Note: I am probably going to be overwhelmed about my photo being attached to my reddit acc online and delete this in like a month, but shoot your shot if you see this, and feel like a match

Disclaimer: I won’t respond to any of these types of messages: “ saw your post and youre soooo hot and perfect please please control my orgasm (with no other info) ”. Or “I don’t match any of your preferences but maybe you please could give me a chance” , or “ you’re a bitch for having preferences, you'll never find someone with these high demands, you’re not even that hot'', or “i just would like something casual if that’s okay” or “I know I am a perfect fit, I don’t plan on proving it or getting to know each other, domme me like tomorrow, also I live in a different country and don’t plan on moving” ,“we’re soulmates, but I’m not sending my photo because I’m shy sowwyy, but let’s meet up at my place so you can peg me”. Or “hi/hello” that then switches to “I’m just looking for online friends :3” <-

I spent 2-4 hours typing this up, please read through before jumping to the kinks and my photo, please, this is for serious relationship inquiry, not a hookup.

I want to meet up within few weeks after chatting, 2 hours away from Boston, this is in person only post

Hello, this is going to be a lot of text, sorry in advance. My goal is to be as genuine as possible about myself and my needs. I will provide my photo, but I do really hope that you click with my personality and life goals first. As most of my past partnerships were initiated due to me being a good status symbol and an eye candy, or just sex. I don’t want to repeat that.

Maybe writing so much is a turn off. But I just feel like people aren’t honest nowadays, we just want people to share our best sides, we hide our true selves because we don’t want to be hurt, because we don’t believe there’s kind, good people out there, that we would be manipulated. This is me on a paper, my true desires, positives, and flaws, as well as my face. Maybe it’s too much, maybe I’m too much for you, but I hope I’m just enough for someone out there.

Life goals/plans/what I want (romanticized lol)

I am looking for an end goal, someone to raise children with, someone to bring to my Slavic country of origin and show my country side. Someone to kiss every morning and then ride and leave my bite marks all over their body. Someone to braid their hair every night and sing lullabies to or with. Someone I would gush to my friends and coworkers about. Someone to hold hands on while walking down the street displaying my prized possession.

My life plan, as I’m 25 : having kids is non negotiable for me. I also would love to adopt, as well as I welcome whoever already has kids. I want to have kids within 5 years, and I plan on just going ivf if I’m still single by then. Your income level doesn’t matter, I make close to 6 figures and it'll only grow as I’m pretty career driven and work in biotech. I also don’t need to worry about buying a house, I plan on staying in MA.

My personality: manic pixie energy lol. I am a neurodivergent gender rat who has so many projects in mind, my eyes dart a lot, I’m bubbly and very talkative. I give androgynous energy. I really appreciate an intelligent conversation about whatever video essays I watched (god I spend so much time on video essays, fuckin, that 3 hour documentary about disney passes, i slurped that shit up). I primarily listen to metal, indie, edm, russian pop. I like thrifting, like a lot. Characters I really relate to include Power from Csm, and Yamato from One Piece. I’m extroverted and outgoing, but I find myself at utmost peace on a couch with my significant other, playing video games or watching tv while working on art projects.

I’m a taurus with sagittarius moon uwu

Audhd if it helps, got autism and adhd, not officially diagnosed cuz I want to adopt.

Other hobbies include: Drawing, alternating clothes, singing, hiking, cycling, clubbing/going to drag events, car rides, baking, boardgames, some mtg, anime/cosplay, very little bit of videogames. I require a lot of energy and stimulation, as I give a lot of energy. I am optimistic and try to do anything i can to improve the shitstorm that we are living in. I also foster rats. If you’re the type of person who needs a lot of personal space, I’m not for you. If you’re the the type of person who needs a partner to feel whole, I’m also not for you. I like good night texts, routine dates, and updating my partners with my daily life, as well as morning and bedtime calls. I genuinely want to know about my partner’s day and their thoughts.

Kinks: I’m a dom leaning,but I can sometimes sub. I love rigging, pegging, humiliating. Got many toys and 200 ft of rope. Spanking (giving/receiving), body worship, and desperation. I enjoy degrading people for being too horny. I also like drawing on people, intense mark making, with my teeth or nails, primal play. Pet play, furniture play, and of course all the vanilla stuff. ( PIV I will only do with you If I would not mind bearing your child (i am on birth control, and pro choice, but I plan on keeping and supporting the child if something happens, please respect my choice)).Feet? I was told I have beautiful feet by a foot fetishist, I think this kink is fucking hillarius and the easiest to please, love me a foot person.

In general, I have a very high libido when I’m dating someone I love. I really enjoy routine, we obviously don’t have to do fancy stuff all the time, sometimes it's just nice to get that boost of oxytocin every morning. My general way of going about domming is attentiveness : I will be watching you and listening to you a lot, how you squirm and how your face changes, listening to a good moan is my biggest turn on.

Willing to try more extreme stuff as golden showers (only giving), or like pretty strong degradation play/dirty feet lol, needle play (i use needles for work already lol), knife play a bit, only as a form of mark making. Chasity I dont mind and willing to play with it.

Turn offs: scat is a turn off, i dont like to be degraded as a sub, and my biggest turn off is anything to do with polyamory or open relationships, enm etc. this is past trauma related truly non-negotiable. Please no threesomes, no playing with others, nothing. Maybe a light spanking session in a dungeon, but that’s it. No cucking too, I only want to have sex with my partner. I also have nothing against poly people, but it’s just painful for me personally.

My negative qualities: I’m pretty disorganized. My apartment is clean but i am late a lot, unless it’s super important (i will let you know 5 minutes before the meet though if I am late and how long it’ll take, i will never leave ya hanging) . I set up too many things and then get physically ill from commiting to all of them. I have moments where i get overwhelmed and i just vent and vent and vent, I’m a bit of a cry baby. I guess I’m also more needy than an average person. I’m also super hard on myself. Oh I also have a lowkey eating disorder, but i am pretty chill about it and I never do anything dangerous. I am mostly recovered

Like what you hear so far? I obviously got so much more, but I figure Dms are there lol.

Height : 5’ 6”

Weight:130 lb slim

Face: round, slavic ethnic background

Body mods: just septum piercing, stretching my gauge, plan on getting tattoos

This is mee https://www.reddit.com/r/androgyny/comments/17veb2c/i_wanna_feel_handsome_i_wanna_feel_pretty_has/

Qualities in my partner:

I think I kinda wrote what I require earlier on, but in case you just scrolled down to first see if you would be a good fit before getting excited about me as a person, here’s some simple needs of mine:

Emotional intelligence: if someone is telling you a fact or info about themselves they’re excited about, but you don’t have interest in, how do you respond? Do you say you’re happy to hear that, and genuinely feel happy for them, or do you just nod along, waiting for your turn? How attentive are you to partners/friends when they are venting about their work or love life? Can you recall being in a relationship, and feeling like you’re “doing everything you can” but your partner is still not satisfied, and you never found out why? Think about these questions, don’t brush them off. I have spent years journaling, talking, being in therapy, this shit isn’t easy to learn, and I will sense your inability to connect with me on an emotional level on our first date, don’t waste your or my time. You won’t be pegged on the first date.

Intentions: Plain and simple, are you excited about starting a family? Do you know what type of partnership is ideal for you? Do you have set aside time in your week to dedicate to finding or bonding with a potential partner? I personally want routine dates, calls, goodnight/good morning texts. I want to have a lot of conversations about life, kink, future goals. If you’re not a planner, that’s fine, but I know I am, and I’d love to lead, but I want enthusiastic consent about it. If you’re unsure about what you want in a relationship, I am not going to be your playground. I know what I want, I am willing to compromise on some aspects and work with someone else who has similar goals, but I want someone who is equally intentional.

Gender roles: fuck em. I am not a girl, I am somewhere in between. I can dress feminine and be a very good femdom and domme ya in a feminine way, but during non-kink I am 3 raccoons in a trench coat. If you want a she/her gORlfriend, and wanna only use terms such as mistress, queen, goddess, instead of my personal preferred “master”, I’m not for you. I don’t want to be the only person doing house chores, being “taken care of financially or whatever”, and taking care of the kids. I am not attracted to that, i want to kiss your hand and open doors for ya, as well as buy you flowers, I like courting, as well as being courted.

Altruism and Optimism: dude, it’s 2024, it’s cold out there, I just want to do my best and work towards a brighter future. The government sucks, people are dying, and we are all depressed in some way or another. It’s so hard to stay positive out there. Many of my past partners have some form of learned helplessness, and I was their sole “happiness” and ray of positivity, I am done with that. I want someone to uplift me too.

Aesthetics: The only thing I’m asking for is some form of androgyny (it could be as simple as you painting nails if youre Masc, and keeping short hair if you’re fem) and, idk, maybe bmi of 30 or less (even muscle, I am small, i am not attracted to people I can’t lift and throw on the bed). I also like, do have an eating disorder, I don’t think dating someone super overweight would help me, my relationship with food is already fucked up. If you see my photo, and imagine yourself next to me, would you feel like we would look good together? I’m asking this because I like taking couple photos and I will always stand out with my intense outfits, I will likely try to dress ya up and get you clothes~ Standing out with me is going to just be part of the lifestyle, I don’t plan on changing that, I’m a peacock. I want my partner to feel comfortable in their skin, and be proud of at least some aspects of their looks, as I have had experiences with people in the past trying to “tone me down to their level”. Sure, I have people and aesthetics I scream “awooga” over, but looks are not defining anything. If we mesh personality wise really well, that is what matters most.

STILL I would need to know who I am talking to, no photo, no response. Whether age is a match, etc. I want to at least find ya a bit cute, but I promise, as long as you have a cute smile, i will find ya attractive.

Age: I’m 25, i would like someone 24-35 of age, probably not younger than 24 (unless you feel like you're ready to settle like now lol) but willing to go a bit older.

No gender preference obv

TLDR/summary:, what I bring to the table - financial stability, lots and lots of physical affection in the form of ropes, lots of kink play, and cuddles, lovely home made meals, hella attention and compliments, as well as handmade or store bought gifts, fun life stories, car rides, and companionship, ear to listen and shoulder to cry on. If things go well - a permanent place to live in, a loving co-parent.

What I’d like from my life partner - a soft and kind soul, thought provoking conversations and something you’re passionate about, willing to assist me with organization and house chores, ability to listen when I’m anxious and need someone to vent, nice hugs and cuddles, clear communication about your needs and open mindedness when I express my needs (in kink or not!) , patience and time to dedicate to really know each other, loyalty, compassion, love for kids and animals and a desire for a family.

MA area only, I have a car and can travel up to 2 hours from Boston, not doing online

I connect best in person, and tbh I am bad at texting so if I don’t respond it is probably nothing to do with you. I tried to be as clear about myself as possible, but I, just like you, am a 3 dimensional human, I understand getting excited that there’s someone out there who shares your kinks, but theres more to connections than that. Tell me what aspect of my description resonated with you, attach your photo, and we will go from there :)

No matter what, even if I get flooded with hate messages and unwanted dick pics, I know that I’m not going to give up. I know they’re out there, my soulmate <3