might not go for a face picture first message but generally speaking I’m pretty open about myself as seen on my profile, so I’ll leave this part rather blank. The only general stuff is that I am german and look the part, greyish-blue eyes, a tad bit taller with 1.86m and as pale as you might’ve guessed with brown-blond hair. The only thing that’s not typical about my appearance is my long hair and my glasses, I do enjoy having long hair. Why you may ask? Well let’s just say that I do prefer to look feminin :)

1. kink related information (And my thoughts when talking about kink)

Alright, to the "spicy" part of this post. I dislike giving you guys a kink list and be done with it, you can probably see by the length of this post and the effort that I put into it that articulating who I am, what I want and with whom to share it is a clear part of my personal touch to this post. Let’s get started with my general sense of dynamic, I wouldn’t call myself anything other than an experimentalist, putting a label on I am as a person is not my way to go, especially not if it’s connected to kink which is a highly interpersonal experience. Roles are established by interaction, maybe you have a specific role in mind for yourself, I do believe that certain people like things a certain way yes, just not me. So just go for whichever ends up being a comfortable position for you to feel happy in, maybe you’re unsure then we’ll find your place in this together. The process of getting to know each other, building up a dynamic that suits our interaction, that’s what I am after in long term dynamics.

And yes, this means that I have a divers set of kinks depending on the person I am interacting with, I love the feeling of playing with control and care, not a specific kink and I enjoy the knowledge of trust behind submission, the gradual slide into a submissive mindset for the person submitting. Things I definitely enjoy myself are bondage because of the control over the bound person and (especially with ropes) it’s visual appearance, as well as other kinks that involve giving up control about something. I will make this as clear as possible, I dislike anything forced, this doesn’t mean that I dislike more radical kinks like blackmail , tpe, cnc, the consent part is the most important thing for me and I will not act otherwise. Just generally, my only real limits are interactions with minors, if you’re not above the age of 18 (which is the age of consent in Germany) don’t message me, I also severely dislike anything that harms a person in a irreversible way, mentally or physically, safety and validation is a big concern of mine. This means that while I am there for degradation, I only do it with someone I know, same goes for "forced" feminisation and stuff. If it’s something we discussed beforehand than it’s okay but I won’t push anything that reaches someones limits or makes me concerned for my safety. Another big no no for me is cheating without consent, if it’s agreed upon then cuck stuff can be quite alright, but no I will definitely not ruin the emotional bond between people for entertainment

Lastly, there is no financial aspect for me here, I am searching for a connection, not a wallet, nor do I want to be one myself. I don’t shame findom / finsub dynamics when they’re done right, but I am a person for connection through emotions not monetary agreements. Of course, especially when considering the possibility of tpe, at some point financial decisions might be involved, but that is something I will never push onto anyone. I hope that the given information is enough for you to paint a clear picture about who I am when talking about kink

1. what am I searching for? (Dynamic specific)

There are a number of different things that I am interested in. Hang on and don’t give up after reading the first few things. I am both searching for long and short term stuff

When talking about Germany itself I do hope to find someone to be happy with in a relationship, kink can be a huge or a small part of it, depending on the dynamic. I do have the goal of finding someone within Germany to be happy with :) But I also don’t mind kinky friends, a good friend that wants to dom sometimes, people that just need someone to be there for them.

This extends to online stuff, depending on the situation I don’t mind online agreements, preferably in Europe due to the time related issues. We’ll figure it out along the way :) So yeah, just hit me up and be open about who you are, what you’re after, let’s talk, see if we’re cool in communicating with each other

1. Now what about you?

I am not really a picky person, males, females, twinks, tomboys, femboys, non-binary, transgender, cisgender, there is nothing I am not happy with as long as we can build a connection. Physically the only real thing that’s important to me is that’s you’re healthy, please take care of your body in a healthy way or at least try to. I do have and had a lot of friends with substance abuse issues, mental issues, weight issues, I don’t mind to help but I’m not qualified to do so in any way shape or form. Same goes for mental health, you don’t need to be without any issues, but be aware of them and know how to deal with them / try to deal with them, again depression and the feeling that you’re not in the right body for your gender are things I can understand, but not cure. Just be open about these things because kink is a thing of trust and I cannot trust someone to care for me, when they can’t care for themselves. I don’t mind talking about these things, I’m just not licensed to take care of these things in a healthy way and I want that to be 100% clear

In terms of age, yea that’s a highly diverse topic. I don’t mind people above my age and under my age, just feel free to write me. The only thing I want to make sure is that you do understand (especially when being extremely older then me) that I am a 24 year old person, my personality will probably wildly different then yours. I have a very dark / insulting Humor sometimes, partially due to my personality and upbringing, partially due to my job.

Aside from these things, I respect anonymity especially when starting out, but you should be ok with sharing pictures of yourself once the trust for it has been established, especially if you want irl stuff. While visual stuff is not my biggest concern, it definitely is something I enjoy and it should be possible to trust each other eventually. I won’t be closed up about myself too, you can have pictures of me, I’ll probably talk about private stuff too, this is not kink centred for me, this is me being a human being that likes kinky stuff

And for the end:

I like talking before anything, see if we are cool with each other, have fun together. Immediately jumping into kink related stuff with me will not happen so please don’t address me as a figure of authority or a submissive to act as such in your first message. We have time, I am patient and everything can be discussed when it comes up. We can talk about kink yes, it’s important for consent and understanding each other, but just don’t expect immediate action.

And yea, all in all please be ready to read longer messages and communicate, I did take my time to formulate this post so I do hope for some honest replies :) If that’s to much, we can just call or something instead once there is enough trust to do so. But early on communication on reddit is the safest way.

Have a nice day! And I hope to hear from you people soon :)