IMP Note I’m looking for something in person only. Be willing to travel to Oxford (I would prefer meeting once a week) often.

You: Well-rounded individual who is educated, has a good career (a smart mind is incredibly attractive to me), hobbies, friends and a decent social life.

Appearance: Tall, muscular/ athletic (I have a thing for nice chest and abs) and a conventionally attractive. I don’t care about ethnicity/race.

My usual type is a nerd with the body of an athlete. I’m attracted to guys who look and are considered dominant / ‘alpha males’ in public, at their job and by people in their circle. You will be submissive just for me and that will be our secret.

I don’t like yes-men. I want you to have your own mind and the balls to speak it, a good sense of humour, sarcasm/a quick wit and a healthy flirt to roast ratio. I want a friend first and then a slave/submissive.

My view on submission, dynamics and what I want from you:

I prefer for us to get to know each other better before we begin anything.

I want to train and mould you to become the perfect partner for me. I want my partner to be dependable and capable who can use his brain to anticipate my desires and act on them without being asked. I want you to add value to my life and proactively make it easier and comfortable. I want us to grow in this dynamic together.

I don’t want to be a Domme just in the bedroom. When we have built trust and connection over time, I would prefer to take this further to TPE.

Me: I’m Indian, in good shape and I’m considered fairly attractive. I’m college graduated, have a satisfying career, and I have my life together. I’m friendly, understanding and sweet when I’m not being mean. Also, being mean (in a jokey, sarcastic way) is how I flirt.

Kinks:

For me, domination is more psychological than physical. It is about overpowering your mind, your ego and your own desires.

What we do, and how intense we are would usually depend on my mood, our energy in that moment and the day. The dynamic can include days of different intensities like -

-A chill date where we go out for dinner, watch a nice move, come home and cuddle -I use you as a chair to sit down and do make up on -You cook for me and serve me food naked (or only wearing an apron) while I tease you. Then, I sit at the table to have my dinner while you have yours kneeling by my feet. -I tape your mouth shut, tie you down and turn your ass red, blue and green before I fuck it.

I’m into pain. I find amusement and immense pleasure in knowing how much you are willing to and can take for me. (This is not just for pain but for your general submissiveness as well. The more you do for me, the more pleased I am.) The happier you make me, the happier you are.

A few of the things that I am into are - sadism, spanking, choking, humiliation & degradation, full body worship, training, service, oral, human furniture, collars, pegging. This list is not exhaustive, these are just kinks that I will not do without.

I’m not into femboys, sissies, or crossdressing. I respect limits.

I’ve put a lot of effort into this message and I expect the same from you. Tell me what submission means to you. Tell me what kind of dynamic you are looking for. Send me a message that is like an ad that you would post on this subreddit. Bonus points if it turns me on.

A message with a picture sfw picture (especially if it’s a face that I find cute) is almost guaranteed a reply.

No nsfw pictures. Messages with a dick pic and low effort messages will be instantly ignored.

I prefer chat over messages. Let’s get to know each other ;)