hello there! i'm currently looking for to make genuine connections, with the possibility that it grows into something more. (my goal ultimately is to find my life partner just to give you an idea of my intentions)

i'm not looking to immediately jump into a serious relationship, first i'm looking for somebody i can connect with. i hope to find somebody i can feel that safety with and have a warm connection with. I'm looking for a genuine connection with kink not being a primary factor for our connection. (please don't message me if you're primarily or only interested in the kink aspect of this possible connection) I'd like to refrain from diving into kink or a relationship out of the gate (for the long-term health of the possible relationship) and would prefer slower build up of trust and love first and foremost. While I'm looking for a life partner in the long run, I want to start as friends and only continue further if it's something we both feel is right.

Things I look for:

Some traits/things I find myself attracted to (but are not necessarily requirements) are: selective kindness (being more gentle or kind with me than to others), emotional stability, emotional intelligence, humility or at least somewhat being open-minded (I hate egoists), and an affectionate/supportive mindset.

Generally I've been struggling with loneliness. I know I have people who care and are there for me but I don't feel comfortable with anybody that I know currently to be vulnerable with. I'm really looking for somebody who I can feel vulnerable with and not feel judged as I do with most people. I often feel misunderstood, and it feels risky to confide myself in most people. I know I have people, but oftentimes I don't feel like it's not what I need (e.g. comfort, affirmations) which sometimes ultimately just leads to me crying alone. I hope to find a connection where I feel safe. I want to note that I'm not looking for somebody to trauma dump on, I genuinely seek a two-way connection where I want to provide value, and I'd love to be there for you when you have troubles too.

Here are some things about me which may or may not be important to you.

Physical: Half Chinese half Viet 5'11'', black hair generally medium length. I have dark brown eyes, glasses, with an average weight profile with an ever so slightly lean towards chubby more than skinny.

Personality: I think if you wanted to oversimplify my personality, I'd say I'm like a loyal, affectionate, energetic, but insecure puppy. But that's an oversimplification, there's a lot of things peculiar about me. (ESFP if that helps) I'd like to think that I'm a relatively kind and understanding person, and I try to have good intent when it comes to life, but everyone is capable of both good and evil, and I am no exception. I generally give off soft boy vibes but I try not to be a pushover. generally super soft, empathetic, and caring. when i get excited about things, i tend to get loud/hyper without realizing it (it's something i'm somewhat insecure of) i'm a very understanding person sometimes to a fault. generally i'm on the lower end of self-esteem/confidence, but I actively attend therapy which has helped me come a long way. While I wouldn't consider myself emotionally unstable, I do think it's important to note that I'm relatively feminine for a guy and I am more prone to mood swings.

Hobbies/interests: I'll keep this relatively short and you can find out more by talking to me, but generally some things I find myself enjoying are games (I've played too many to count and I'm open to new genres but generally all of my favorite games have been 1. multiplayer and 2. team-based, with some exceptions im sure), I enjoy anime (some of my favorite genres are: fantasy, romance, slice of life, action), tech-related hobbies / pc peripherals (real nerd shit). I also take interest in things like fashion/anything self expression.

Kink/Femdom part: I do have a lean towards gentle femdom, but I still very much enjoy typical femdom. My main love languages are probably words of affirmation and quality time to give you an idea of me (with physical touch probably coming in third). i do NOT like anything extreme or humiliation/degradation related and I'm not looking for a power dynamic or any full control type of relationship, I'm not entirely opposed to experimenting but generally our value and how we both view each other should be equal.

A warning/disclaimer that I feel the need to disclose is that I feel like I'm progressing (relatively) slow in life. I'm 23, but I'm unemployed and still live with mom, though I have been applying for many jobs. I'm doing my best to attain financial independence but I'm moving slower than a lot of people because of depression and such. I'm optimistic that I'll get there eventually, but honestly I'm still somewhat ashamed of my progress.

Thank you for reading all of this, if you have any questions about anything at all please don't hesitate to message me! Even the questions you might think are "weird" I promise I won't think they are. Regardless whether it's me or not, I hope you have a lovely rest of your day and good luck on your search.