Hey there :)

I've found recently how well I respond to gentle or "Mommy Domme" energy. I don't know what it is, but the combination of gentle care and genuine interest mixed with the right amount of strictness and naughtiness is really something special. To be clear, I don't have any specific affinity to the "mommy" word but I think the idea of a "mommy domme" really captures the energy that I'm drawn to. So it's okay if you're not explicitly a "mommy domme" and also if you are!

I'd really like to explore that with someone and see where we can go together! I've never had a domme in person (only online) so I have to imagine that there will be a learning curve so hopefully you're patient and willing to guide me :)

I think what's really important to me is not having any cruelty involved. Like don't get me wrong, I think we can get up to a lot of dirty/naughty things together but I would like the experience to always be in a positive light. Without any specific examples but to maybe explain that point better, if you took the same submissive act with a domme who is harsh/degrading/cruel I wouldn't be interested, but with a domme who's gentle/positive/encouraging I would probably do the thing and probably beyond to try to please them. Like I mentioned above, it's really the energy that I respond best to so hopefully I can find someone that I vibe with. Ideally in the dynamic there isn't a "superior." We should be equal partners the whole way through, despite who's in control at any given time.

I don't really have any kinks in specific to list. Although I do have things I enjoy, what I really enjoy more is knowing what my partner wants and being able to give that to them, especially if it means pushing myself beyond the boundaries that I thought I had. What really drives me is a woman's pleasure, so it's incredibly important to me that I'm able to please/entertain/fulfill my partner.

In terms of the dynamic I'm looking for, I would heavily prefer something in person as opposed to online (if we hit it off but don't live close to each other I'm open to something online -- but that is a separate discussion). So ideally you're somewhere in the South Los Angeles/NorthWest Orange County area. I am monogamous and expect my partner to be as well. I would like this to be something that becomes a full-blown/long-term relationship, but I might be open to something closer to FWB/session based if it feels right. It's my view that submission is as much of a gift as domination and I expect to have to earn your domination in the same way I want you to earn my submission. I'm demisexual so the process of getting to know each other is very important to me. I'm also sapiosexual so if you can talk nerdy to me also then I'll melt in your hands...

I suppose I should probably mention at some point that I am also a switch, and previously I've advertised myself as such but I think I'm more sub-leaning these days but may be interested in being a dom here and there, if you're open to it (My form of being a dom is effectively the same as me being a sub just switching the genders haha). It's by no means a requirement for you to be a switch so no worries if that's not interesting to you!

Outside of kink, I'm an engineer for work, and outside of work I like reading (sci-fi/fantasy), playing video games, cooking, watching science-y youtube, etc. In terms of physical appearance, I'm white, 6'3", clean shaven, short hair, and mostly HWP (a few pounds to lose). As much as I wish it wasn't, physical attraction is important so before we get too far in to things I'd like to exchange (SFW) pictures just to make sure we vibe.

I know that the way I'm submissive and the domme I'd like to find aren't the most "stereotypical" forms of domme/sub, so I understand I'm very much trying to find a needle in a haystack, but I am who I am.

But if you made it this far, thanks so much for reading! Feel free to reach out and chat if you want, I always enjoy meeting new people and even if we don't hit it off I think I always learn and grow from everyone I meet so don't be afraid to say hi (although please say more than just hi...)