Hiyya! This is a long post but it has been well thought through so I expect a reply up to par with it.

About me

I’m 20, 162cm/5ft3 and biracial(half welsh and nigerian). I study software engineering in college. I would call myself a “dog person” even though I have two cats. Personality wise, I’d probably describe myself as a “strong” character despite being introverted(INTJ, if that’s relevant). I love binge-watching shows especially adult animations. If I had to choose my top three, they would be Bob’s burgers, F is for family and Bojack Horseman. I consider playing card/board games a competitive sport and it’s the best icebreaker in my opinion. The fastest way to get me interested is having a personality outside of being a submissive, being “smarter” than me and being able to cook. The way I show love is through gift giving and quality time. The way I like to be shown love is through acts of service.

I wouldn’t refer to myself as a soft or sadistic top, maybe a mixture of both. I get pleasure from giving and taking but only in….special ways. I enjoy the idea of a TPE 24/7 relationship, it would be more difficult to implement in real life but I’m allowed to dream. I like micromanaging especially with behaviors and food. In my make believe dynamic, I would be able to communicate with my sub through body language and certain looks especially in a room filled with people.

I’m demisexual so it is important that I don’t feel like a kink dispenser when you make your first impression(trust me, first impressions mean everything to me). I don’t want to and will not be sexual towards you until I feel comfortable. Having an online relationship does nothing for me unless I really really like you so I’ll suggest meeting sooner rather than later(maybe during summer?). I want to go on dates, have movie nights, study together and so much more.

My kinks include teasing, light humiliation, orgasm control, food control, CNC, pegging, size kink, degradation(bullying, name calling, begging, spitting and crying), spanking, micromanagement(food, bedtime, playtime), smothering(cunnilingus, anilingus), body worship, pet play etc.

My hard limits is anything nonconsensual, permanent damage, blood, needles and illegal stuff.

About my ideal submissive

You are 21-35, know what you want and actively trying to get it(there’s nothing hotter than dominating someone sensible). You’re a service submissive and derive pleasure from being used. You’re talkative, respectful, needy, want to please, good hygiene, passive and very verbal when excited(sexually and all). Ideally, you’re way taller than me that it’s absolutely comical when we try finding a position that fits you being the little spoon. You’re not ignorant or boring. I know I’m boring but we both don’t have to be. Your political views don’t lean right and being “neutral” doesn’t cut it. I don’t care much about your personality. If it’s a strong one, I’d probably take it as a challenge and a soft one, I’d find it adorable. You’re able to talk on the phone and travel.

Possible dealbreaker(for you)

• I have diagnosed BPD(borderline personality disorder) and manage it with medication, so it would be helpful if you familiarize yourself with it.
• I am NOT monogamous.

Dealbreakers for me:

• If you want to be locked up in chastity ALL the time, then I’m not the right match for you.
• If you get out of sub space or the idea of being a submissive after you orgasm.
• People on with their political beliefs on the right. I’ve lived in a delusional bubble before and tried dating someone with opposite beliefs than me and it’s not something I’m willing to do again.
• Bad hygiene.
• Trying to reverse the roles and dominate me….just no.
• I’m not a Mommy Domme and I don’t want you to call me that or expect me to become that.

You’ll have questions and I’m happy to answer them. I’m also willing to “negotiate” outside of my hard limits, the personality fit(not looking for a robot here) and the age.