Hi howdy! Tired of being treated like a kink dispenser? Worried that femdom so often still centres male pleasure? Want a relationship with a sub where you're both real, complex and flawed people and you're permitted to be as such? Then perhaps I can help!

What I offer: All my biggest kinks flow from a desire for my partner's pleasure and happiness, with maybe a little selfish desire for them to mockingly rub that in, as a treat. I'm a nerdy golden-retriever type, keen for a mistress to worship and serve, but also do geeky and/or fun vanilla things with, have deep discussions with, and shop for new furniture together. Oh, and the 'and serve' bit totally includes me doing the dishes and hoovering! Outside of kink, I work for a cinema, and in my free time, I do creative sci fi things (I paint miniatures, write stories, play computer games, etc). Intellectual interests include, politics, morality/ethics, psychology, sociology, and other aspects of human nature. I have a broad taste in music, but metal is my favourite. Physically, I'm sad to say that I am big, burly, and masculine, despite the fashion for petite and girly malesubs and my own gender identity. I can still be pretty, though! I'm naturally affectionate and supportive, and I really want to be someone's personal cheerleader.

Who I'm loking for: This is a difficult one, as I'm honestly attracted to many tyes of woman - I think there are a lot of ways a woman can be beautiful and/or impressive. There *are* bonus points for being gothically inclined, but again, not neccesary. XD Looks, race, nationality etc, not really a concern. The only really mandatory components are pretty general to many kinds of people: Patient/kind, not afraid to communicate your needs and concerns, intelligent, not afraid of touch. I'd like us to share some sort of hobby or interest, this can be any of the above. Obviously I'm trans (AMAB), so being bisexual is also a boon, but I don't think it's really neccesary, as I'm not planning any medical transitions.

Relationship criteria/boundaries: My age range is imprecise, but tends to be about 7 above, 10 below (I can go older and younger for brief relationships), with the closer to mine the better. A basic level of emotional maturity and expectations of the realities of life is a must. I don't expect/am not looking for a perfect match, because I'm honestly not sure that exists, but there are a few deal breakers: scat, blood, men, involving other parties without their consent, people who remind me too much of my mother, and Tories. We might also have to work through differences of opinion about Star Wars and Star Trek. I also work hard to improve myself, including my physical health (This is not a part of my personality per se, just a goal), so people who feel like that's a waste of time or would otherwise reinforce my bad habits would not be good for me! Long distance is OK temporarily, but I need something personal and touch-based in the long run - the sooner we're able to go for a coffee the better (I have been single and let down too many times to play games these days)! For non-monogamy, I could never be just one in a harem, or polycule, etc, but if we're in a committed FLR and you want to sleep with other people, I'm happy with that - I do have a bit of a cuckoldry kink. :-)

If any of that sounds like your sort of thing, message me with what you'd like from me, what your interests are, what tickled your fancy in this post, what kinks you want to undertake with me, and anything else you'd like to know about me! I don't bite! (But you can, if you like. ;-) )

Picture - Me listening intently to you telling me about your day/problems.
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