Just to make it easier for people to sort through posts; I am only looking for people between 22 to 32; who aren’t conservatives or fundamentalists. You must be able to play in English. I won’t respond to messages that don’t fit this criteria. Please read the whole thing before writing to me.

Now that that’s out of the way a little about me. You can call me Rain (or Miss if you must); I’m a bicurious, poly, leftie. I’m straightforward and generally good at expressing myself. I also prefer direct communication from my partners. I can discuss the most random things with great enthusiasm, which can sometimes come across a little intense but I don’t do it to be contrarian or argumentative. I just really enjoy feeling fully engaged with whatever I’m doing; whether it’s a random conversation about the most inane things, work (teaching), board game night, femdom mind games or my hobbies.

Speaking of hobbies, I spend my most of my free time experimenting with one visual art medium or another, researching random things in the middle of the night, reading, cooking, or binging TV shows. (Hopefully at least one of these things is interesting to you)

As a Domme; I enjoy tease & denial, pegging/anal play, sensation play, impact play, erotic hypnosis, some aspects of humiliation and medical play. Specific kinks beyond that are not that important to me. I’m looking for someone to bounce off of (like a feedback loop of horniness haha) because what I really get a kick out of is the ability to elicit strong emotional responses from my subs, whether it’s from pleasure or pain. I like figuring out what makes my sub tick and use it against them.

This also means I might be open to exploring a lot of the kinks you have even if they aren’t attractive to me on their own. My exceptions are things I don’t find hygienic or morally acceptable. First category includes things like scat while the second includes things involving minors, animals, race play and stuff where I don’t feel confident that my sub is safe)

What I’m looking for more specifically;

1. I want more than just a casual play partner. I’m hoping for a long term dynamic with someone I can call my sub but also consider a real friend. A romantic connection would be nice, but given the logistics of the situation it isn’t a very likely outcome. Even so, a dynamic is an important commitment to me and I’d like to find someone who feels similarly.

2. On a scale of bedroom only to 24/7 lifestyle, my ideal dynamic falls somewhere in the middle. I’d like to be able to hang out and have vanilla conversations where you don’t feel you have to tiptoe around me. In fact, I’m hoping to connect on a sfw level first. Play is out of the question until I get to know you well enough to take a liking to you. I don’t know how long that might be; and I hate being pressured on this front. Approach me as a person first please, don’t immediately ask to be my sub, you don’t even know what a dynamic with me looks like yet! (Tell me a fun fact about yourself in your response so I know you’re reading all of this :D)

3. Once that connection is established I’d like to find someone who can make time (and space) for at least one full play session a week (ideally a couple most of the time). I also like the idea of having more than just play time to have fun in. There should at least be regular reminders of our roles in the dynamic; flirting, tasks, photos, etc. (Obviously what this might look like needs to be negotiated first.)

4. Physical attributes are not a priority if we are a good match otherwise. That said, I do have a couple of preferences; I tend to find feminine features more attractive and I’m not a big fan of excessive body hair. (With men it’s also a bonus if you look skinny enough for me to overpower 😅)

5. I’m gmt 3 so I’d prefer for you to be in a similar time zone or be available during compatible hours. I am a night owl so the east coast of the Americas can work if you go to bed before midnight. The west coast doesn’t unfortunately, and neither does East Asia/Australia

6. Someone who is open to non-monogamy as I’m poly and have a primary partner. (He wouldn’t be involved with my bdsm dynamic in any way, beyond knowing it exists.)

If you think we might get along tell me a little about yourself and maybe mention why my post caught your attention.

P.S. (Sending a sfw photo along with your message would be appreciated but isn’t necessary if you’re uncomfortable with it.)