Hi!

I'm a submissive cis straight man hoping to find a relationship with someone who enjoys gentle femdom. The fantasy of a woman being more powerful than me is something that’s had a deep pull on me ever since I was a very young kid, I think even before I knew what sex was. Growing up I had sort of conditioned myself to hide this part of me to avoid being made fun of for it. Opening up and becoming more secure with these desires as adult has been a slow process but one I'm now more focused on than I have been before. I'm still a relative newbie to this, but I've been in enough relationships and talked to enough people that it's become clear to me that I need some semblance of this dynamic for a relationship to be successful.

Some more about me, I'm a white guy, 6'4". I have brown hair and blue eyes. I keep in pretty decent shape though I'd say I'm probably more thin than muscular. I was lucky to have loving parents and a fairly drama free household growing up. Took me a while to recognize what an amazing and rare thing it is to be emotionally mature / stable when dating, it feels like a superpower to be able to clearly communicate feelings to people and not be avoidant or anxious in my attachment to them. As far as kinks, I'm really open minded and curious to explore but currently understand myself to be very much on the gentle side of the spectrum (whips and chains and CBT do not seem like a turn on). Facesitting and pegging both seem super super hot though I'll admit I haven't actually tried either one yet, just fantasized about them a ton :) A really core part of my personality is getting fulfillment from bringing joy to others. In other words, I'm really driven to learn what you like. The more I can please you and help you feel like a goddess the more excited and fulfilled I'll be.

My goal is to find a long term relationship with a partner who enjoys this sort of dynamic.

Outside of kink, I love to share knowledge and learn from others. Some of my favorite topics are indie bands, film & tv, coffee shops, and everything to do with human computer interaction. I'm a designer turned software engineer professionally. I play badminton recreationally at a somewhat high level and enjoy cooking, photography, hikes, traveling. I've been 30 countries, most of them in the last decade.

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I feel like this should go without saying, but in case it doesn’t: Like any normal person, I respect boundaries. I will not push any kinks or fetishes on you. You don't owe me anything at any point i.e. I won't be upset by you chatting with me and then ghosting in the middle of the conversation.

(Not interested in trans-females, sorry. You gals are great but it’s not my thing.)

Hoping to hear from you via DM or Reddit Chat. :)