Looking for IRL. Not online. Not a simp. Don't even try.

Hello there,

I'm Jason, a sub-leaning switch. I'm looking for a partner to have a more female-led relationship type dynamic with. I have a deep respect for boundaries and i truly love to be the one doing the satisfying. Its just good fun. If this sounds intriguing. Read on!

A bit about me: 100% monogamous for now. That could change if my relationship with a partner changes but for now. 100%

Ive had a few partners throughout the years that i practiced FLR with. Though to be honest, i always felt like i was "domming from the bottom." I later realized that i was dating women who were 100% subs and they were simply trying to satisfy my needs by trying to be dominant. So thats why im on here and trying to start a relationship with boundaries and expectations known from the start.

I took a lot of me time, went to therapy. Realized what i did wrong in relationships and have had a lot of personal growth in understanding how to be a good partner.

On the front of being a good partner. I feel like im way more traditional in a lot of ways. I hold doors, open cars doors, pull the seat back so you can sit at a restaurant. i will buy you flowers, i will absolutely adore you. I think the word gentleman has gotten a bad rap and gives the idea of some fedora wearing neckbeard type. But..i enjoy being a gentleman and charming with my partner. If your my women. I want you to feel respected and like a queen. You feel?

General likes in relation to bdsm:

As a sub:

Domestic servitude(to a point) im not a slave but i love feeling useful to my partner. I will cook for you. Ill probably do the dishes. Ill make sure you have a jacket hung up when its getting cold outside. Just little things.

Chastity cages: i have some experience with this. Cages are intense. Not being able to get hard while watching a partner play with herself or tease me. It such fun. Plus, having her wear a key around in public in mentally intense.

Teasing, verbal cucking: for instance, if we were out on a date and you whispered in my ear that i bet that cute guy over there could please you better than i can. Im immediately on 500% more effort mode and oh my god are you going to get off like 13 times that night.

And other basic femdom type kinks. Bondage, teasing, rules, ect.

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As a dom:

I take the approach of first having a very serious conversation about rules, boundaries, TRIGGERS, safe words, check-ins and anything else that comes up.

I understand that there are absolutely levels to domming. Im open to most things.

You might want someone who will be rough with you and thats all. Or. You might want someone who let's you forget everything and just be a "sex toy" for them. And all the levels in between.

On a general basis and personal preference. I go by the idea that you're mine to use as i please 100% for the specified time we have set. Whether thats a few hours or a week or a month. Ill set rules. If you break them. There will be a cane and a paddle for that, or privileges revoked.

But of course. Everyones different. We can find our middle ground.

Limits: all the things you would normally think. Blood,scat, suicide, vomit, incest, all the not okay stuff.

Outside of BDSM:

I enjoy the outside like every other Oregonian. I skate/mush with my huskies on a skateboard. I spend a lot of time at the lake in the summers. Im a big gamer. Im an artist. Im definitely not a hipster. I love to make things and have been taking coding classes to learn how to do some arduino based projects.

Before i go into detail about what im looking for in a partner. I gotta go and talk badly about myself for a minute. I dont want to go list all the attributes of an ideal partner and then act like im perfect. You feel?

This might be trivial and where a lot of people are in their lives but i have high expectations of myself so if im not wildly successful then im failing..and im failing so hard.

I made a lot of dumb and irresponsible decisions(but had a lot of fun) in my 20s and its left me in a bad spot as a full fledged adult. Im not in any debt, but i never got an education past HS. I never really built a career. I just dont have a way of making good money. This might seen like a weird thing to bring up in a personal ad but i have a mental benchmark for where i should be in life and im not there and theres some shame around that.

So onto Positives!

Im a tall, good looking(i think), somewhat charming, goofy and sometimes super cheesy guy whos pretty kinky, but has been through enough trauma that i can understand yours and not judge you for it.

Mentally: I'm looking for someone who doesnt mind that im a bit of a black sheep trying to figure his life out. Id like if you're open minded, like to learn new things, knows what you want and loves to be the one in charge. I dont want to list too much here. Just be someone relatable, dom leaning and we can go from there.

Physically:(time to sound shallow) I'm looking for someone I can look at like shes my goddess. Obese and fat really doesnt do it for me. You dont have to have some low bmi or be a gym rat. I have realistic expectations but if youre main pass time and favorite hobby is food. The attraction prob isnt there for me. If you care about how you look and are healthy. Im sure the attraction is there. Im not too picky. I'd like to exchange sfw pics pretty quickly as physical attraction is just as important as mental.

If you're interested in connecting, learning more about each other, and seeing where our interests align, I'd love to hear from you.

-Jason