Reposting my previous ad here, I deleted a lot of messages marked "sensitive or offensive" by Reddit while they might be harmless

I moved to NYC around three years ago and started dating more seriously since the beginning of last year. I've found that I may be too kinky for the average Hinge users and too relationship-leaning and monogamous for Feeld. Since it’s hard to find people who can get on the same wavelength and start from a great conversation, I'm posting here in search of potential connections.

About me: I'm a 29-year-old woman based in Midtown West. I came to the States from Asia for grad school and stayed here for the tech industry. I'm very career-driven but still manage to socialize & spend quality time with close friends. In my spare time, I enjoy creating art, working out (swimming and some weight training), exploring the events happening in NYC, whether it's a concert, stand-up show, meetup, or just interesting museum exhibitions.

I'm 5'7" 134lbs and would describe myself as lean/semi-athletic. I also have pretty big eyes and a young-looking face, which used to make some peor comment "you don't look like a Dom to me" a years ago, but thankfully as I mastered the resting bitch face and upgraded my closet, those comments have disappeared :)

What I'm looking for: Ultimately, something long term—a boyfriend who knows what he's about, shares professional passions, and can engage in great conversations beyond just kinks. But building something long-term and meaningful takes time, so I'm not in a rush.

I'm looking for single, emotional available and monogamous guys based in NYC area, and in their late 20s to early 30s (similar mindset and stage of life) And politically I'm looking for people who are NOT right-leaning. Besides that maybe I do have a preference for clean-cut twunks with great attires?

I'm also a very private person so not really interested in participating in the kink scene, if it works for you amazing but we probably wouldn't be a good match!

Kink-wise, here's what l'm into: • Taking control: I enjoy wearing my everyday outfit while my partner is naked, or wearing specific clothes for role play. I like to think of this dynamic as the artist and the canvas. • Chastity • Pegging (non-negotiable :) • Fisting (extreme for some, so optional) • Spanking • While not a preference, I do enjoy making serious-looking people crack. • Communication and mutual respect most importantly

Again it's not my intention to make purely sexual conversations, just want to be honest about what I like.

If you've read this far, thank you! Since this is an anonymous platform and there's barely anything I can find out about a person from an account, l'd ONLY consider replying if you can provide a detailed introduction about yourself. safe for work photos are welcome so that I can put a face to the name.

If you straight up call me goddess/mistress/mommy, etc, I'll block you. this also applies to people who are married/ENM.