Hey there,

For a long time now I’ve known that a relationship involving power dynamics is what I crave. Being able to dedicate myself towards someone and having that special connection feels so fulfilling.

About me:

I enjoy cooking. I love spicy foods so most anything with some heat I will enjoy. I also like to bake, some things I have made in the past include chocolate chip cookies, croissants, lemon pound cake, and cinnamon buns.

Movies are also something that I am passionate about. Horror, thriller, romance, foreign, really anything that sounds interesting I enjoy checking out.

I play board games often, and go to a few meetups (and even host some of my own)! It has been my main replacement for video games, as I appreciate the in-person socializing more. Though, I still do play video games rarely.

As of a few years ago, I began taking fashion more seriously and would describe my style as preppy/classic menswear. (Still trying to find how I like to dress in the summer when it is too hot for multiple layers).

Lastly, you can find me always bouncing between new things that I am learning (right now that is playing the piano and writing).

I would consider myself an optimistic pragmatist and while admittedly it doesn’t hold much weight coming from the person themselves, I would like to think I am a kind, thoughtful person with lots of energy to give. My job is in the tech field and is hybrid, so my schedule is pretty flexible. Besides my vanilla interests, I have also been participating in the NYC scene for a little over a year now, going to both munches and classes. I’ve enjoyed meeting new people and learning so much about myself and about how to practice kink safely.

Physically, I am 5’10”, 140 lbs. I am white with brown hair and blue eyes. I am open to all types of partners in terms of physical appearance as personality is what I consider paramount. Though, please be between the ages of 18 and 40.

Kinks:

Using labels, I would say my primary archetype is a service submissive. Being able to work hard and see the effects of my labor on your quality of life and happiness is such a large motivator for me. I am the type of person who gets a lot pleasure from giving a lot of pleasure. In terms of dynamics, I am open to many types both hardcore and gentle. Though, my ideal would be a mix of both. I take pride in my obedience, and I would not classify myself as much of a brat. Some of my favorite kinks include body worship, acts of service, praise, light humiliation, light/medium impact play, breath play, rope/cuffs/restraints, tease and denial, pet play, and much more. I’d love to hear yours, and if you have any that I didn’t mention here. My hard limits are scat, blood, findom (of the tribute/cashmeet/paypig variety), blackmail, and permanent modifications.

What I am looking for:

I am looking for something serious, monogamous, and long-term. Please be in the NYC metro area. My ideal relationship would involve elements of role reversal, eventually transferring more and more power as things got serious. One where we effortlessly flow through low/medium/high protocol while never having stopped enjoying each others company along the way. I personally appreciate people who are articulate and interesting to talk to. I love picking people’s brains and learning about new worldviews, and appreciate a partner who is also inquisitive. I am the type of person to prefer to take things slow and am not looking to jump right into kinky play. Personal compatibility is the most important thing to me first and foremost.

If you are interested, send me a Reddit chat or PM. Please include the title and artist of a song you've been listening to lately somewhere in your opening message so I know you have read everything (if you aren’t a big music listener, feel free to replace music with whatever creative medium you engage with the most).

Thanks so much for reading and I hope your week is going well!