Hey there! I am NOT looking for something casual, I am not a toy, I have the same value as you. If you PLAN to have an ending to our relationship (at ANY point whatsoever) then I don't want it. A big warning/disclaimer that I think is worth mentioning is that I am progressing (relatively) slow in life. I'm 23, I've only worked one job, and currently, is living with my mom. One of my main goals in my life right now is to gain independence (both in the sense of financially and general independence). I'm doing my best but motivation is something I'm having trouble with. Here's some things about me.

Physical: Chinese/Viet 5'11'', black hair leaning towards medium-long hair (for a guy at least), brown eyes, glasses, with an average weight profile (not skinny, not really fat)

Personality: ESFP (just so it's thrown out there). I'm an extremely expressive and at times energetic person (and other times a smol bean and like REALLY sleepy). I'm definitely a more feminine guy in relativity to other guys, I feel more in tune and understood by females than guys. I'm also ... nerdy? geeky? both? I'm the type of guy to go off on random tangents about like..... the things I find interesting about random things. Both nerdy/geeky and analytical in a sense, with a tad of inquisitive curiosity sprinkled in. I'd like to think that I'm a relatively kind and understanding person, and I (at least as far as I can discern) have good intent when it comes to life. I want good for everybody around me and I want to be there for my friends both in good and bad times. I generally have a low self esteem (though I've been doing much better after therapy) and generally soft boy vibes. One thing peculiar about me is that I'm very understanding, sometimes to a fault (at least that's what some people say). I am the very opposite of judgmental and I try to understand people, and I value this because I used to feel very misunderstood, and I never want anybody to feel that same way. I'm also what I would say am more prone to emotions (especially in relativity to other guys), which can mean many things including (e.g. strong emotions, sensitivity, mood stability, etc...) if you see that as a general negative then I think you're very unlikely to get along with me.

Kink/Femdom part: Yeah this IS r/femdompersonals so I'll explain some more about that profile on me. I'm more of a gentle femdom person on average, but I still enjoy some of the rougher femdom stuff. I don't want to be somebody's little "pet" or "plaything" I'm looking for a long-term fruitful relationship. Things that are boundaries that I won't cross or at least I don't think I'm interested in are are: pegging, most forms of humiliation/degradation, physical pain, bodily fluid play(???). Thank you for reading all of this, if you have any questions please don't hesitate to message me, I like to think I'm the opposite of scary. Regardless whether it's me or not, have a lovely rest of your day and/or good luck on your search.