Hello there everyone !

Who am I?

The name's Arthos (at least in the BDSM community), 35, from Lyon, France. As far as pictures go, I'll be glad to share some via PM, but I thought I'd have some fun and at least provide a harmless / funny one here, I hope you'll enjoy ;-) : https://imgur.com/a/LDoqSll

I’ve been involved in the BDSM community for several years, taking the time to truly understand and respect the different dynamics this lifestyle involves. What draws me in most is the connection, trust, and balance between partners. For me, submission is a gift—something offered to someone who knows how to appreciate it in a space of mutual respect and care. It’s a way for me to explore deeper parts of a relationship while staying true to my values and who I am.

In my day-to-day life, I’m a pretty calm and thoughtful guy. I enjoy my career, have a variety of passions, and live life on my own terms. What really attracted me to BDSM is the opportunity to create a unique bond, where the key elements are trust, communication, and shared experience. For me, submission is about giving yourself to someone and trusting them to guide you, all while keeping things authentic and based on mutual respect.

Whether I’m in a BDSM dynamic or a more "vanilla" setting, I’m always myself. I love to laugh, joke around, listen, talk, and express myself naturally—without pretending to be someone I’m not. My approach is always genuine, no matter the context, because I believe authenticity and consistency are crucial in any relationship.

What I’m looking for:

I’m looking for a partner who shares this vision—someone kind, self-aware, and who knows what they want from a relationship. Ideally, we’d have a strong connection and a sense of enjoyment together. I appreciate confident personalities—those who can take the lead but are also good listeners. I’m not interested in something fleeting; I want to create a dynamic where both of us can thrive.

At the same time (and maybe I'm wrong, who knows?) I don’t really believe in searching for the “perfect” person—it’s impossible to box people into fixed ideals when we’re all constantly growing and evolving. Instead, I’m looking for someone who intrigues me, someone who sparks my curiosity and desire. Chasing perfection is an illusion; it’s in the unexpected, the unknown, that the most meaningful connections are found.

More details?

As I mentioned before, I live inside of Lyon (not the suburb or anything). I personally believe it's one of the most beautiful cities in France and I'm glad to be able to live here. Regarding my personal life (it's good to be clear about these things from the get go imo): I'm not living with anyone at the moment. I own a modern, comfortable apartment, and am completely independant.

I speak French fluently, as expected (since it's my native language) but speaking English is absolutely not a problem for me, quite the contrary (I will probably never be able to reach the level of fluency that a native has, but I do enjoy the language ;-)

Thank you very much to everyone who read this post, and I wish you all a very happy BDSM journey !!!