Hello to all you lovely subbies out there! Been feeling the desire to connect and play with a sub so I’m hoping to find someone here. I’m looking for in person only and you must be in Southern California, preference given to those in Orange County, with next choice being San Diego, and third Los Angeles.

My biggest requirements in a sub are that they be leftist in politics, queer/enjoy playing with at least men and women, and ethically non-monogamous! If you’re interested in a dynamic that can develop into a relationship, you need to be childfree as I’m never having children myself and don’t want to date people who are or want to be parents

Probably my biggest thing is that we be friends outside the bedroom. If it’s all just kink in the dynamic then I lose interest pretty quickly. I want to know what you’re like outside of kink and your sexuality; what makes you tick, your special interests, anything about you that makes you who you are. If we can find shared interests and topics with one another, then it’ll make me appreciate you more as a person. Friendship is a solid foundation and I want to at least build a dynamic from that ground up.

With that out of the way, I can get onto the fun stuff! I’m a dom leaning switch who loves playing with a mix of brats and well behaved subs. A sub who has both sides to them is so much fun! I don’t have a particular label for myself as a dom; I enjoy being strict, teasing, caring, and pleasure. I’m not a sadistic/cruel dom though I do have some kinks that fall within that behavior such as spanking and denial. But I don’t enjoy causing pain for the sake of it; if anything I apply it in a specific context/for a specific reason and within reason.

My biggest kinks with a sub include: praise, degradation, spanking, pegging, worship, edging and denial, bondage and restraint, group play, exhibitionism, cucking, ballbusting, and forced/encouraged bi. My limits with a sub include: ABDL, TPE, scat/piss play, blood. What I would really love for in a sub is someone who enjoys some form of exhibitionism and group play, because I enjoy going to sex clubs and playing with the partners I go with and people I meet there. That’s been my biggest thing lately and what will get my attention. In addition, I also have an orgy group (we’re all a funny and friendly bunch) that I’d like to bring a sub to, but we’re all queer in some form or another. Hence why I need a sub to be bi or pan at the very least.

I always use condoms for vaginal penetration, and I get tested regularly. I’m happy to share STI panels with you and want to see your most recent results before play. My most recent test was last month and came out negative. I’m also unfortunately not able to host as I live with family.

As for my vanilla side, I love video games and TTRPGs, those are two subjects I can definitely talk for a long awhile about. My short-term goal is to get myself a PC gaming setup so I can finally run Baldur’s Gate 3, and to make gaming easier in general. I play piano and want to learn the ukulele (if you can tune one and give me pointers I’d love that). Crocheting is my next hobby to learn. I love to be outdoors when I can and enjoy a variety of outdoor activities. I’m a fairly easygoing person who enjoys good conversations with a cup of tea.

If this post resonates with you, please shoot me a Reddit chat with your age, location, and a photo or description about what you look like. If you enjoyed a particular part of my post, also mention that! Any personal information about you that isn’t kink related is appreciated and will catch my attention. I’ll be able to tell if you haven’t read my post; so if you don’t fit my requirements I’m not interested.

Happy searching!