This is my first time posting a personal ad so I’m nervous and excited. I know it’s long but I wanted to make sure I put plenty in so if anyone is interested they can make an informed decision.

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Myself outside the kink:

23 years old, 5’9, and overweight. I have brown long hair, brown eyes, and a beard. I’m a masculine sub and I’d like to avoid sharing pictures for a bit due to safety reasons. I’m working to get through college to become an environmental scientist. Which means I’m still working on becoming economically self sufficient. I’m still early in that but I know my effort and work will be worth it. I’m also doing my best to learn how to cook and try new recipes. I’m not going to share my exact location but I can say I dwell within the Southwest of the United States.
When it comes to hobbies/passions, my top three are video games, doodling, and table top games. I mainly play single player rpgs and love to play as chaotic evil characters when the option is available (Fable, Kotor, Mass Effect and a few more are games I adore). My doodles aren’t at a point I feel comfortable posting on Reddit but it’s something creative I enjoy. For table top games my top one is Magic the Gathering, I enjoy playing Rakdos and Grixis decks.

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What kind of relationship I'm looking for:

My personal requirements for a relationship are being 20-29, being plus size, and living in the United States. The age range is because I’d like to have a partner around my age. Being plus size is a must because it’s an absolute weakness of mine. Being in the United States is required because it makes building a future more do able. Being in the southwest though would be more convenient however, I’m good with a LDR.
With requirements out of the way, the kind of relationship I’m looking to build is a long term monogamous relationship. I say build because I’m not expecting us to immediately and drastically change for the sake of the relationship. I want things to breathe and go at a pace that works for us both. Relationships require all folks involved to walk together. It doesn’t do much good if one person is sprinting while the other is trying to smell the roses.
With that being said, I want to keep things on Reddit until we’re both comfortable with one another before taking it off of reddit. Also, as I previously mentioned I’m working through college so my resources and time aren’t substantial. However, that won’t stop me from being a great partner you can rely on to support you in the ways I can. I will also ensure to make time for you, both as a partner and as a good boy.

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Myself in the kink:

The kink of D/s dynamic I’m looking for is a mix of being a service sub and a good boy for a gentle domme. I would like to surrender and serve both inside and outside the bedroom to someone who is treats me with love, affection, and more. In return I offer my love, affection, honesty, support, obedience and more. I want to be the kind of sub that makes you feel happy, confident, and powerful.
However, I can’t do this at the expense of my college, hobbies, and basically myself. So the idea I would propose is a metaphorical leash length. Depending upon what either of us have scheduled and/or desire will determine how immediate my submission is. On some days the leash will be long and loose because something needs to get done, something important has come up, or whatever reason. On more free days I’d love for it to be nice and short so you can have me all to yourself. Just depends what’s going on but, at the end of the day I still want to be on that leash and for you to know that I’m yours.
To highlight some of my favorite kinks and hard limits.
-Favorite kinks: Body Worship (being the worshipper), smothering, and praise.
-Hard Limits: degradation, humiliation, Findom, grossdom, polygamy, pegging, having my ass penetrated, forced bisexuality, feminization, CBT, hard impact play, permanent marks, scat, water sports, consuming cum, diapers, knives, blood, cuckholding, wearing chasity cages, feederism.

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What being submissive means to me:

I also want to take a bit and share what being submissive means to me. Being submissive means being honest, communicating, and being active.
First, honest is important to my submission. When I first discovered this kink I struggled with coming to terms with the fact I want to be submissive. I’m someone who takes pride in personal independence and freedom. The idea of being submissive to another felt antithetical to who I was as a person. However, I’ve learned to be honest with myself and embrace the fact that my desire to submit isn’t wrong and doesn’t invalidate who I am. At the end of the day, I’m choosing to give my submission.
Second, communication is a corner stone of D/s dynamics. I know it’s my responsibility to communicate what my desires and limits are. It’s also my responsibility to listen to what your desires and limits are. Both ensure that we can receive the love and satisfaction we seek. I will do my part to make sure that you’re not flying blind when it comes to making choices.
Third, in my opinion being submissive isn’t a passive thing. It something that has to be actively chosen and followed through. I desire to surrender myself over to a domme and help her feel powerful. But, for that to happen I have to let myself surrender and have to actively adhere to what has been agreed upon. What this means is that I understand my responsibility as a sub in a D/s dynamic.
To close this section off I want to reiterate something I said before. I want to be the kind of sub that makes you feel happy, confident, and powerful. I will do what I can to make that happen.

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Verification if you're interested in me:

I appreciate if you’ve read this far and I know this has been a loooooong ad. If you are interested in me I need you to verify yourself in the first message. When you do reach out to me; first get a piece of paper and write your username, the subreddit’s name, and draw a picture of a spider somewhere on that paper. Then, have at least two of your fingers in the picture either holding the paper or on it when you take it. I don’t need to see your face or body because I would prefer us be on the safe side starting out. Finally, tell me a little about yourself in your first message. Also, if you have any questions for me don’t be afraid to ask. If happy to help clear stuff up if something is confusing or give more details. I’ll do my best to get you a swiftly as I can, I appreciate the patience.
Thank you for reading.