Hello! I've talked to a few nice people from this subreddit, but unfortunately they weren't what I was looking for, so I'm looking to try again.

I'm a 29-year-old woman who is exclusively dominant and looking for an exclusively submissive man from the ages of 22-30 to start a wonderful relationship with! I love being in control inside and outside of the bedroom, taking the lead, and making all of the decisions in the relationship. Some examples of the things I'd like to have control over would be: my partner's appearance (hairstyle, facial hair, clothing), mannerisms, behaviors, ways in which he serves me, as well as his free time (to a reasonable degree). Basically, I'd love someone who is comfortable with me molding him to my preferences. It's not because I want to change who he inherently is, but because I want to teach him how to be the best possible version of himself for me. If you're into service submission and have a very strong desire or even need to please the woman you love, I'm sure we'd be compatible in this aspect. I love to be treated like royalty, and have my partner be my devoted servant who lives to serve me. Ultimately, I see D/s as an expression of love, romance, and intimacy, rather than a kink.

In my day-to-day life I'm pretty laidback, but specifically in a relationship I want things done my way. I would care a lot about my partner and our dynamic and in accordance with that, I would want us to be the best versions of ourselves for each other. I realize this is not everyone's preference, and it could possibly cause friction if you're the type who has a huge ego or has a lot of (unwarranted) pride. You should be able to take respectful feedback and apply it without getting defensive or making excuses. Ideally, you'd be the type of person who loves to please and give into your partner's desires (consensually) and you understand that a relationship is about growing and improving together, not staying stagnant. This goes both ways as well; you may be submissive to me, but that doesn't mean I slack on my end of the relationship or ever grow complacent. While our roles may look different, we should both give our all to make sure the other is happy and loved. Although I may seem strict, I'm very affectionate, caring, and have a lot of love to give to the right person!

I should also mention, although I would want our relationship to be friendly, I do not want us to be friends. "Being friends" implies a level of casualness, complacency, and also puts both partners being on equal footing (which defeats the purpose of an unequal power dynamic in the first place). I absolutely do not want to be treated casually or like a friend within a relationship. Ultimately, I would want to progress the relationship into TPE (total power exchange) and I believe to get to that point, the man needs to genuinely revere and admire the woman he's with.

So, more about me!

Physically, I'm 5'1 and 110 lbs, and I'm very in shape (and cute) so I ask that you be in shape as well. Sorry, I'm not into obese, chubby, or skinnyfat guys. You don't have to be super muscular, just as long as you look healthy and like you take care of yourself and have good hygiene. I also sew clothes and might want to dress you up as well! Of course, eventually we might grow old and wrinkly together, but that doesn't mean we stop taking care of ourselves. After all, if you can't take care of yourself, how can you possibly serve someone else? Also, I don't care much about height, as long as you aren't 2 feet taller or 2 feet shorter than me. The only thing is, I'm not into bald guys, sorry, unless you wear a wig or something.

I have a lot of different hobbies. Right now I'm learning how to sew clothes, and I'm also very into fitness (I used to do martial arts) and nutrition. Generally, most of my hobbies are tech-focused (I'm looking to get into cybersecurity eventually, so I like to stay up to date on these topics). I also love games, especially Japanese games, and visual novels. I've taught myself Japanese for the past several years and am pretty much fluent (I can read and write). If you need help learning, I could give you some advice and pointers to get started! Eventually I want to learn how to play the guitar and piano, and learn music theory so I can write my own music as well.

Just in case, I want to list some specific things that could be deal-breakers: I do not want kids ever, I don't do penetrative sex (hard limit), I don't tolerate bratty or disrespectful behavior, and I'm selfish during sex. I expect it to be focused around my pleasure. I don't plan on fulfilling any of your kinks or fantasies, yours either match up with mine or they don't happen. What is most important is your limits, and I will do whatever I want staying within those limits. I'm also not into feminization or cross-dressing, so if you present femme we won't be compatible. I can't deal with smoking, excessive drinking, or drug use. I also don't mind where you're from, but you must plan to visit me and relocate to me, eventually.

If you made it to the end, thank you for reading this far. If you think we're compatible, feel free to send me a message! I'd prefer you write a longer message so I can get a good idea of who you are as a person and what drew you to my post specifically. I won't respond to low-effort messages or throwaway accounts.