First of all, for me, online play is a waste of time.

I find quite tasteless if any random dudes send me fetish lists without me having asked for it (and I report these half-wits).

__Introduction__

Hallo! I am Juliana, a Domme from Brazil, living in West Amsterdam, and I am looking for a sweet sub, who is always respectul and classy. I am dominant in and outside the bedroom - with consent. Check out what I am looking for in details, before messaging me. Take the full test on bdsmtest.org. If the results for "switch" are higher than 10%, please do not message me. I do not get along with switches.

__About me__

I am a progressive and a metalhead and I love being at home watching movies (but who do not like like Star Wars, Harry Potter or Lord of the Rings haha), videos and series; currently trying to give a break on the news until there is a ceasefire (FREE PALESTINE!)... it is just too sad.

I love reading, anything horror/true crime, playing videogames, doing jigsaw puzzles, listening to audiobooks/podcasts, stories, I love going to concerts, meeting up with friends to play boardgames (mostly party games), watching stand-up comedy, dancing (retro music and bellydance), being in nature/in the water and swimming. I am interested in sustainability, healthy eating and healthy lifestyle in general and hope we can influence each other positively, in that regard.

I am very bossy but I also have a gentle side and I am very romantic and loving. I give a lot of attention and compliments, lots of hugs and kisses and compliments to my sub. Don't expect praise for every single thing you do for me but know that I pay attention to everything and appreciate real efforts and dedication and that I love a sub who pays attention to details. None of these kinks can be among your limits, as they are big for me: foot worship, humiliation and CBT, if that applies to your gender. I have a mommy fetish when I am dating people who are some years younger than me, but be mature, be stable and consistent. I am an empowered woman with a lot of experience, so I will not put up with BS :)

I am open for relocation in the future.

This is me: https://imgur.com/a/HT1BDCF. I am happy to send more pictures after I see you well.

__What I am looking for__

As the title says - I prefer people who are younger than me. You have to worship pussy only, not dicks, ever. I like the intellectual/nerdy type. You have to be single and not dating anyone or anything like it.

I am into Caucasian and East Asian people.

Your cock size has to be at least 14 cm and if it is smaller than 18 cm you can expect some SPH - you have to give me a good size or you give me your pride... just kidding, you have to give me your pride regardless. If there is no connection and long term goals, I have zero interest in humiliating you. Even though I have a size requirement, I do not want an agressive, arrogant guy, like guys with big dicks often seem to be.

When it comes to men, I prefer them to be more or less 1,80m or taller. I am not into very chubby guys.

I am looking for someone who makes efforts to be a decent person, as I do. That includes, among other things, respecting the animals' lives, which means you have to be vegan or want to become vegan and this is a requirement. It is just the right thing to do for the animals and for our planet (check out Cowspiracy).

If you need to have kids, I am not the right person for you.

The dream would be to live a kinky and loving life, where we grow some organic veggies and flowers together, have cozy moments watching horror movies and doing marathons of series under the blankets and, are honest at all times with each other and have open communication with one another. I would never lie to my partner and I am looking for someone who also would never lie to me. Lying is betraying and not acceptable on a D/s.

I like to see a relationship evolving. Please be someone who is open about his feelings and if you don't know yourself enough to even say what you expect from a partner, have the will to do some soul searching... Therapy? Psychedelic plants? I want you to be able to tell me what makes you happy and what you need from a partner. I would prefer to be with someone who would be willing to do couples' therapy, at least if we face some difficulties.

I don't believe in words until you show me that your actions back up what you say. I am a very open person and do not want to deal with immature people who are afraid of living. Do not message me if you are not ready to meet a Mistress in real life: "ready" means willing and capable of meeting in Amsterdam, within a month, maximum. If you try to keep the conversation on Reddit only, and don't want to talk on Whatsapp or Instagram/Facebook, after you give me the information I need, I will think you might have a girlfriend, you are not serious or, worse: that you might be dangerous. Men like to complaing about that time they showed their willies on the internet and got blackmailed but women can also be scammed... Have you seen Bad Surgeon on Netflix?? You have to make sure you give me a good feeling, that I am spending my time getting to know you with a goal be together in real life, and you have to make me feel safe to meet you. If you don't get personal or sound like someone who just wants to live a fantasy in your head, it is likely that I will block you. So if you cannot meet within a month (less than a month, if you live in The Netherlands) then talk to me when you can. Amsterdam is an amazing city, that is 100% worth travelling to, even if I didn't live here haha

I noticed that in the BDSM community there is a lot of mental health struggle such as depression and social anxiety, and that many subs seem to have neurodevelopmental disorders (being autistic or having ADHD). If any of that is your case, which you should inform me in your first message, you can only message me if you take care of your mind, put on work to be a great partner, which you might need help from a professional to achieve, see a psychiatrist, psycologist, take medication or do whatever therapy that works for you. A little note for the autistic subs and I know there are a lot of those out there haha I do not appreciate the very direct, meaning "rude" kind of talk, I like sweet, calm men.

I am looking for something stable and you have to be stable too, so we can evolve together. I am open to feedback from someone I care about, as long as it is respecful.

If you abuse any drugs, including natural ones (even coffee), or you self medicate because you do not want to work on your mental issues, I cannot be your Domme. I do not want someone who is high often, nor anyone who smokes anything (marijuana included) or is addicted to any drugs such as nicotine, Xanax, alcohol or coffee (I don't drink these last two, or soda for that matter)... maybe you got the idea. Smoking anything is not something I allow my sub to do.

I know how to keep a place clean and organized, and I expect those qualities from you. An example of an ideal quality time with my sub would be to have him play with my hair, while we watch a movie, which is also something I like to give to a sub. Another sweet thing I like to have with my sub, is that he puts lotion on my skin everyday, as a daily, cute, couple thing. You have to enjoy creepy stuff too as I listen and/or watch stuff like this everyday and like to do it with a partner, whenever it is possible, if I am in a relationship.

Respect is the basis of an FLR and you *always* have to express yourself with ultimate respect towards me, which means, besides kissing the floor I walk on (figuratevely and literally), being a feminist and a supporter of immigrants' rights. I do not want to hear any BS about "whoever was born here deserves more", kind of talk.

I am looking for something serious that will, hopefully, last a lifetime. Something that will evolve to living together and adopting cats an perhaps a dog and a rabbit too :)

Eventually, I am looking for something that will evolve to a female led marriage and I want someone who is into regular couple things too, like vanilla sex, so please have a functioning dick that gets hard for simply being inside a pussy, with no need for kink for arousal.

__How to contact me_

CLEAR FACE PICTURE OR A VIDEO OF YOU TALKING, ON YOUR FIRST MESSAGE, IS A REQUIREMENT. I do not want to get any word, from anyone, about anything, if it does not contain a face picture. I am old fashioned like that, I like to see who I am talking with.

DO NOT SEND ME A MESSAGE IF WE HAVE NO VALUES/HOBBIES IN COMMON. I don't answer lazy, generic messages or messages from people I don't know what they look like, so if after reading my ad, you decide to send me a message, make sure it is a well written message: Don't overuse slang or "lol" or use too much emojis. Use punctuation! Know the difference between "your and "you're". I love language and I find it sexy when someone is articulate and writes well.

Attraction is essential and I have to know if you are my type physically, before engaging in a conversation with you and, to be quite blunt, nothing substitutes a cute face for me. I block/ignore way more people than I answer and just because I have answered you, it does not mean you got a free pass for BS. If you talk to me without showing your face ON YOUR FIRST MESSAGE, you will not be respecting my limits since the very beginning and showing you cannot follow basic instructions, in this case, you have no use for me. If you do not want to show your face, I am not interested in knowing why you do not want to send a picture or video or how hot you think you are. If you hide your face, you should talk to women who also hide their face, not with me.

If you decide to message me, let me know why you think we could be a match in a relationship and what values and hobbies we share. Also include your height and weight in meters/kg.

Tell me what you have that I am looking for. Inform me on your fist message if you expect monogamy or not. It is important that, if you are not near me, you inform me that you are able to travel to me regularly and that you can travel soon for a first meeting, and tell me how we could possibly live together one day, if we turn out to be an amazing match! I will expect relevant questions from a possible candidate and I will expect that we make plans for an immediate future (when we could meet, what vanilla activiites we could do together), and that we talk about our expectations and logistics of having a life together, if we match so well.

If I answer you and state that you are attractive, it is time for you to: 1- send me a quick video of you saying something (saying whatever, don't ask me what to say), post it on Imgur or wherever and send me the link, do not ask me for any contact outside of Reddit before I see the video. Make sure to let me see the color of your eyes well on it. If I confirm that you are my type after seeing the video, 2 - Send me the results of the full test on bdsmtest.org, 3 - Send me the answers to my Questionnaire that is on my profile on Fetlife. I will not engage in much conversation with you before you do these 3 things.

I am looking for something serious so you have to have time to talk daily, send 'good morning' and 'good night' messages, show legitimate interest in getting to know me as a person. If I think you are the right person for me, I want us to have calls frequently, even if it is just to say 'good night'. I also want us to have video calls, sometimes. And take initiative, too. I like to tell people what to do but I also want them to show interest and show that they are thinking of me and I like that they tell me how they feel about me.

__What I have little to no interest/The NO GOs__

I am not on Reddit looking for feminine people. Men or women, I like them to be masculine. I do not have first meetings in private, or in another city, unless we will meet at some event I am interested in, in your city (within the Netherlands, in public) A first meeting would be at a vegan restaurant of my choice. The bill is on you, unless you are broke and kiss my shoes in public, in front of the restaurant haha (seriously).

I have housemates. They are nice, decent people but religious so, I do not bring men to the apartament. Unless your place is an option to have a girlfriend over, don't even contact me if you cannot afford a private place *IF, WHEN* we get to that point.

For the cucks out there, don't come with the BBC fetish, "the making your partner have hookups to please you", or the bi male stuff. If I cuck someone it will be for my enjoyment, if you like what I like to do, great, but I will not be your object.

The following fetishes are **super low** on my interests and could only be part of our D/s as rewards for hard (non sexual) work: bondage, chastity, fetishists clothes, anal play/pegging. I don't wear heels inside the house, but if you pick me up and take me somwhere nice, perhaps you can see me wear some boots that you could kiss later.

LIMITS: People who have a fetish of eating c*m, sissies, crossdressers, conservatives, smokers, people wearing animal costume like dog masks, tails, ears, men in latex.

PS: I get overwhelmed with messages so I will not answer comments. If you think we might be a match for dating or friendship, talk to me in private.