Hello! I've talked to a few nice people from this subreddit, but unfortunately they weren't what I was looking for, so I'm looking to try again!

I'm a 29-year-old woman who is exclusively dominant and looking for an exclusively submissive man from the ages of 22-30 to start a wonderful relationship with! I love being in control inside and outside of the bedroom, taking the lead, and making all of the decisions in the relationship. Some examples of the things I'd like to have control over would be: my partner's appearance (hairstyle, facial hair, clothing), mannerisms, behaviors, ways in which he serves me, as well as his free time (to a reasonable degree). Basically, I'd love someone who is comfortable with me molding him to my preferences. It's not because I want to change who he inherently is, but because I want to teach him how to be the best possible version of himself for me. If you're into service submission and have a very strong desire or even need to please the woman you love, I'm sure we'd be compatible in this aspect. I love to be treated like royalty, and have my partner be my devoted servant who lives to serve me. Ultimately, I see D/s as an expression of love, romance, and intimacy, rather than a kink.

In my day-to-day life I'm pretty laidback, but specifically in a relationship I want things done my way. I would care a lot about my partner and our dynamic and in accordance with that, I would want us to be the best versions of ourselves for each other. I realize this is not everyone's preference, and it could possibly cause friction if you're the type who has a huge ego or has a lot of (unwarranted) pride. You should be able to take respectful feedback and apply it without getting defensive or making excuses. Ideally, you'd be the type of person who loves to please and give into your partner's desires consensually and you understand that a relationship is about growing and improving together, not staying stagnant. This goes both ways as well; you may be submissive to me, but that doesn't mean I slack on my end of the relationship or ever grow complacent.

While our roles may look different, we should both give our all to make sure the other is happy and loved. The submissive has just as much responsibility as the dominant in maintaining the relationship. Ideally you see submission as an act of love and care, and not "I get to lay back and do nothing while my mommy does everything for me." That being said, I may seem strict, but I'm very affectionate, caring, and have lots of love to give to the right person!

I should also mention, although I would want our relationship to be friendly, I do not want us to be friends. "Being friends" implies a level of casualness, complacency, and also puts both partners being on equal footing, which I find defeats the purpose of an unequal power dynamic in the first place. Ultimately, I would want to progress the relationship into TPE (total power exchange) and I believe to get to that point, friendship is a hindrance more than anything.

So, more about me!

Physically, I'm 5'1 and 110 lbs, Hispanic, and I'm very in shape (and cute) so I ask that you be in shape as well. Sorry, I'm not into obese, chubby, or skinnyfat guys. You don't have to be super muscular, just as long as you look healthy and like you take care of yourself and have good hygiene. Of course, eventually we might grow old and wrinkly together, but that doesn't mean we stop taking care of ourselves. After all, if you can't take care of yourself, how can you possibly take on the responsibility of serving someone else? I don't care much about height, as long as you aren't 2 feet taller or 2 feet shorter than me. The only thing is I'm not into bald guys, sorry! (Unless you get a wig or hair transplant or something)

As for what I like to do in my free time, I have a lot of different hobbies. Right now I'm learning how to sew clothes, and I'm also very into fitness (I used to do martial arts) and nutrition. Generally, most of my hobbies are tech-focused. I'm looking to get into cybersecurity soon, so I like to stay up to date on these topics. I also love video games, especially Japanese games, and visual novels. I've taught myself Japanese for the past several years and am pretty much fluent (I can read and write). If you need help learning, I could give you some advice and pointers to get started! Eventually I want to learn how to play the guitar and piano, and learn music theory so I can write my own music as well. More than anything, I really enjoy learning a lot of new things and mastering skills that I find interesting. I'm mainly keeping this section short because I've realized that having the same hobbies isn't a requirement for me. Sometimes it's also fun to have completely different hobbies and interests and teach each other about them!

Just in case, I want to list some specific things that could be deal-breakers: I do not want kids ever, I don't do penetrative sex (hard limit), and I expect sex to be focused around my pleasure. I don't care about your kinks or fantasies; they either match up with mine or they don't happen. What is more important to me is your limits, and once we're in a relationship, I will do whatever I want staying within those limits. I also can't deal with smoking, excessive drinking, drug use, or any sort of addictions. I also don't mind where you're from, but you must plan to visit me and relocate to me, eventually. Other limits include: crossdressing/feminization, cuckolding, MDLB, edging or JOI, bratting, switching.

If you made it to the end, thank you for reading this far. If you think we're compatible, feel free to send me a message! Messages only, as I have chats disabled. I would prefer if you wrote a longer message and really let your personality shine through, so I can get a good idea of who you are as a person and what drew you to my post specifically. Low-effort messages and throwaway accounts will be ignored.