Hey submissives of reddit! I've posted before and have had good and bad experiences (sorry if we met and it sucked). I always come here kind of looking for the same thing, but I think I'm ready to change things up. I have to preface this by saying I don't think I'm emotionally available for romance and would like to focus on building good friendships based on exploration of femdom archetypes, dynamics and scenarios. So for this purpose, I am open to all genders and identifications, with the underlying goal of building trust and connection to be able to comfortably explore mental and physical domination techniques, without necessarily reaching sexual gratification. With that said, please note that I'm looking for a certain level of maturity so I will not consider anyone under 25.

As far as what you should know about me: I'm 35F (profile pic is me), ENTP, living in Orange County. Physically I'm 5'4 and somewhere between curvy and plus size, actively working on becoming a muscle mommy. I'm in a "growth period" where I'm mostly focusing on myself as a person (working out, eating healthy, taking learning opportunities as they arise) and also wanting to expand my femdom skillset. This month, I signed up for two workshops, one for pantyhose bondage domination and another for CNC/kidnap/interrogation techniques. I also hope to attend Domcon LA in May.

My personal goal with this post is on the journey of applying these techniques, getting feedback and actually growing my intuition, emotional intelligence, understanding of verbal/nonverbal cues, psychological development during these types of scenes and overall maturity in my femdom journey. You should be someone with good communication skills and who's not afraid to answer intrusive questions.

Ideally we can even go to some of these events together... there is a rope intensive later on this month that could be fun to have a partner to go with, but I haven't signed up yet.

Anyway, I'm on FL and you can vet me there if you're curious about me and my background, but happy to verify any way you prefer.

This is only for IN PERSON so you must be in the SoCal area and willing to travel to either the events (mostly in Los Angeles or OC) or to other mutually agreed upon locations to practice and get to know each other. Ideally you have some experience as I wouldn't call what I hope to practice with you something that's great for a complete beginner or someone just starting out with femdom. You should identify as a relatively sturdy sub, masochist, MESM enthusiast or primal prey.

As I mentioned previously, the goal here is not explicit sexual gratification, but I won't completely say it's impossible if the chemistry is right and we both consent to it going further. I'm mostly looking to build a strong friendship foundation to allow us to explore these fear based and helpless bondage scenarios (and more).

In your message (chats are preferred), include your ASL, your past experience with BDSM and any limits/aftercare needs you'd like to share. I'd like to get to know each other as people so please include any of your hobbies/interests or anything about your vanilla life that you'd like to share (optional SFW pic). I get along best with music lovers, introverted extroverts, people who are self aware and quick witted.