https://imgur.com/a/1IrtWDX

(I'm probably gonna regret putting my pictures on here but hey, it's 2024)

Hi there, I'm Dreamer.

Five months ago, I underwent a mental health treatment journey. I spent a month in a residential facility outside of Nashville for a month. After I was released, I spent a week and a half in a PHP in Chattanooga. It wasn't the right fit for me, unfortunately, so I drove myself to Knoxville, spent three months in PHP, stepped down to IOP and now I'm graduated.

I just moved into a sober living/halfway house in East Knoxville. It's been really lovely here so far. The house is modern, I have three roommates that are all sweethearts and everyone in general, staff included, is super sweet.

Anyway, where do I start about me?

I'm 26 years old, an Aquarius and an INFJ-T. I'm originally from the Middle TN area but here I am in East TN. I'm very thicc but I've been eating better since I've been in treatment. It is what it is lmao. Also, I'm 5'7" so I'm kinda tall-ish...?

My hobbies/interests: Writing, music, playing games occasionally, photography, watching TV/movies/YouTube, people watching, traveling (meaning looking at vacation destinations and getting sad about how expensive it is lmao) and much more that I can't think of. I started journaling on Day 3 of residential and I've been doing it ever since then. If you and I get close and I trust you, I'd love to share it with you.

Random stuff about me: I love animals (especially cats, dogs and snakes!), I haven't had a drink in almost five months because all of my programs require complete sobriety, regardless of whether you're there for mental health or substance abuse. I still can't drink since I'm in sober living house (along with the fact that mixing alcohol with the meds I take is a HUGE no-no) That being said, I don't mind if you drink socially; just know that I can't participate as long as I'm in here. Maybe one day, I can have a little cocktail but we'll see. I haven't drank since September, though. I don't have any issues with drinking or using drugs, but being sober anyway feels pretty damn good. Besides that, I'm clean and disease free. I have my own car and most of my sanity lmao.

Just an FYI, I do vape. I don't do it all day but it's still a habit, especially when I need it to take the edge off. I don't smoke cigs cuz they're nasty. I want to quit vaping at some point, but it is what it is until then. We all have our vices.

What am I looking for in a guy?

1. Someone the same height or taller than me
2. Someone with nice hair (I've always been super attracted to men with medium to long hair because I love to play with it haha)
3. Someone with great qualities such as kindness, honesty, affectionate, gentleness, maturity, understanding, etc...
4. Someone between the ages of 24-32 (I'm willing to make a slight exception if you match absolutely everything else that I'm looking for to a tee, but I'm absolutely not looking for anyone younger than 21 or older than 35)
5. Someone chivalrous to me and other women (holding doors open, being cognizant of my needs and feelings, lending a hand, etc)
6. Someone who loves to express their love languages and have them expressed back to them (My top love languages are words of affirmation, gift giving/receiving and quality time... Honestly, though, I love all of them)
7. Someone who enjoys going out and doing fun stuff but also enjoys hanging out at home, watching movies, etc... just to name a few examples!
8. Someone who loves animals! When I have my own place some day, I'd love to adopt a little kitten. I'm also interested in adopting an older cat too. They need love too!
9. Someone who lives in the nearby areas/states and is willing to visit regularly (and vice versa). I want us to spend time together and build a connection. I believe long distance relationships CAN be successful if there is consistent trips until circumstances change to close the gap. I'm kinda on the fence about international connections; if you have the resources to come see me, by all means, but if not... Eh.
   1. Someone who has a car, so we can drive around and do stuff when we're together. I can be your very own passenger princess! Haha.
   2. Someone who enjoys meaningful conversations. I hate small talk, one word answers or ignoring what I talk about in general. If you can't communicate or don't like to keep in touch throughout the day, please don't reach out.

I want someone to hold hands with, go on dates, run errands together, give random kisses and hugs, cuddle up on cold nights and rainy days, take spontaneous drives and see where the roads leads us. As far as physical intimacy goes, I need to take things really slow for my own personal reasons. I can explain more about once we know each other better and I feel comfortable enough telling you about it.

A few things I won't tolerate: "Situationships", cheating, polyamory, open relationships, "unicorns," racism, prejudice, bigotry, race fetishization, sexism, general disrespect... I shouldn't have to say any of this but experience on here has shown me otherwise.

Kink wise, I would prefer for us to talk about that once we get to know each other better and have transitioned into a romantic relationship. I'm a switch, I don't prefer one side over the other. But if you are primarily a sub, I don't mind being solely a domme. But if you're a switch, I can be dominant or submissive, depending on our headspace and all that. Just to give a quick FYI without going too much into detail: I'm a soft domme. I don't like anything painful, degrading or violent, but especially not towards you. Sub, switch or whatever, you absolutely deserve the utmost of respect, love and consent.

There's tons more I could say but I'll leave it there.

When you message me, please tell me about yourself (age, height, hair color, eye color, etc), a recent SFW picture of yourself (since I put mine up, it'd only be fair for you to send one back). Also, please confirm that you're willing and able to nurture an LDR with plans to meet if things get serious between us. (But if you are in Knoxville/East TN in general, it shouldn't be a problem)

Longer messages tend to catch my eye. Please don't just say "Hey," I won't respond to that at all. Also, please include the word "Spooky" in your message so I know you read through my entire post. If you don't include the things that I asked for, I won't respond.

I hope to hear from you soon!

Stay sweet!