Introduction:

Hi! I'm a 28 year old guy currently living in NW London in the UK.

I'm using a throwaway account for this because it's 100% SFW over on my main, and because well it's rather embarrassing. Making this post isn't the embarrassing part just to be clear, I mean some of the bad jokes and memes I've made over on the other account are just too shamefully awful to share with people who might want to talk to me here.

That being said I'm a very open person and I'm happy to share things about myself (within reason of course, you can ask 100 times over for my veggie/tofu/noodle soup recipe but I'm sorry you can't have it).

I've included what I hope is enough information about myself below but if you'd like more then all you need to do is ask, and I'd also be happy to learn more about anyone who might reach out to me as well.

What I'm looking for:

I'm looking to find a caring and assertive domme ideally for not only a kink dynamic but for a romantic relationship, that doesn't mean it's the only thing I'd be down for (I'm open to just being friends, play partners, cuddle buddies, exercise partners, etc) but it is my end goal.

I am a switch who also enjoys vanilla activities both inside and outside the bedroom (or whichever room you're warming my ears with your thighs in), and while it's not an absolute requirement I'm hoping to find another switch who would be fine with vanilla stuff too rather than kink 24/7.

Most of my kink experience is as a dom, so maybe when I've got more experience as a sub the above will change, but I can only speak in regards to my current perspective.

Vanilla me:

Personality: I'm a considerate, friendly, compassionate, and playful person who is primarily driven by my anxiety and desire to make others happy.

Hobbies: cooking, painting other crafty things, gaming, puns, music/films/shows. I'm not a smoker and I don't drink (but might be open to doing so with/for someone I trust), though I am a recovering chocaholic. I'm also currently volunteering a couple of times a week.

Random selection of things I like: butterflies, owls, cuddles, the idea of being an all powerful dimension shifting wizard, fun facts, even more cuddles, chocolate, lychees, onigiri, pizza, the lack of hunger I'm currently feeling after taking a break from writing this to get something to eat, discussions of ethical quandaries, making things for people, space.

Physical details:

I'm 5'7, have hazel eyes, short-ish black hair, white and pale as an anaemic ghost, skinny with a bit of belly, a short beard, some scars that would be considerably less cool sounding if I spilled the beans on where they are and how I got them, average sized cock, a decent amount of body hair, and two left feet.

Mint Choc Chip Kinky me:

I'm a switch as mentioned, with most of my experience there being on my dominant side.
I've only had two in person experiences as a submissive, the first failed spectacularly because of just generally poor communication between myself and the other person due to inexperience (I didn't have much general experience back then either) and the second one could never work out because the other person turned out to believe that Shrek The Third is the best Shrek film, when it's obviously Shrek Forever After.

Likes:

Cuddles/physical contact. I'm a very physically affectionate person generally and it's something I enjoy in the bedroom (or whichever room really) as well. If it was down to me I'd spend every waking minute in snuggly oblivion. I cannot overstate how much I love hugs, snugs, and cuddles.

Edging/orgasm control/forced orgasms. I have very limited experience being on the receiving end of this but I'm reasonably sure I'd enjoy exploring it more. This doesn't extend to orgasm denial or ruined orgasms.

Being wanted/desired. Whether as a person, a pillow, or just as a cum dispenser, I want to feel wanted.
Being on the bottom. I absolutely adore being on the bottom whether for snugs or sex. It ties into wanting to be wanted as the person on top is taking me, and also my want to be controlled.

Being cared for. I never want to feel like I'm a worthless bug and am most definitely not into humiliation. I want to form a healthy bond with my domme and to me that involves mutual trust, respect, and care. If you want those things too then you should know that it's a two way street.
Body worship. I'm big on tits, thighs, and necks (or I guess, neck singular? if you're a hydra and got this far, then please know that I appreciate your interest, but I don't think things will work out, and wish you well in your search). However, I'm big on pleasing, and getting others off gets me off too, so whatever you're wanting there's a good chance I'll be into it regardless.

Curious to try:

Bondage/tie and tease.

Assertive sex, maybe not quite to the degree of CNC but more someone knowing what they want and taking it, the idea of someone pinning me down and riding me to climax is a pretty big fantasy of mine. If you know what you want, please go for it.

Being blindfolded. This ties into the tie and tease.

Roleplay (I have experience with roleplay, but in this case I moreso mean roleplay specifically as a submissive for the sake of exploring kinks and fantasies that I or my partner has).

Hard limits:

Anal play on me.
Scat/piss/blood/knife/etc play, anything involving disgust or danger.
Forced bi.
Humiliation/extreme degradation.
Pain beyond the light kind.
Sissification/feminisation.

Example scenarios/play I think I'd enjoy:

Prolonged tie and tease/edging.

Spending a whole day snugglefucking.

Affectionate body worship sessions.

Waking up to a horny partner who knows what they want, and that what is me, and that me follows their instructions and/or goes with whatever they want to do.

Deep conversations, either talking about interests or to help with venting/advice seeking/etc. Because nothing gets me harder than the thought of going balls deep into a topic that's troubling someone.

I've probably missed something off this list, and the same for things I like/hard limits, so if there's anything you're curious about, please do feel free to ask!

Conclusion/communication:

Thank you for taking the time to read this, and I look forward to hearing from any interested dommes, whether they want to get in contact to get to know me better or just to defend Shrek The Turd YEAH YOU READ CORRECTLY, I SAID IT.

I primarily use Discord and Whatsapp for talking to people but I'm happy to use whichever method for communication works best for you, except smoke signals because as previously mentioned I don't smoke.