Hey there! A quick message first, I am NOT looking for something casual. I am not a toy, I have the same value as you. If your intention is for a short-term relationship, then please don't message me. I'm seeking a meaningful (and ideally a lifelong) relationship where we develop together in this inexplicable thing we call life and consciousness, but also I want to say that it's never a commitment the moment you message me ya know? If we were made to just be friends so be it; I just don't want to meet anybody who's looking for a kink dispenser. Anyways, here's some things about me.

Physical: Chinese/Viet 5'11'', black hair leaning towards medium-long hair (for a guy at least), I usually let it grow out (mostly because of the hassle to get a haircut) where it's long for a guy but not LONG and then cut it down to a more average length. I have brown eyes, glasses, with an average weight profile (not skinny, not really fat)

Personality: I think if you had to describe my personality in simple terms, I'd say I'm like a loyal, affectionate, energetic, but insecure dog... but if you want the longer explanation: ESFP (16 personalities); I'm an extremely expressive and at times energetic person (and other times a smol and sleepy litol guy). I'm definitely a more feminine guy in relativity to other guys. I'm also ... nerdy? geeky? both? I'm the type of guy to go off on random tangents about like..... the things I find interesting about random stuff and I'm known for my passionate rants. I'm generally not one for negativity, and in general I just dislike excessive negativity, so when I do get frustrated, it's usually because it's a strong one. I'd like to think that I'm a relatively kind and understanding person, and I (at least as far as I can discern) have good intent when it comes to life. I want good for the people I care about, and I want to be there for my friends both in good and bad times, and all that stuff. I generally have a low self esteem (though I've been doing much better after therapy) and generally I have soft boy vibes. One thing peculiar about me is that I'm very understanding, sometimes to a fault (at least that's what some people say). I am the very opposite of judgmental and I try to understand people, the reason being I used to feel very misunderstood, and I never want anybody to feel that same way. While I wouldn't consider myself emotionally unstable, I do think it's important to note that I can get very emotional (especially for a guy) If you see that as a general negative then I think you're very unlikely to get along with me.

Kink/Femdom part: Yeah this IS r/femdompersonals so I'll explain some more about that profile on me. I'm more of a gentle femdom person on average, but I still enjoy some of the rougher femdom stuff. I don't want to be somebody's little "pet" or "plaything" (calling by a name versus actual treatment is different, I probably wouldn't mind being called that as long as I feel at the end of the day we're equals) I'm looking for a long-term fruitful relationship. Things that are boundaries that I won't cross or at least I don't think I'm interested include: pegging, most forms/all(?) of humiliation/degradation, physical pain, bodily fluid play(???).

A warning/disclaimer that I feel the need to disclose is that I am progressing (relatively) slow in life. I'm 23, I've only worked one job, and currently, I'm living with my mom. I am very aware of this and honestly feel shameful for this, but I also understand people move at different paces in life and that it's okay I'm not farther ahead. Therefore I am currently unemployed, and I'm still uncertain of my future (in terms of career). One of my main goals in my life right now is to gain independence (both in the sense of financially and general independence). Currently, I'm taking smaller steps until I'm ready to take bigger ones.

Thank you for reading all of this, if you have any questions please don't hesitate to message me, and feel free to ask even questions you consider "weird" because I usually don't consider them weird. Regardless whether it's me or not, have a lovely rest of your day and/or good luck on your search.