https://imgur.com/a/1IrtWDX

(I'm probably gonna regret putting my pictures on here but hey, it's 2024)

Hi there, I'm Dreamer.

Four months ago, I underwent a mental health treatment journey. I spent a month in a residential facility outside of Nashville for a month. After I was released, I spent a week and a half in a PHP in Chattanooga. It wasn't the right fit for me, so I drove myself to Knoxville and I've spent the last two months in PHP and then stepped down to IOP.

I graduated from the program yesterday, so I'm finally free! Haha. (I'm just kidding, I miss everybody SO much already and it's only been a day) I just moved into a sober living/independent living house in East Knoxville for the time being. So far, it's been lovely here. The house is modern, and everyone here is super sweet.

Anyway, where do I start about me?

I'm 25 years old (26 tomorrow!), an Aquarius and an INFJ-T. Originally from the Middle TN area. I'm very thicc but I've been eating better and exercising since I've been in treatment. It is what it is lmao. Also, I'm 5 feet, 7 inches so I'm kinda tall-ish for a girl...? Maybe...?

My hobbies/interests: Writing, music, playing computer/video games occasionally, photography, watching TV and movies, people watching, traveling and much more I can't think of. I started journaling on Day 3 of residential and I've been doing it most days since then. If you and I get close and I trust you enough, I'd love to share my entries with you.

Random stuff about me: I love animals (especially cats, dogs and snakes!), I haven't had a drink in four months since the program I was in requires complete sobriety, regardless of whether you were there for mental health or substance abuse. I still can't drink because I live in a sober living house (along with the fact that mixing alcohol with some of the meds that I take is a HUGE no-no) I don't mind if you drink socially; just know that I can't/won't participate in as long as I'm in my housing. I don't do drugs (obvs), I'm clean and disease free... I have my own car and most of my sanity lmao.

Just an FYI, I do vape. I don't do it all day, every day but it's still a habit, especially when I need something to take the edge off. I want to quit vaping at some point, but it is what it is.

What am I looking for?

1. Someone taller than me (I'm 5'7" in case you forgot)
2. Someone with nice hair (I've always been super attracted to men with medium to long hair)
3. Qualities such as kindness, honesty, affectionate, gentleness, maturity, understanding, etc...
4. Between the ages of 24-32 (I'm willing to make a slight exception if you match absolutely everything else that I'm looking for, but I'm absolutely not looking to date anyone younger than 21 or older than 35)
5. Chivalrous to me (holding doors open, being cognizant of my personal needs and feelings, etc) and heck, other women as well!
6. Someone who loves to express and have their preferred love languages expressed back to them (My top three are words of affirmation, gift giving/receiving and quality time... But honestly, I love all of them tbh!)
7. Enjoys going out and doing fun stuff but also enjoys hanging out at home, watching movies, ordering in, etc... just to name a few examples!
8. Loves animals! Whenever I have my own place some day, I'd love to adopt a kitten. I had to give up my cats when my mom and I were evicted back in September, so my heart yearns for a little feline friend. I'm also interested in adopting an older cat. They need love too!
9. Lives in the nearby areas/states or if farther away, is willing to visit regularly (and vice versa). I want us to spend time together and build a connection. I believe long distance relationships CAN be successful if there is serious intentions to meet in person when we both agreed on it.. Even meeting before all of that would be pretty nice, just to see if we vibe well together.
   1. Has a car, so we can drive around and do stuff when we're together. I can be the best passenger princess out there! Haha.
   2. Enjoys meaningful conversations. I don't like small talk and one word answers.. So if you can't communicate well or don't like to keep in touch throughout the day, don't waste my time.

I want someone to hold hands with, go on dates, run errands together, engage in lots of physical affection, cuddle up on cold nights and rainy days, take spontaneous drives and see where it leads to. As far as eventual physical intimacy goes, I need to take things slow. (AKA I have trauma and I need to take my time)

Also, I want to add that if you're just looking for friends or "chat buddies," please don't waste my time. I'm looking for a serious, long term relationship ONLY. I realize that most good relationships start off as friends, of course, which is totally fine... I just want to avoid getting emotionally invested in someone and them saying, "Oh I just wanted to be friends."

Anywho, a few things to address that I won't tolerate: "Situationships", cheating, polyamory, open relationships, "unicorns," racism, prejudice, bigotry, race fetishization, sexism, general disrespect towards anyone... I shouldn't have to say any of this at all, but experience has shown me otherwise.

Kink wise, I would prefer for us to talk about that once we get to know each other better and have transitioned into a romantic relationship. I'm a switch, I don't prefer one side over the other. But if you are primarily a sub, I don't mind being solely a domme. But if you're a switch, I can be dominant or submissive, depending on our headspace and all that. Just to give a quick FYI without going too much into detail: I'm a soft domme. I don't like anything painful, degrading or violent, but especially not towards you. Sub, switch or whatever, you absolutely deserve the utmost of respect, love and consent.

There's tons more that I could say about myself but I'll leave it right there for us to build upon as we talk.

When you message me, please tell me about yourself (age, height, hair color, eye color, body type (you're not required to put any specific number), a recent SFW picture of yourself (since I put mine on this post, it'd only be fair after all haha,), if you're willing and able to commit to transitioning to an in person relationship through regular visits and maybe eventual relocation, which we can discuss later on.(But if you are nearby, that definitely shouldn't be a problem in meeting each other and feeling out the vibe)

Anything else you want to add to your message would be much appreciated; longer messages tend to catch my eye. Please include the word "Spooky" in your message so I know you actually read the entire post. If you don't include the things I asked for on the previous paragraph and/or you send me a low effort message, I won't respond. Feel free to ask me any questions that you might have!

I hope to hear from you soon!

Stay sweet!