Hi, my name is Blaine. Thanks for taking the time to read this. I appreciate feedback, and love sharing cat pictures. (so if you have any please share!)

So, who am I? I am an amateur cook, a motorsport enthusiast, a sleep aficionado, cat lover, new food trying connoisseur, appreciator of good communication, a fan of art and animation, a bit of a societal rebel (not enough to ruffle feathers, but definitely make my own way), and all in all kind of goofy.

I have ADHD, and one of the things that I love about that is that I get to spend my time learning about so many random things. I cannot say for sure that I would be good at one of those board games with trivia, but I am pretty good at Pictionary! A lot of how my brain works is just following the dopamine. There are draw backs of course. You got your bog standard focus issues, starting many projects and maybe finishing one of them, and getting bored easily. However, I tend to view life pretty enthusiastically. One of my favorite things to do is ask people about their passions. I love learning, so being able to ask questions and talk to someone who knows a lot about something I don't, is one of my favorite things to do.

As the title says, I am a trans person. I seem to feel a bit differently about it than others I seem to meet, trans or not. What I mean by this, is that "being trans" is not my identity, at least not all of it. That is just a small, but beautiful, part of me that makes up all of what is Blaine. Heck, even in the "who am I?" portion, I didn't mention it once! This isn't because I hide myself from the outside world. I just am me 24/7, and sometimes that changes. I think that is a good thing though. Everyone should grow and develop. I get asked this so much, so I am just gonna get it over with now. My "pro-nouns"... any. Yes, any of them will do. I find that by not worrying about that so much, and just focusing on the content of what someone is saying (also not yelling at someone for getting it "wrong"), I get to have better conversations and put people at ease. Trust me I have been called better, worse, and more hilarious things than any pro-noun. Does that make mine semi-pro-nouns? Hmm... food for thought.

What am I doing with my life? Oh the joys of this question, trust me when I say ADHD makes this hard to figure out. However, I do have a few things that I am currently working on and some that are for the future. The current things would be fitness, learning to cook, deciding on a few different jobs. I currently not in the shape I want to be in, and I have been slowly and healthily fixing that. As far as the cooking goes, it is just a lot of trial and error. As of typing this, last night I made some excellent quesadillas. My "claim to fame" for cooking is my garlic chicken fried rice. When it comes to jobs, I struggle a bit more. I have jobs I like, jobs that pay well, and everything in between. I am currently a chauffer for a company that assists in railroad operations. However, I am looking to change to another truck driving job that pays a heck of a ton better. The important part for me though is the home time. I have an issue where if I am not contributing monetarily wise, I feel like I am not providing value to the household.

In the future, I am hoping to buy a couple of racing go karts, and start my own racing team. I have plans to have events with "big brother/ big sister" and other local support groups. I figure it is a great way to have the community have some fun and raise support! I would also like to get into drawing and animation. Not for a job, but just as a passion project.

For the past one and half years, I have been trained as a submissive servant. My partner is a wonderful person, and they have helped me so much! Don't worry, they know I am posting things like this. They pushed me to be a better person, and learn so much about what it means to be submissive. Before that I spent about 4 or 5 years in the scene around my local area (not where I live now), and also have spent a long time talking to people on forums and over discord. I enjoy going to "vanilla-mode" munches, as it is a way to hang out with kinky people, and get to know the people rather than just the kink.

The reason for posting something this, is that my partner understands my need for a more "feminine" touch. This is something he cannot provide, so after some talking, we thought that I should look for someone who might be able to bring that into my life. That and well, he wants to show off how well he has trained me. I asked and he said he would prefer if they also got to meet the person I find, mostly to check red flags and all that safety stuff. (not downplaying it just there are lots of intricacies)

Some of my limits are things like permanent injury, feces, diapers, cutting, race play, and alcohol. Some of my softer limits would be things like foot play, urine, and blackmail. There are ways these things can be done that I can enjoy, but there are discussions that must happen.

I'd like to share some of my negatives, and it is not because I hate myself or anything. I love myself in fact. I just like openness and transparency, and what better way to show it than provide a whole picture. LETS GET READY TO RUBMLE!! So, I am a bit overweight right now. I feel more curvy at this point, but I am not where I want to be. I am a recovered alcoholic, something my partner helped me with in the process of bettering myself. I think it has been over a year now? I stopped keeping track when the cravings went away. Some might not view this as a negative, but I got to therapy. This is mostly for behavior things, and some mental issues that I have. I just like taking a proactive approach rather than wallow in my own self pity. I did that long enough and it never got better doing that. I've battled depression, sometimes my trust issues flair up, and I can get "anti-social" if I am not being careful.

One of the most helpful things for me, is when people around me see something that is off. Like if my self care is lacking, or if I am pushing people away, trying to isolate. I could go into more detail to help mitigate some of, if not all of, these issues.

Why pick me? I'll have you know I was a dodgeball champion at my local grade school. Just sayin'. In a more serious note though, I think I am a great choice for someone who doesn't want to feel like they have to do all the work for their sub. I am someone who strives to do better in most aspects of my life. I also am not afraid to say "No, I don't like that," or "(insert honorific here) I don't think that is the right way to do that," and even "Can I talk to you about this later?" All of any good relationship involves good communication, most of us know this. I am used to living with what most people would call "a living contract." It gets updated, changed, and adjusted whenever is necessary. Also, and one of the most important things I think, I don't just want to make myself a better sub. I love helping others become better versions of themselves too. This includes Dominants. For some reason people seem to think that Dominants are just this personality trait that someone just has. I think of these things more of as a skill. It takes practice to be a good anything, and good feedback is a great way to get better.

I'd like to thank you for your time, so thank you. I encourage you to provide any feedback you think. Positive or negative, I appreciate it all.

P.S. I am happy to provide pictures, proofs, or verification if needed. Just ask, and I will provide.