Been a while since I've made one of these; let's see how it goes.

In the most distilled terms what I'm looking for is connection. I ended a multi-year relationship a little over a month ago, and honestly there's a mountain of self work/repair in between me and any kind of readiness to do long-term commitment again. But alas, I am also a slutty person who just spent several years feeling pent-up and inadequately fucked utilized. I want to get to know each other, flirt, and have fun.

about me

Politically left-leaning. Queer or some stage of bi-curious. I like to cook, but I'm not great at it. My biggest hobbies are playing guitar and programming. Good lighting in the home is important. I live by myself and have a decent job. I enjoy the common vices (alcohol and weed), but not too habitually or to great excess.

My sense of humor is... not really coming through anywhere in this ad so far, honestly. Oof. Oh well. I am really funny though. You'll see.

I'm a socially-awkward, anxious, engineer type. Imperfect and lovable and adorable. You'll be really into me or not into me at all. About 8 months into the pandemic I was like "fuck it, I'm not doing grammar anymore, what does it even matter?" so be okay with that if you wanna get in my DMs.

Physically... I am in decent-ish shape/HWP/look after myself. Probably not fit enough for you if "fit" is one of your expressed requirements, but I'm still a snack. I don't see the point in listing my height--it's a "those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter" thing. I'm not tall. I don't care if you're tall or not tall.

the pervy stuff

I'm into a bunch of things. Beyond that, I'm sure there are a bunch of things that I'm not into but will enjoy because you enjoy them. I love heaps of "vanilla" sexuality in my life too and don't feel like being kinky is at odds with that. Good sex is when we relentlessly worship each other's bodies, laugh a little/a lot, and nobody feels pressured to "be" or perform a certain way.

I consider myself versatile on the top/bottom spectrum and normal/submissive on the D/s spectrum. I'll dig it if you make me feel vulnerable. GGG--not going to drain away all your energy.

My kinkiness has plenty of limits. We can talk about those. For now, here are some of my broad feelings:

• There's space for you to be a little mean, but I'm not a fan of "bow to me and lick my heels, you pathetic slave!" flavored bdsm
• I have a very giving personality and like performing acts of service for those I care for, but I am nobody's "service" sub
• I'm not really into roleplay or anything roleplay-adjacent. Hard pass on calling anyone mistress/queen/etc.
• Physically extreme stuff is not my jam. I can be more explicit on this, just ask.

you and us

It'd be awesome if we're attracted to each other. Let's trade pics early on and find that out? I don't really have a type; being in decent shape/HWP is probably the only thing I'd list as a requirement.

I dunno how this is gonna shake out, but we'll just be honest and kind and patient and treat each other with respect like adults, yeah?

This probably won't work if we're in very different timezones (UTC-7 here). If you're cool and in my general quadrant of the continent, maybe we'll meet up.

I hope you're weird and funny and reasonable and friendly. Hit me up!