After years of being involved on and off in a really play based local kink community, I'm looking for a more involved relationship with a dominant than just occasional play at parties/hotels/suspicious basements/abandoned warehouses. I want to get to know someone who can on occasion take over the wild decision making process that goes on in my brain. I am active in my local kink community but like to be thorough, so leaving no stone unturned I'm looking online too.

About me, I am one of those people who played sports and did nerdy stuff so I'm half in the machismo jock world and half in the basement dwelling nerd world. I wear a lot of hats: D&D nerd, ice hockey player, kink guinea pig, hot tub repair man, 3d printer, cocktail chef or piss poor carpenter. I'm generally sort of a dry, goofy, sarcastic person if I were to describe my personality. I try to keep a pretty hard line between my vanilla life and my kink life so I'm outwardly pretty straight laced.

What does that make you? Ideally we have some compatible kinks but more importantly someone intelligent and confident outside of the "kink space". If you can passionately infodump your oddly specific hobby at me you already have my attention, I love hearing people go off on that kind of stuff regardless of if I've even ever heard of it previously. Dynamic wise, the idea of light submission as part of daily life is appealing. Small acts of service and non obvious protocols. As far as play goes, I am a pretty serious masochist so someone with sadistic tendencies is ideal.

I am also poly, so I have current romantic partners and several other play partners. You are not obligated to interact with any of my other partners, but you need to be okay with their existence, and any restrictions on the kind of kink play I engage in is negotiable if/when a relationship gets serious.

I feel like kink lists don't do justice to the why we enjoy each activity. My primary enjoyment from kink is based in objectification and experimentation. I like to feel useful and desirable and kink is the best way I've found to be able to achieve that. Its just coincidence I like it too. I enjoy heavy impact, bondage, pegging/anal, sensory deprivation/play, tease and denial, chastity, body worship, massage, fire play, collar/leash, primal play, confinement, trampling, mild CBT and (now that I think about it) pretty much anything not on my hard limits list, especially if a perspective partner is REALLY into it.

Hard limits: head strikes, toilet play, purposeful blood play, needles, permanent damage, body modification, public play in vanilla spaces, blackmail. All parties involved must be consenting adults.

Feel free to shoot me a message if something caught your interest or just feel like reaching out. Hope to hear from you soon!