I'm 30M, 6'2", I jog and lift, I had a vasectomy. I weigh 210 and I have a very active life. I love hiking, reading, gaming, art, meditation, etc. But herein lies the rub:

I work nights, all of my hobbies are solitary, and after about six months of going to open mic nights and other IRL events I found I just don't enjoy the experience of big social scenes, especially with the schedule. I was only going there to meet people and it SHOWED. I had nothing in common with anyone. I live like a monk, and I find it soothing with the exception of the nagging horniness. Yet I've little interest in the kind of sex gained from hookups and since this schedule and lifestyle isn't conducive to a deep relationship, I've not had sex for four years.

Even when I was in a relationship, I did not find it sexually satisfying because I prefer dominant women. A naked woman in my room alone does nothing for me, while a woman in a maid outfit or leather corset and a commanding demeanor really gets me going, so I'm looking for something ongoing with that as a feature. I previously had experience in hotwifing, but my partner felt guilty after we did it and we stopped, even though I loved it when she did. Another partner did a few cuckoldy things after we broke up, but that only lasted a few weeks before she got into another committed relationship. I enjoyed it then, too. I don't absolutely need cuckolding to be a part of the dynamic, I just find that it's the highest form of tease and denial, which is my favorite. As for how my partner goes about it, I prefer that to be a surprise. My only hard limits are, of course, be a consenting adult and I won't eat poop. Likewise, post vasectomy, I find CBT is off-limits, at least for another year (I had it done last October). I've never really been into impact play anyway.

I just recently turned thirty and feel like my youth is draining away in celibacy. I also lost about 140 pounds recently and the testosterone is proving this to be a major drive for me. Despite not being driven by emotional intimacy, I am still compassionate and sympathetic and as such I would not ever pressure a partner into something they wouldn't like to do. In this particular dynamic, it wouldn't even make sense to. I also wouldn't view a partner as an object and would be willing to hang out and do other things to, provided my schedule allows for it. I do not ask for exclusivity either, I'm not jealous.

I'm looking for someone willing to work with me on finding sexual satisfaction in this life, and it's a lot to ask for from a romantic partner, so here is my request. Willing to send pics and discuss terms, etc.