About Me

I'm a lifestyle domme in a 24/7 TPE dynamic with my primary sub. Dominance is a natural part of who and how I am. That said, that said, I am also very a human, I have hobbies and all that jazz, and I'm very happy to have a chat about most topics.

In fact, I am a terminally curious sort of person - I am yet to be bored by someone talking about something they're really passionate about. I read whatever is to hand and I have a very wide assortment of random knowledge.

When I can find the time, I write assorted things, including a D/s themed blog. If you're curious, feel free to have a read.

Friends

I am am always looking for worthwhile people to be friends with. Over the years, I have made a few genuinely good IRL friends from this subreddit and so I'm yet again throwing out this fish hook out into kinky waters.

I am after interesting, curious humans, who have a range of interests and developed opinions. If you have a butterfly mind and love an internet rabbit hole, we will probably get on.

Please do skip small talk - include a conversation starter and tell me about about your expertise, pet peeves, controversial opinion or, in fact, your latest internet rabbit hole in your opening message (although no politics please, because that is not a fun start... To anything, really).

That said, if you are interested in friendship, I would just ask you get some substance into an opening message. I do wish I could get back to everyone, but I'm afraid to reply to all the 'hey wanna be friends' messages which land in my inbox would be a full time job!

Kink Things

I'm also looking for a sub or switch, male or female, who would be open to exploring a variety of double scenarios with my primary sub. I am looking to get to know someone to this end, to build a dynamic and friendship with - I am not looking to slot someone into a pre-existing fantasy.

What I'm looking for:

• I am looking for someone who can interest me. Include a topic of conversation in the opening message - as above, tell me about your expertise, pet peeve or controversial opinion. Tell me something I don't know, start a debate, share a fun fact. Messages which don't meet this requirement will mostly likely be ignored.
  
• Experience is preferred, sense of humour is required. If it's absurdist, all the better. If Terry Pratchett or Douglas Adams is your cup of tea, we will probably get on.
• Correct spelling and grammar is appreciated.
• Please be aged 23-35ish.
• Scope for irl meeting - I am not looking for online play. I do however like to talk to people for quite a while before meeting and / or voice. Risk management and all that.

Physically, I prefer a slim / athletic build, but appearance is not high up on my list of priorities (other than being generally well kempt).

I am after power exchange and control, so my exact preferences vary depending on an individual's 'buttons'. Dominance and submission are mental far more than they are physical.

My limits: anything illegal, scat, age play, any actively animal-like pet play, sissification.

D/s is reactionary, so I don't have a favourite kink / fetish. It depends on the person, the context, my mood and so on. Here's a non-exhaustive list:

• Any form of power exchange, including tasks, restrictions, rules, protocol etc
• Bondage, (especially shibari) particularly creative applications, like predicaments; gags, restraint in general
• Sensory deprivation and prolonged bondage
• Humiliation and degradation (specific to the person)
• CNC (given the appropriate degree of trust)
• Service submission

Masochism is appreciated. For those so inclined, I also enjoy:

• All forms of impact play (caning, flogging, paddling, etc)
• All manner of clamps, pegs, ziplines etc.
• Emotional sadism in all its diverse forms

Questions

If anyone has any specific kink-related questions, whether you're a newbie or a veteran with a rant to share - feel free to message me. I'm always up for an interesting conversation.

If you have a general 'how do I kink question' please refer to the wikis on r/femdomcommunity or r/BDSMAdvice for some resource recommendations.

Just to pre-empt the most commonly asked question, being dominant is a part of who and how I am, it's not something I 'got into'.

Also, I don't have a favourite kink, food, board game, book... favourite anything, really. It depends on my mood, the context, and so on. I don't get how I people can pick just one!

How to write an introductory message - a helpful guide

DO:

• read this post;
• introduce yourself - tell me your name and age;
  
• include a conversation topic;
• ask specific questions you would genuinely like answers to;
• give your message (at least a quick) spell check and proof read;
• organise any longer messages into paragraphs;
• send me a message using Reddit chat - I usually don't reply to comments or DMs.

DO NOT:

• address me as 'Mistress' or by any other honorific;
• just write 'hey' or variants thereof;
• ask if you can be my sub (spoiler: if you're asking, the answer is a resounding 'no');
• say you'd 'love to get to know me' and include no conversation starter or questions or information about yourself (this happens surprisingly often);
• copy / paste your generic 'send to all dommes' message (I can tell);
• list all of your kinks;
• ask me how I 'got into' being a domme (see above in this post);
• list all your physical characteristics in excruciating detail (I really don't care about the size of any part of your anatomy);
• list explicit fantasies; or
• include dick pics; or
• use Chat GPT to write your opening message for you (seriously, the point of all of this is human connection, why on earth does anyone think this is a good idea).

Please use the chat function. I will not reply to DMs.

If you've messaged me before and didn't get a reply, you are by all means welcome to give it another go. Don't necessarily take it personally - my inbox does get chaotic and I don't get through the chat invites I get. Well written messages do stand out, so please do read my post carefully.