Hey all,

First of all, thank you to everyone who takes the time to read this in full, I know its going to be a longer one. The most important thing I want to say before I start introducing myself and what I'm hoping to find today is to announce that I am not in a rush. I am looking for something long-term, so if you do decide to make contact, please be aware it will take some time before any kind of dynamic is agreed upon. I am looking for a Female Led Relationship, and not a short term casual play. To elaborate on this, in a perfect world I would be looking for someone in real life, though I am happy with someone online, and aim to build up to something in person.

Okay, so the disclaimer is out of the way. I'm going to break this advert into a couple of different sections. I'll write this post mostly freestyle, but I will add a keynote at the end to summarise things.

About Me:

I am 42 years old and live in the North East of England. I live alone, with no pets (I love animals, however, the terms of my tenancy state no pets. Boo). I can switch, but I am very heavily leaning to the submissive side, almost now to the point where it's exclusive, but that really depends on the person Im with.

Right now, I work from home, and due to that I am usually able to message a bit throughout the day, and available most evenings. As for hobbies, things like Netflix binges, Gaming, Reading, Music, Playing guitar, some sports, and getting out to socialise, and on that note I do arrange social events through meetup.

As for my appearance, I'm around 5'7 tall, somewhat cuddly built, with a fully shaven head. I've learned to embrace the look given that I was going bald anyway haha.

Who I would love to meet.

I am far more attracted to people who are good at communicating and emotional maturity. To play into the cliche of men are dumb, I am not psychic and won't be able to predict all your needs. Being able to openly discuss your needs, desires and feelings is something I'd consider essential for a relationship

Some common interests would be beneficial, but not essential. We all have our own hobbies, and I'd definitely be interested in exploring a new hobby we could enjoy together.

The only other aspect I would view as essential, and I find it bad that I do need to include this, but there definitely some dangerous people out there. Whether thats out of naivety and not realising the harm they are inflicting, or well... Lets just leave that train of thought there.

The Kinky Me:

Okay, This section might be a bit lighter, as I generally feel this is something better suited to a more personal conversation. Though I will provide a general overview in terms of my experience and interest.

I've been involved with the D/s scene for about 14 years now. Most of this has been online, though there have been a few periods where this was in person. The wonderful lady who introduced me to the lifestyle was definitely one of the most enjoyable periods of my life, though sadly our personal circumstances made maintaining a relationship difficult. We are still very close friends, however, though that relationship is more like a Brother/Sister one these days.

Generally, most of my experiences around the scene have been positive, though I'm sure like most people have had their fair share of unpleasant ones. This is why I'm taking my time when it comes to finding someone, rather than just anyone. One interesting side thought though, and I mentioned this in a previous post. Some of the kinks thats that I am interested in, or at least curious about could be because of a historic trauma. I have read a few articles recently about this, but I haven't quite decided if this is something I would have found as an interest organically, or whether it's more of a coping mechanism. Definitely food for thought, and I would love to talk about that further.

It would be somewhat helpful if I provided a general overview of my likes/limits to give you an idea of what I am into. These lists aren't exclusive, so anything not on these lists, so if I do submit to someone, there may still be some negotiating needing completing before some activities are attempted.

As for pictures and videos. I am more than happy to verify who I am, and at the very minimum, I would expect you to be happy to reciprocate that.

• Likes:

Tease and Denial, Ass play, Anal, Some pain, CFNM, Online public, Flogging, Bondage, electro play, Clothes pegs, Candle Wax, Sounding, Chastity

-Limits:

Feminisation, Sissification (I'd look ridiculous!) Extreme pain, blood, scat, water sports, Forced Bi. (These is the hard limits. Anything not on this list is probably negotiable)

Making contact:

I am happy for people to initiate contact through Reddit's messaging system, or through chat. Please tell me a bit about yourself, the kind of person you're looking for.

If Im enjoying the vibe, I will offer you another means to contact me so we can talk further, potentially going down the route of a voice or video chat so we can get to know each other better. Just be aware nothing sexy will be happening until we've both agreed to form a dynamic, as well as discussed our needs and expectations.

Okay, so now for the Keynote version to help summarise as this is quite a long post:

About Me:

• 42 years old

• Reside in the UK - North East England

• I live alone

• Looking for: Female Led Relationship leading up to TPE

• Preferably RL relationship, though happy to work online if it could potentially lead to this.

About you

• Emotional maturity and intelligence is a must

• An advocate Safe, Sane and Consensual play.

• Be willing to move into a real-life dynamic at some point.

How to Contact me

• Reddit message

• Reddit chat

Well, I'd like to close this by thanking anyone who managed to read this far and is still interested! I look forward to hearing from you all!