About Me

Age and Location (or continent, or time zone):
32 years old, located in the Netherlands, originally from east Europe.

Interests, hobbies, and SFW passions:
I’m passionate about stories, spirituality, and philosophy. I have a deep interest in human behavior, and I also enjoy gaming. Recently, I bought a Bambu A1 3D printer to dive into 3D printing. I go to the gym regularly and occasionally do shadow boxing. I love a good spa day, spending time in nature, and being outdoors.

Current work or education or projects:
I work as a software engineer and have a background in computer science. I’m also working on a personal project that I’m extremely passionate about.

Height, weight, body type information:
I’m 1.93m tall, weigh 81 kg, and have a slim, lightly muscled build.

My Ideal Domme

Age range (upper and lower):
30-40 years old.

Location:
Preferred location is the Netherlands, but I’m open to starting online.

Body type / height / weight:
I’m open to different body types, but I have a preference for those who are on the slimmer side, similar to my own body type. Of course, curvy women are also welcome, but the key is a healthy visual look. In terms of height, someone around my height or slightly shorter (1.70m to 1.85m) would be ideal, but the connection is most important.

Personality traits:
I’m looking for someone who is gentle, affectionate, kind, and sweet, but also extremely strict when it comes to setting and enforcing rules. I value a domme who can impose structure, give punishments when necessary, and offer rewards when I’m obedient.

Physical traits:
Confidence is key. I’m attracted to a domme who can truly dominate me with her voice, presence and demeanor.

Preferred domme style(s):
Gentle domination with a strict side. I’m looking for someone who can balance care with control, guiding me with a firm yet nurturing hand.

My Femdom Preferences

My favourite kinks:

• Identity Play: Immersing myself in different roles and personas to deepen the power dynamic.
• Mental Bondage: Being psychologically restrained and controlled, allowing you to shape and dictate my actions and thoughts.
• Serving and Obeying: I thrive in a dynamic where I can fully submit and be guided by your commands.
• Sensory Deprivation: Heightening my other senses and intensifying the experience by limiting my sight or hearing.
• Orgasm Control and Edging: I’m particularly drawn to orgasm control, especially edging. While I have experience in this area, I’m looking for a domme who can push my limits and play with me to the edge, taking control of my pleasure and denying release over and over until it’s truly earned by me being a good boy.

My hard limits:

• Blood Play: No activities involving cutting or drawing blood.
• Scat Play: No activities involving feces.
• Permanent Marks: No activities that might leave lasting marks, such as heavy bruising or tattoos.
• Needle Play: No activities involving needles or other sharp objects.

Preferred d/s style(s):
I prefer a dynamic that balances both nurturing care and strict discipline. I thrive in a relationship where there is a strong emotional connection, with guidance and affection, while also respecting firm rules and boundaries. The ability to shift between gentle control and strict enforcement depending on the situation is I think key to creating a fulfilling and dynamic power exchange.

Previous d/s experience(s):
I’m completely new to D/s dynamics, but I’m eager to explore and learn with the right partner. I’m open-minded and willing to take guidance from someone experienced who can help me grow into my role as a submissive.

Available toys and equipment:
I currently have a small collection of toys, including a prostate plug, vibrating cock ring, chastity cage (though I’m prepared to purchase a better-fitting one when needed), gag ball, feather tickler, slapping stick, blindfold, and cock rings. I’m open to expanding my collection and exploring new toys with the right guidance.

Other preferences or information:
I’m looking for a domme who can lead me deeply into this dynamic, guiding me as I explore and push my boundaries. While I want to start gradually to build trust, my ultimate goal is to experience a strong sense of mental bondage and extreme devotion to my domme. I crave to be owned, dictated, and ruled by someone who understands the power of a mental connection, someone who enjoys crafting a dynamic where control and care go hand in hand. I need someone who can take control and lead me firmly, helping me grow into the submissive role and exploring the full potential of our dynamic.

Next Steps

How to contact:
Feel free to DM me here on Reddit.

Verification requirements:
I’m happy to verify via sending a timestamped photo, video call, or whatever.

Likely response time:
I usually respond the same day, but sometimes it might take me a bit longer depending on my activities.