In case it wasn't obvious, I am inexperienced with kink in general and want to try being a sub. Prefer a domme nearby, or at the very least in my same time zone. Because this is new to me, looking for something short-term just to try it out. I'd like something with the potential to turn into long term, but I am demi/sapio so I want to take my time to make sure we're really compatible.

About me in general, I'm 33M, 6'0 with an average build, white (Jewish specifically), and in West Los Angeles. I'm comfortable with sharing SFW pics after we chat for a bit to make sure we're on the same page. I'm a pretty laid back and confident person. I'm pretty outgoing and like going to bars, concerts, really anything that's open late cause I'm a night owl. I have a corporate job, but I have nerdy and artsy hobbies. I'm a big talker so happy to go on about that in chat if you're interested!

What interests me about submissiveness? One thing is I've always dated very submissive women. I'm a very kind-hearted and loyal person, so my exes would probably describe me as a safe and supportive person to be vulnerable around. In some of these relationships I've even been asked to play a dominant role in the bedroom, but honestly I was just doing that to be compliant... But anyways, you're a domme reading this (or a switch), so let's get back on topic.

Despite attracting submissive women, I've always been attracted to the exact opposite. Maybe you're strikingly gorgeous and intimidate men like me. Maybe you're eccentric and the life of the party so I can't even begin to think of how to approach you at a bar. Maybe you're direct and bossy and I'm just afraid you'd laugh in my face if I asked for your number. Hopefully you're all three! I could probably find a domme that fits this at a kink event, but despite being confident in the normal dating world I'd be too overwhelmed to try and find someone in that environment.

Once again, I'm new so if any of these likes or dislikes are using the wrong terminology, feel free to ask me more questions. These are all subject to change as I get more experience!

I'm interested in compliance with a little bit of fear. I do like praise, and I don't mind and have some online experience with gentle domination, but without any tension I don't think I'll be as engaged. I want you to have a list of rules. I want to only refer to you as mistress, or goddess, or whatever you require. And I may bend some of the rules from time to time just to get a reaction out of you (I suppose that falls under "bratty" subs).

Your confidence is also important to me. I'd like to shower you in praise. I'm more than happy to engage in any sort of worship you prefer. Your happiness is my happiness, so please don't hesitate to reach out to me if you're having a bad day and need a morale boost.

Some humiliation stuff could be interesting, but since I'm new it's important for me compartmentalize this and keep it discreet without spilling over into my daily life.

Some pain is okay but nothing too extreme. I don't have toys, but I do have a paddle and some rope.

Not into scat, blood/cutting/piercing, watersport, chores, or anal.

Findom is a huge boundary for me. I have financial anxiety. This is the internet, there are so many scammers out there. Don't call it trust issues, call it common sense. I also understand you may require a tribute to make sure I'm serious, but I'd much prefer to meet casually over drinks first just to confirm you're real.

IF YOU ASK ME TO SEND ANY MONEY EARLY ON THAT IS AN INSTANT BLOCK.

As we get to know each other, including in person, I don't mind taking care of my domme here and there. But it has to come from me, not asking/begging/demanding. I'll spare you the rant, but it's really key to the whole submissive dynamic here that I don't feel like you're just interested in my bank account.

That about covers all I have to say! Please don't hesitate to reach out if you have any questions.