Hello hello. I'm going to do my best to make this more organized rather than throwing words at you. Hopefully it works.

Let's start with me. I'm 31F on the East Coast of the US. I'm a white, plus sized woman with brown hair and eyes, tattoos, and I'm willing to send SFW selfies early on into a conversation as long as you are as well. Let's not pretend attraction isn't important to the both of us. I'm a teacher and a student, currently working towards my MS. Changing fields has been tougher than I had expected but I'll figure it out, because I always figure it out. I'm a parent, homeowner, and functional adult but even so I have my hot mess express moments. Don't we all?

I write as a hobby, written roleplay specifically. I collect tattoos but currently only go twice a year because grad school is expensive and so is my tattoo artist. Nothing good ever comes cheap, they say. I'm a bit of an introvert but can be quite chatty once I get to know someone. I like random history knowledge, discussing the ins and outs of society, movies, music, and I'm thriving in this fall weather with my pumpkin scented everything. I am a parent as well. I'm also very into learning new things so if you have a hobby/skillset I don't have, I would enjoy dabbling in that and learning more about you and it. I'm a big fan of sending music I like to someone and hearing music they enjoy, as well as memes, gifs, TikToks, a picture of a something cool I saw and wanted to show you...I just like talking to people lol.

I'm not going to write anything too in depth regarding kinks here because we can discuss that privately, but here's a little word bank to help you know if we may be compatible: power exchange, JOI, ruining, possession, ANR, pegging, light humiliation, light degradation, praise, acts of service, tasks, rules, spanking/slapping, light bondage, blindfolds, overstimulation...of course there's more, but I think that should give a good enough idea. I am not particularly sadistic, but moreso strict in expectation. Begging is fun but it probably won't get you very far.

On the flip side, here's some limits: feminization, hypno, littles, brats, blood, anything illegal, anything that would lead to social/professional ruin.

I have been told I'm bossy and I don't mind being that. Things just always seem to go more smoothly when they go my way. This doesn't mean you're not allowed thoughts and feelings, on the contrary I would very much like to hear them. I place a lot of value on my partner as well as the power they entrust me with, and their wellbeing is extremely important to me.

And now, about you. Physically, I'm attracted to masculine appearing men. This doesn't have to mean any specific physique but moreso in the way you look overall and carry yourself. I am not attracted to feminine men or the feminization of men, because submission does not have to inherently be feminine. (Don't get me started, I have so many theories of submission and dominance in society lol) Aside from that I find a wide variety of people attractive so I wouldn't say I have a "type".

If any of this sounds like you, we may get along very well. Ideally you're service oriented. You like doing things to please others, even on the smallest level. You like being valued and your opinion being considered in the decision making process, but knowing that ultimately it's up to me. You like the idea of a relationship seeming very stereotypical to the outside world but then coming home and knowing that you leave those expectations the world may have of you at the door. You're competent in life and capable of making decisions, you'd just rather not. You're open to something long term if the vibes are suited for that and willing to relocate if things become that serious. You'd like to have daily tasks and rules, arbitrary or otherwise. You listen, very well. You're mature, healed enough from past trauma to be emotionally available, and an open communicator.

I sort of feel like I'm rambling and that this has all made me come across as much more serious than I am. We're both more than our perspective roles in a dynamic and I'd like to get to know you as a person before anything else.

If you've made it this far and you're interested in reaching out, please do. And if you're not sure what to say when you do reach out, maybe it would help you to tell me one thing you want/require from a dominant partner and why.

I look forward to hearing from you 🙂