Hey there. 23m whom I would describe as "more feminine than most guys". I'm looking for a genuine connection with kink not being a primary factor for our connection. I'm not interested into kink or getting into a relationship right out of the gate, but rather a slower build up of trust and love.

Generally I struggle with loneliness... I know I have people who care and are there for me but I don't feel comfortable with anybody that I know currently to be vulnerable with. I'm really looking for somebody who I can feel vulnerable with and not feel judged as I do with most people. I often feel misunderstood, and I feel like I can't go to anyone, well I know I have people, but oftentimes I don't feel like it's not what I need (e.g. comfort, affirmations) which sometimes ultimately just leads to me crying alone. I hope to find a connection where I feel safe. I want to note that I'm not looking for somebody to trauma dump on, I genuinely seek a two-way connection where I hope that I also can be helpful or have value somehow.

Here are some things about me which may or may not be important to you.

Physical: Half Chinese half Viet 5'11'', black hair leaning towards long hair (long for a guy, short for a girl). I usually get it cut to a relatively short length but I'll go a long time without cutting it again. ) I have dark brown eyes, glasses, with an average weight profile with an ever so slightly lean towards chubby more than skinny.

Personality: I think if you had to describe my personality very simply, I'd say I'm like a loyal, affectionate, energetic, but insecure puppy... If you'd like a more detailed explanation though, I'm an ESFP (16 personalities); I'm an extremely expressive and at times energetic person (and other times a small and sleepy little guy). I'm definitely a more feminine guy in relativity to other guys. I'm also ... nerdy? geeky? both? I'm the type of guy to go off on random tangents about like..... the things I find interesting about random stuff and I'm known for passionate rants and such. Generally I'm not for negativity but I too have my frustrations. I'd like to think that I'm a relatively kind and understanding person, and I try to have good intent when it comes to life. I want good for the people I care about, I want to be there for my friends both in good and bad times, and all that stuff. I for the most part have a low self esteem (though I've come a LONG way with therapy) and generally I have soft boy vibes. One thing peculiar about me is that I'm very understanding, sometimes to a fault (at least that's what some people say). I am the very opposite of judgmental and I try to understand people, the reason being I often feel misunderstood, and so I know how much it sucks feeling misunderstood. While I wouldn't consider myself emotionally unstable, I do think it's important to note that I'm relatively emotional for a guy and I am more prone to mood swings.

Hobbies/interests: I'll keep this relatively short and you can find out more by talking to me, but things I like include the usual gaming/anime/music/etc to other nerdy shit like custom mechanical keyboards and honestly a small interest in fashion. I'm sure there's more but I can't think of them on the top of my head... I'm relatively curious and interested in learning new things. Oh, I really like tech in general too.

Kink/Femdom part: I'm more of a gentle femdom person on average (I'm kind've a crybaby that needs affirmations) but I do enjoy many aspects of traditional/rough femdom stuff. My main love languages are probably words of affirmation and quality time to give you an idea of me (with physical touch probably coming in third) and just so you know, I'm not looking for an a power dynamic, I'm not opposed to all aspects of it but generally our value and how we both view each other should be equal. Some traits/things I find myself attracted to are: selective kindness (being more gentle or kind with me than to others), emotional intelligence, emotional stability, humility or at least somewhat being open-minded (I hate egoists), and affection/supporting me.

A warning/disclaimer that I feel the need to disclose is that I am progressing (relatively) slow in life. I'm 23, but I'm unemployed and still live with mom. I am very aware of this and honestly sometimes feel shameful for this, but I also understand people move at different paces in life. I'm still uncertain of my future (in terms of career) but I am actively trying to find my passions and what line of work that might lead me to. One of my main goals in my life right now is to gain independence (both in the sense of financially and general independence). I do my best to move myself forward, even if it's just one step at a time.

Side note, to prevent a possibility of hurt feelings (probably mine tbh), please clarify early that you weren't looking at the possibility of a relationship. I'm also searching for a genuine connection in plain friendship too. Thank you for reading all of this, if you have any questions about anything at all please don't hesitate to message me! Even the questions you think are "weird" I promise I won't think they are. Regardless whether it's me or not, I hope you have a lovely rest of your day and good luck on your search.