I am NOT INTERESTED in online play. Your first messages have to be SFW or they will be reported. Reddit does a decent job in dealing with the harassers.

__Introduction__

I live in Amsterdam but I am moving to Porto next month and, for now, the idea is to live in Portugal until more or less 2026. It is not set in stone, but that is the plan, currently.

I am looking for a sweet sub, who is always respectul and classy. I am dominant in and outside the bedroom. Check out what I am looking for in details, before messaging me. Take the full test on bdsmtest.org. If the results for "switch" are higher than 10%, please do not message me.

I am always interested in making new friends who share values and hobbies with me, specially if they like to play party board games or want to join me at rock/metal concerts. The Mission, Septicflesh, Moonspell and Borknagar in Portugal this year are the concerts I know will go see, for sure.

__About me__

I am a progressive and vegan metalhead and I love being at home watching movies, videos and series. I am currently watching Brooklyn 99, maybe we can watch it together? Almost in the end, I need a replacement haha

I love reading, I love anything horror/true crime, playing videogames, doing jigsaw puzzles, listening to audiobooks/podcasts, stories, watching stand-up comedy, dancing (retro music and bellydance), being in nature/in the water and swimming. I am interested in sustainability, healthy eating and healthy lifestyle in general and hope we can influence each other positively, in that regard... Let's go dancing? Take me to try bouldering? The weather is nice now, you could give me a foot massage at the beach or at a park :)

I am very bossy but I also have a gentle side and I am very romantic and loving. I give a lot of attention and compliments, lots of hugs and kisses and compliments to my sub. Don't expect praise for every single thing you do for me but know that I pay attention to everything and appreciate real efforts and dedication, and that I love a sub who pays attention to details.

None of these kinks can be among your limits, as they are big for me: foot worship, humiliation and CBT, if that applies to your gender. I have a mommy fetish when I am dating people who are some years younger than me, but be mature, be stable and consistent.

Even though I would be open for relocation, it would only be within the Schengen Zone until 2026, after that, I am more flexible. This is up for discussion with a potential partner.

All of my relevant kinks are either here or on the link you can click on my profile. Whatever you don't see, it is not big for me. If you think I might like something related to a fetish you see that I have, you can ask me about it.

This is me: https://imgur.com/a/Yqn7MAu.

__What I am looking for__

As the title says, I prefer people who are younger than me. You have to worship pussy only, not dicks, ever. I like the intellectual/nerdy type. You have to be single and not dating anyone or anything like it.

I am into *Caucasian* and *East Asian* people.

Your cock size has to be at least 14 cm (unless you want to be a cucky boyfriend) and if it is smaller than 18 cm you can expect some SPH - you have to give me a good size or you give me your pride... just kidding, you have to give me your pride, regardless. If there is no connection and long term goals, I have zero interest in humiliating you. Even though I have a size requirement, I do not want an agressive, arrogant guy, like guys with big dicks often seem to be.

When it comes to men, I prefer them to be more or less 1,75m or taller. I am not into very chubby guys.

I am looking for someone who makes efforts to be a decent person, as I do. That includes, among other things, respecting the animals' lives, which means you have to be vegan or want to become vegan and this is a requirement. I am for a more compassionate world, where we treat people, animals and the Earth with consideration.

The dream would be to live a kinky and loving life, where we grow some organic veggies and flowers together, have cozy moments watching horror movies and doing marathons of series under the blankets and, are honest at all times with each other and have open communication with one another. I would never lie to my partner and I am looking for someone who also would never lie to me.

I like to see a relationship evolving. Please be someone who is open about their feelings and if you don't know yourself enough to even say what you expect from a partner, have the will to do some soul searching... Therapy? Psychedelic plants? I want you to be able to tell me what makes you happy and what you need from me. I would prefer to be with someone who would be willing to do couples' therapy, at least if we face some difficulties.

I don't believe in words until you show me that your actions back up what you say. I am a very open person and do not want to deal with immature people who are afraid of living. Do not message me if you are not ready to meet a Mistress in real life: "ready to meet me" means willing and capable of meeting in Amsterdam this month or in Porto next month, maximum. If you try to keep the conversation on Reddit only, and don't want to talk on Whatsapp or Instagram/Facebook, after you give me the essential information about who you are as a person and a sub, I will think you might have a girlfriend, you are not serious or, worse: that you might be dangerous. You have to make sure you give me a good feeling, that I am spending my time getting to know you with a goal be together in real life, and you have to make me feel safe to meet you. If you don't get personal or sound like someone who just wants to live a fantasy in your head, it is likely that I will block you. So if you cannot meet within a month (less than a month, if you live in the same country as I do) then talk to me when you can.

I am open to feedback from someone I care about, as long as it is respecful. I want a relationship in which we never go to sleep upset with each other, even if we go through deeply into whatever issue it is, later on, when I am in a long term relationship, we should always say we love each other before we go to sleep :)

Respect is the basis of an FLR and you *always* have to express yourself with ultimate respect towards me, which means, besides kissing the floor I walk on (figuratevely and literally), being a feminist and a supporter of immigrants' rights. I do not want to hear any BS about "whoever was born here deserves more", kind of talk. I am an immigrant so it is fair to assume I am against xenophobia.

I am looking for something serious that will, hopefully, last a lifetime. Something that will evolve to living together and adopting cats an perhaps a dog and a rabbit too :)
Eventually, I am looking for something that will evolve to a female led marriage and I want someone who is into regular couple things too, like vanilla sex, so please have a functioning dick that gets hard for simply being inside a pussy, with no need of kink for arousal.

__How to contact me_

CLEAR FACE PICTURE OR A VIDEO OF YOU TALKING, ON YOUR FIRST MESSAGE, IS A REQUIREMENT. I do not want to get any word, from anyone, about anything, if it does not contain a face picture. I am old fashioned like that, I like to see who I am talking with.
DO NOT SEND ME A MESSAGE IF WE HAVE NO VALUES/HOBBIES IN COMMON. I don't answer lazy, generic messages or messages from people I don't know what they look like, so if after reading my ad, you decide to send me a message, make sure it is a well written message: Don't overuse slang or "lol", cut off words like "rn" or use too much emojis. Use punctuation! Know the difference between "your and "you're".

If you decide to message me, let me know why you think we could be a match in a relationship and what values and hobbies we share. Also include your height and weight in meters/kg.

Tell me what you have that I am looking for. Inform me on your fist message if you expect monogamy or not. It is important that, if you are not in Amsterdam or Porto, you inform me that you are able to travel to me regularly and that you can travel soon for a first meeting, and tell me how we could possibly live together one day, if we turn out to be an amazing match! I will expect relevant questions from a possible candidate and I will expect that we make plans for an immediate future (when we could meet, what vanilla activities we could do together), and that we talk about our expectations and logistics of having a life together, if we match so well.

If I answer you and state that you are attractive, it is time for you to: 1- send me a quick video of you saying something (saying whatever, don't ask me what to say), post it on Imgur or wherever and send me the link, do not ask me for any contact outside of Reddit before I see the video. Make sure to let me see the color of your eyes well on it. If I confirm that you are my type after seeing the video, 2 - Send me the results of the full test on bdsmtest.org, 3 - Send me the answers to my Questionnaire that is on my profile on Fetlife. I will not engage in much conversation with you before you do these 3 things.

__What I have little to no interest/The NO GOs__

I am not on Reddit looking for feminine people whether they are men or women, I like them to be masculine. I do not have first meetings in private, or in another city, unless we will meet at some event I am interested in, in your city (within the country, in public) A first meeting would be at a vegan restaurant of my choice. The bill is on you, unless you are broke and kiss my shoes in public, in front of the restaurant haha (seriously).

For the cucks out there, don't come with the BBC fetish, "the making your partner have hookups to please you", or the bi male stuff. If I cuck someone it will be for my enjoyment, if you like what I like to do, great, but I will not be your object.

The following fetishes are **super low** on my interests and could only be part of our D/s as rewards for hard (non sexual) work: bondage, chastity, fetishists clothes, anal play/pegging. I don't wear heels inside the house, but if you pick me up and take me somewhere nice, perhaps you can see me wear some boots that you could kiss later.