Hey hey,

Thanks for reading this post, you're an angel already. Hope you can make it till the end, otherwise have a great day nonetheless!

I'm M from the Netherlands, your friendly neighborhood submissive-type. I'm a software developer since 2015, happily in an open relationship since 2013 and struggling with my sexual preferences and ideas since forever.

My partner is open minded and she wouldn't mind me trying to find someone to experience desires with. I'd like to add that I don't want to involve her in any of this, and I'm not going to bother her with any of this. When trust is built I can definitely meet up and host, but in the starting phase and online stuff I'm going to need to find time, peace and privacy.

In my vanilla life I'm interested in people (so I'd love to get to know you!). Other interests are philosophy (existentialism, absurdism, but also religion, etc), the occasional videogame, music like The Beatles and Bob Dylan but also punk and metalcore. If you read this and think we could be friends, I'm also open for that. I work from home, so it's easy to chat during the day. Most evenings I try to hang out with my girlfriend, but that won't be the full evening and every day of the week. I'm a very open minded person, so don't think you're not good enough to say hi to me for any reason. In my daily relationship with my so and friends I can be quite dominant, I'm the one who arranges most things, books the hotels, etc. Though besides that I'm also introverted and can be quite enthusiastic when meeting new people that interest me.

If you still didn't stop reading at this point, go you!

Physically I'm tall (6.3ft, 193cm) and a bit overweight (trying to work on that by eating less bad stuff and swimming).

As you probably figured out by now, I'm craving to be submissive to a woman/feminine person (or the correct man that makes me submissive to him). The main interest in this is not overly sexual, but it's a part. Meaning my craving isn't to go to a dungeon and getting pegged and slapped around by a Dom(me), but more so to make someone's life easier and make someone happy in every way possible, fueled by the need to submit. My interests include:

• Power exchange

• Service-oriented submission

• Orgasm control / denial

• Obedience

• Worship

• Servitude

• Humiliation

• Degration

I'm looking for someone who's life I can make better by becoming a better person myself, without sacrificing the current relations I have. What I'm not looking for is a kink dispenser. I'd rather find someone who wants to explore just 1 thing that we'd both like, then someone who tries to tick all of the boxes.

I realize this is a very long post with alot of details, but there are reasons for that. If I don't write those details down, I might be wasting your time when you find out things that aren't perfect. I'm trying to find someone genuine who actually gets something out of this, instead of someone that doesn't know the full details of my boundaries and we will both be dissapointed in the end. And I also realize that I might find no one at all because of being so detailed, but that's okay too. This should add value to both of our lives.

What about what I'm looking for in a person? Well, if you find anything in this post that makes you want to get to know me and nothing in this post turned you away, send me a message. I'm not looking for body type x, race y, etc. The only people who don't have to send a message are the one who didn't read this post fully and/or just want money. While I'm not scared of spending money for something that I like, and I'd definitely do, I want a real connection and not a business relation.

I can't wait to hear from you. Would you be so kind to let me know what made you message me and tell me your favorite artist? That way I can filter out the people who didn't read this essay. Also, I'm willing to verify by photo, that isn't an issue.

I'm expecting to not get any message, so you'd make me very happy if you like anything in this post! When I get excited about someone though I might spend the whole day chatting, but that also exhausts me and fucks with my sleep schedule so I might try and take it a little easier.

Kind regards, Matt