Hi there! I'm looking for a genuine connection with kink not being a primary factor for our connection. For emotional safety reasons, if you weren't looking at the possibility of a relationship, please just clarify that to me asap :)

I'll be honest, recently and often I feel alone. I know I have people who care and are there for me but I don't feel comfortable with anybody that I know currently to be vulnerable with. I'm really looking for somebody who I can feel vulnerable with and not feel judged as I do with most people. I often feel misunderstood, and I feel like I can't go to anyone, which sometimes just leads to me crying alone. I hope to find a connection where I feel safe. I want to note that I'm not looking for somebody to trauma dump on, I genuinely seek a two-way connection where I hope that I also can be helpful or have value somehow.

Here is some about me which may or may not be important to you.

Physical: Chinese/Viet 5'11'', black hair leaning towards long hair (long for a guy, short for a girl). I usually get it cut to a relatively short length but I'll go a long time without cutting it again. (I really did not have to include that much detail about my hair LOL) I have brown eyes, glasses, with an average weight profile with an ever so slightly lean towards chubby more than skinny.

Personality: I think if you had to describe my personality very simply, I'd say I'm like a loyal, affectionate, energetic, but insecure puppy... but if you'd like a more detailed explanation. I'm an ESFP (16 personalities); I'm an extremely expressive and at times energetic person (and other times a small and sleepy little guy). I'm definitely a more feminine guy in relativity to other guys. I'm also ... nerdy? geeky? both? I'm the type of guy to go off on random tangents about like..... the things I find interesting about random stuff and I'm known for passionate rants and such. Generally I'm not for negativity but I have my moments. I'd like to think that I'm a relatively kind and understanding person, and I (at least as far as I can discern) have good intent when it comes to life. I want good for the people I care about, and I want to be there for my friends both in good and bad times, and all that stuff. I for the most part have a low self esteem (though I've been doing much better with therapy) and generally I have soft boy vibes. One thing peculiar about me is that I'm very understanding, sometimes to a fault (at least that's what some people say). I am the very opposite of judgmental and I try to understand people, the reason being I often feel misunderstood, and so I know how much it sucks feeling misunderstood. While I wouldn't consider myself emotionally unstable, I do think it's important to note that I'm relatively emotional for a guy.

Hobbies/interests: I'll keep this relatively short and you can find out more by talking to me, but things I like include the usual gaming/anime/music/etc to other nerdy shit like custom mechanical keyboards and honestly a small interest in fashion. I'm sure there's more but I can't think of them on the top of my head... I'm relatively curious and interested in learning new things.

Kink/Femdom part: I'm more of a gentle femdom person on average (I'm kind've a crybaby that needs affirmations) but I do enjoy many aspects of traditional/rough femdom stuff. My main love languages are probably words of affirmation and quality time to give you an idea of me. And so you know, I'm not looking for an extreme power dynamic, I'm not opposed to it entirely but generally I hope we both view each other respectfully and as equals. Things that are boundaries that I won't cross or at least I don't think I'm interested include: pegging, most forms/all(?) of humiliation/degradation, physical pain, bodily fluid play(???). etc

A warning/disclaimer that I feel the need to disclose is that I am progressing (relatively) slow in life. I'm 23, I've only worked one job, and currently, I'm living with my mom. I am very aware of this and honestly feel shameful for this, but I also understand people move at different paces in life and that it's okay I'm not farther ahead. Therefore I am currently unemployed, and I'm still uncertain of my future (in terms of career). One of my main goals in my life right now is to gain independence (both in the sense of financially and general independence). Currently, I'm doing my best to move myself forward, even if it's just one step at a time.

Thank you for reading all of this, if you have any questions about anything at all please don't hesitate to message me! Even the questions you think are "weird" I promise I won't think they are. Regardless whether it's me or not, I hope you have a lovely rest of your day and good luck on your search.