About Me

I'm a lifestyle domme in a 24/7 TPE dynamic with my primary sub. Dominance is a natural part of who and how I am. That said, that said, I am also very a human, I have hobbies and all that jazz, and I'm very happy to have a chat about most topics.

When I can find the time, I write assorted things, including a D/s themed blog. If you're curious, feel free to have a read.

Friends

Over the years, I have made a few genuinely good IRL friends from this subreddit and I am am always looking for worthwhile people to be friends with.

I am after interesting, curious humans, who have a range of interests and developed opinions. If you have a butterfly mind and love an internet rabbit hole, we will probably get on.

Please do skip small talk - include a conversation starter and tell me about about your expertise, pet peeves, controversial opinion or, in fact, your latest internet rabbit hole in your opening message.

(Although no politics please, because that is not a fun start... To anything, really. I am also banning the nature of free will and the future of AI because that is more existential than I'm willing to stomach on a Sunday).

That said, if you are interested in friendship, I would just ask you do include your name, age, and a conversation starter in an opening message.

I do wish I could get back to everyone, but I'm afraid to reply to all the 'hey wanna be friends' messages which land in my inbox would be a full time job.

Subs

I'm also looking for a sub or switch, male or female, for secondary dynamics, possibly with a view to exploring a variety of double scenarios with my primary sub.

I am looking to get to know someone to this end, to build a dynamic with - I am not looking to slot someone into a pre-existing fantasy.

Above all, I am looking for someone who can interest me, for whom conversation is something enjoyable, rather than an unfortunately necessary chore.

If you would like to be considered, please read this post carefully and in it's entirety. And above all else, don't bore me.

What I'm looking for:

• Someone who can interest me. Include a topic of conversation in the opening message - as above, tell me about your expertise, pet peeve or controversial opinion, or latest Internet rabbit hole. Tell me something I don't know, start a debate, share a fun fact (but no politics, please). Messages which don't meet this requirement will mostly likely be ignored.
  
• Experience is preferred, sense of humour is required. If it's absurdist, all the better. If Terry Pratchett or Douglas Adams is your cup of tea, we will probably get on. Ideally, someone who doesn't take life too seriously.
• Correct spelling and grammar is appreciated.
• Please be aged 23-35ish.
• Scope for irl meeting - I am not looking for online play. Please note I do however like to talk to people for quite some time before meeting and / or voice. Risk management and all that.

Physically, I prefer boys with a slim / slim athletic build, but appearance is not overly high up on my list of priorities (other than being generally well kempt).

You may include a clothed photo if you so wish.

I am after power exchange and control, so I am not after any act in particular - dominance and submission are mental far more than they are physical and D/s is reactionary. What I want to do depends on the person, the context, my mood and so on.

Here's a non-exhaustive list of some things I like:

• Any form of power exchange, including tasks, restrictions, rules, protocol etc
• Bondage, (especially shibari) particularly creative applications, like predicaments; gags, restraint in general
• Sensory deprivation and prolonged bondage
• Humiliation and degradation (specific to the person)
• CNC (given the appropriate degree of trust)
• Service submission

Masochism is preferred. For those so inclined, I also enjoy:

• All forms of impact play (caning, flogging, paddling, etc)
• All manner of clamps, pegs, ziplines etc.
• Emotional sadism in all its diverse forms

My limits: anything illegal, scat, age play, any actively animal-like pet play, sissification.

Questions

If you have a general 'how do I kink question' please refer to the wikis on r/femdomcommunity or r/BDSMAdvice for some resource recommendations.

Just to pre-empt the most commonly asked question, being dominant is a part of who and how I am, it's not something I 'got into'.

Also, I don't have a favourite kink, food, board game, book... favourite anything, really. It depends on my mood, the context, and so on. I don't get how I people can pick just one of anything.

How to write an introductory message - a helpful guide

DO:

• read this post;
• introduce yourself - tell me your name and age;
  
• include a conversation topic;
• ask specific questions you would genuinely like answers to;
• give your message (at least a quick) spell check and proof read;
• organise any longer messages into paragraphs;
• send me a message using Reddit chat - I usually don't reply to comments or DMs.

DO NOT:

• address me as 'Mistress' or by any other honorific;
• just write 'hey' or variants thereof;
• ask if you can be my sub (spoiler: if you're asking, the answer is a resounding 'no');
• say you'd 'love to get to know me' and include no conversation starter or questions or information about yourself (this happens surprisingly often);
• copy / paste your generic 'send to all dommes' message (I can tell);
• list all of your kinks;
• ask me how I 'got into' being a domme (see above in this post);
• list all your physical characteristics in excruciating detail;
• list explicit fantasies; or
• include dick pics; or
• use Chat GPT to write your opening message for you (seriously, the point of all of this is human connection, why on earth does anyone think this is a good idea).

Please use the chat function. I will not reply to DMs.

If you've messaged me before and didn't get a reply, you are by all means welcome to give it another go. Don't necessarily take it personally - my inbox does get chaotic and I don't always get through the chat invites I get.

Well written messages do stand out, so please do read my post carefully and keep that in mind.

A note on ghosting

As have been doing this for quite a number of years, I have had a number of seemingly good prospects disappear on me, which I would like to address in this slightly odd note. I will probably do a longer write up on this soon.

If I have invited you off Reddit and we have had a good and extensive conversation, spanning several weeks, but you disappeared on me at some point, I would just like to say, I don't take it personally.

Don't get me wrong - it's irritating, especially given it is really quite uncessary, as well as somewhat cowardly and inconsiderate. Particularly given that whatever identity crisis, flood of cognitive dissonance, insecurity, or over thinking is going on in your head, I have seen it, dealt with it and bought the T shirt.

Just use your words like a grown up. If you no longer wish to have a conversation, no worries - just let me know.

That said, I am well aware it often takes time for submissive men to come to terms with who they are and it's not an easy process. So, if you have matured, reflected and want to attempt to show me that, I'm leaving the door open just a crack here.

Best, Rosalie x