Here's a very informative post because I'm very serious about finding the right person for me. I've clearly marked and categorized everything for your viewing pleasure.

What brings me to reddit for dating: I've used online dating some for about 4 years now. It is quite difficult to find a girl from hinge or IRL that is into FLR/Femdom in my experience. Maybe its just the way I look, but definitely tend to attract more subby women. After experimenting with different aspects, I think a FLR is the only way I can be happy. And the best way is here as we are all looking for (mostly) the same thing :)

Age: 33, open to really any age. I feel older I tend to be attracted to more as they are more serious and know what they want. But definitely open to younger. I’m less about age, more about attraction/maturity.

Appearance: 5'10", Short brown hair, Brown eyes, white skin, Fit body type. Usually have a mustache and some scruff (negotiable) and I do workout 3-4x a week and like to stay "fit". I have tattoos. I have a full sleeve and working on a leg sleeve (please help decide what tattoos to get). My style is best described as an elder hipster. I've been told I'm fairly handsome. I am happy to share some pictures of me - just ask!

Location: Currently in Ohio, but moving to Chicagoland in 2-3 months (perfect timing to get to know each other). I work remotely, and decided to move to be closer with work (still have opportunity to work remotely). I prefer someone in Chicago, but open to longer distance. Don't want to keep it only online, and would like to meet IRL, but to start online is great :)

Looking For: A mutually loving and caring relationship with a partner and best friend in one. I feel that what I'd like the most in life is to find someone very special to me, who I can love with all my heart and spend my life with. Not really looking for a "domme", but a real relationship with some gentle femdom/role reversal elements.

Traits I want in a partner: Kind, loving, trustworthy, understanding. Good sense of humor, emotionally intelligent, communicates well. I wouldn't ask for anything I don't freely give you.

Non-sexual interests: I really am into working out, paddleboarding, going to live shows (punk, indie, folk), going out to eat, traveling, playing video games (lots of RPG's, currently playing Witcher 3 on my PS5), and playing with my two dogs (just ask for pictures :)) I also love listening to music and also audiobooks.

Love a good HBO show (Game of Thrones, True Detective, Succession) and could probably go on for hours about theories for Game of Thrones and lore surrounding it. Also very big into mental health, and big believer in therapy (My therapist is great).

Personality: I'm a very driven person and ambitious. I'm a successful and young engineer who has had a lot of success personally. When I'm not working, I can be very introverted and like my "quiet time". I am very personable and have a knack for getting people to like me. I believe in a relationship clear communication can solve most things.

Fun facts: I can play the ukelele and if asked will play you a song (if you don't judge my horrible singing voice)

Sexual stuff

Are you fully sub or a switch?: Probably a strongly sub leaning switch, although I'm not terribly sure about the particular category I'd fit into. I find being the submissive (but reciprocal) partner to be most fulfilling by far.

Are you just sexually sub or enjoy nonsexual aspects as well?: I enjoy both sexual and nonsexual aspects, although my particular tastes might be unusual to those with harder femdom interests. I'm perfectly happy being your adoring subby boyfriend even in public, in case you're into PDA and flaunting that aspect of our relationship.

Sexual (and relationship) interests: I'm fairly new to a lot of things, so this isn't an exhaustive list. I'm very open minded and willing to try most things once, even if I think it wont work for me. I'm also more than happy to try and indulge your interests, so feel free to message me and talk to me about what you like too!

• Role reversal/gentle femdom are the big favorites! I enjoy having a partner that's assertive/aggressive/possessive in a romantic/sexual capacity. One who enjoys initiating intimacy and sex, and hugging/kissing/touching/groping me throughout the day for example.
• I'm perfectly happy with displays of affection and you taking the lead, whether that's holding me tightly in public and being a bit territorial, whispering in my ear that I belong to her and no one else, or proposing to me and putting a ring on my finger. I'd be quite happy with the prospect of being a house husband who handles the home stuff, and I can also make you a sandwich from time to time!
• Pegging, prostate massaging, and penis/prostate milking. Although my experience is a bit limited, I'm intensely curious about it.
• Continuing on the possessive aspect, it's really very flattering for me to see someone desire me so much and be possessive over me. I'm very happy to show my devotion even to the point of wearing a collar for you. So if you're a semi-yandere girl who enjoys that kind of dynamic, I think you'll like me a lot. Just make sure to treat me well!
• Kissing/licking/biting (both giving and receiving) are massive favorites. Lipstick marks and hickeys all over my body are a huge turn on, and definitely makes me feel like I belong to you. I'm very into the idea of putting my lips and tongue all over.
• Cuddling, being held, holding you, affection, spending time together, adoring you, seeing you be happy, sexually pleasing you. I love casual and emotional intimacy, and I'm extremely loyal and affectionate once I get attached to someone. You will be my favorite person ever and your happiness/enjoyment will always be as important as my own. I'll always be there to support you, and seeing that I made the difference for you is incredibly satisfying for me.
• I'm open to chastity as well, but not necessarily needed

Hard limits (non exhaustive): Scat, pee, blood, getting punched in the balls, cuckolding, , permanent injuries, physical torture

Partner preferences: I'm a big fan of goth/alt/tomboy looks. Short hair is a very big plus, somewhere between pixie and neck length. But these aren't explicitly dealbreakers! As long as I find you attractive then it works for me.

Dealbreakers/Requirements: Similar interests are a requirement for me. Being able to enjoy my favorite things with my favorite person is something I want dearly in a relationship. PLEASE DON'T BE A SOCIOPATH, OR ACT LIKE ONE.