Hi! Basically what the title says. I’ve had quite a bit of experience being submissive, but I’ve lost interest in it and the juice is no longer worth the squeeze to me.

Because I’m so new to this, I’m honestly nervous about doing this kind of thing in person, so I’m looking to move things slowly so that there’s a level of comfort if it gets to that point. There has to be some trust already built up before I’m willing to meet in person. So basically I’m in nyc, but I don’t care if you’re not.

About me: I’m 26 and a bbw. My body type is similar to Tess Holliday, for reference. I’m also queer and very much butch. I’m 5’, white, dark hair although it’s completely buzzed at the moment. I’m Jewish, I have a pretty dry sense of humor, I’m into punk music a lot. I’ve been told I’m both an aloof and intense person. I read quite a bit, mostly historical nonfiction and poetry, and I also watch a lot of reality TV. I say all this bc I’m not really looking for someone I can’t also just be a person around.

Part of why I lost interest in subbing was feeling like I had to reduce my entire entity to a role, and it made me feel like a fleshlight (and not in a sexy way). The draw of being a dom to me is building that kind of relationship with someone. It doesn’t do anything for me fuck or be sexual with someone when there’s no personal connection. At that point, I’d rather jerk myself off alone.

That being said, I’m not asking for a strictly committed thing out the gate. Im open to whatever possibilities but it’s not something I’d put pressure on. I’m also just not available 24/7. I’m a cook and during meal service, I don’t have my phone on me. I’m the kind of person where you can blow up my phone as much as your little heart desires as long as you’re willing to be patient for a response.

About you: no younger than 20 years old, although I don’t care if you’re older than me at all. I like dark hair and dark eyes, and I genuinely don’t have a strong preference for gender or body type at all. I do like someone who’s soft and shy, maybe a bit clingy lol.

What I’m into: ANR, breeding, watersports, bondage, pet/puppy play, fauxcest, degradation, anal (with the exception of fisting), orgasm control, impact stuff, etc.

A lot of what I’ve done in the past has been more hardcore cnc type stuff, but I am just really more into being gentle as a dom. Not only just because I don’t think I could be all that evil to someone but the dynamic I’m really into is like. You’re my toy, my baby, my pet, etc., and I want to love/control you. If that tracks.

Hard limits: scat, breathplay beyond light choking, cucking, feet stuff

Idk if that’s enough info but it also seems too long lmao. DM me beep me if you wanna reach me