Being a switch, I've been on both sides of the slash. What I've learned is that many doms tend to take submission for granted. They expect it because "well, I'M the dom, so you have to be the submissive", not fully understanding what submission entails. Submission is the greatest gift a submissive can offer their Dom(me). It requires complete trust and understanding, open communication and two open hearts facing one another. It is the most vulnerable anyone can ever be, and thus, the strength of any D/s dynamic draws from this vulnerability. It must be protected, valued, held sacred.

I want to be the one in a position to nurture that kind-hearted, ambitious sub out there who feels like they keep getting burned by dom(me)s that take their submission for granted, use them as kink dispensers or simply just don't value the D/s dynamic beyond sex. Although I am a switch, I am very much not looking to take on a submissive role at the moment (so - no doms, I beg). I want to build a connection with you before I do unholy things to you and turn your brain into warm fuzz. I want to become your newest obsession, so... go on. Message me. I'm waiting.

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Sidenote: You'll notice I didn't list my kinks. That's because - again - I am looking to connect based on vibes, not "oh wow we converge on every kink ever". A dynamic is more than a list of kinks. But I think it's important to note that I lean much stronger towards gentle/soft femdom than harsh/strict femdom. I do not have any experience with the latter... could Maybe? be open to it, but it doesn't come naturally to me. Apart from that - as long as you're not expecting anything too crazy (raceplay, blood stuff, watersports/scat, etc. are all hard nos) you should be alright.

Key things to note:

• I am not looking for a LTR (many reasons, but the prime one is that I am never in one city for too long... free spirit and all). You must be OK with this being short-term if you choose to reach out.

• You must be living in/around Birmingham. Night owls preferred as I usually work during the day (weekends included).

• PLEASE be in your 20s. Will not reply to anyone younger (19-) or older (30 )

• No cheaters/ENM individuals - not my thing

• Whether you've got lots of experience or have literally never done this before - doesn't matter. Just approach me with an open mind and an open heart.

• If you're a msub - worth noting I strongly prefer masculine men. Not into any kind of "feminisation" kinks. Also generally have a preference for white guys. Bonus points if you're bearded, stocky build or long haired :)

• If you're a fsub - I've got a strong preference for women who embrace their natural state. If that's you and you tick all the other boxes, please don't be scared to reach out.

• My avi is pretty accurate to how I look. Frizzy-haired black goth dead on the inside... yup. That's me in a nutshell. But otherwise, average body type and average height. Please include details on your appearance in your initial message.