Hi there!
My name’s Jordan (30M, 5’10” Bi, 180 lbs, fit, happy to share pics upon request!) and I’ve got a lot of great things going on in my life. Former professional engineer, now on the last year of my STEM PhD, I like to work out 3-4 times a week, play rugby, and hang out with a wonderful group of friends. I’m really into trying new things these days – I’ve tried swing dancing for the first time this month, been getting into meditation, and have been getting into board games a bit as well! It’s been a journey. I like to travel and I enjoy cooking and making music for the people I love!
But I’m also looking for a bit more. I’m somewhat-recently out of a 2.5-year relationship (ended ~6 months ago, we’re still on amicable terms) and I’m looking for an intelligent and driven woman to serve and share connection, adventure, and joy with. Ideally, I’m looking for a long term primary relationship, but I’m also open to something shorter/less-serious in the meantime. In terms of possible deal-breakers, I know I probably want to have children at some point in my life, though not within the next ~3 years at least. There’s a goofy, dorky, golden-retriever-esque dad in me just waiting to come out and I want to be him some day.
In terms of dynamic preferences, I know that I need kink in my life but I don’t have a strict singular expectation of what that *should* look like other than a vehicle for sharing intimacy. I could enjoy something more extreme like a strict FLR with heavy emotional S/m or something more mild with a more gentle dynamic that’s just isolated to the bedroom. I would enjoy exclusively assuming a submissive role but I could also enjoy switching. I’m experienced with monogamy, ethical non-monogamy, and polyamory – can’t say I have a strong preference there either, I could be perfectly happy with any of the above although I can’t say I could do relationship anarchy. I really just want to be the goodest boy and/or a metaphorical punching bag for a primary partner whom I really like!
I’ve been active in real, in-person, kink circles for a few years (happy to share my fetlife and references upon request), but – and I can’t stress this enough – just because I have some experience in dynamic/play does not mean I need or expect you to. If you’re experienced, that’s fine, if you’re not, that’s fine too. First and foremost, I’m looking for a human being to connect with. For me, the important thing is intentionality, how I connect with the person, how much we like each other independent of the dynamic, and a mutual openness to sharing vulnerability. I’m also willing to take things slow.
My ideal partner is 24-35, intelligent, keeps physically active, is outgoing, driven, financially stable, and is either nerdy or can appreciate a big ol’ nerd like me.
Happy to start things online or meet in real life if we’re close enough. For what it’s worth, I will likely be able to relocate after I complete my PhD in a couple months.
Broadly speaking, kink-wise, I really enjoy power exchange, D/s, and emotional sadomasochism and while I’m not super dead-set on any particular fetish or dynamic style, these are some of my fetishes that I could enjoy exploring and/or have enjoyed exploring in the past in furtherance of a dynamic: Body worship, bondage, breath play, CBB, CBT, chastity, choking, CNC, cuckolding, degradation, denial, edging, emotional sadomasochism, facesitting, foot worship, “forced” bi, human furniture, humiliation, impact, orgasm control, pegging, piss play, rimming, service, slapping, spitting, trampling
Hard limits – scat, sounding
If you’d like to connect with me, feel free to DM me here and we can exchange discord, fetlife, etc. and then go from there.