I know what takes to please a woman. I speak not of expansive cars where ownership cannot be determined, nor measurements in inches, related to bedroom prowess. What you desire, is it pizza? Sushi? Perhaps bagels. Cheese. Boba. Fries. For I possess the means to obtain such things and bring you the joy you deserve. Oh so do you? Well that’s beside the point so let me finish this post before reminding me that you can also afford a few slices.
First picture: Myself in my element. I chose this one because I still have some anonymity. Arguably nsfw because I don’t have a shirt on.
https://imgur.com/a/5WWSLQc
So I see all these posts here or other places online and have begun to feel that I should do more to reach out. We all deserve to be happy and find what we are looking for. I need to put in the effort instead of occasionally showing up to some events and just kind of hanging out for a bit. Looking up what other people do online and imagining it for myself isn’t going to solve anything.
Instead of starting off by being greedy and saying “this is who you need to be,” I’d rather provide some thoughts and future plans so that you may decide whether this is the same kind of life you would like. Yes the kink interests are fun but there’s much more to the kind of connection I hope to find.
My first career-related job was here in nyc. I figured I’d do the commute for a bit and then get a job elsewhere but I ended up moving to the city 10 years ago. While I’m not sure I want to live here for good, I don’t have serious plans over what to do next. It’s definitely possible that I stay put, though it would be nice to have more space among nature as well. Perhaps a yard and garden. I also like the idea of a garage or basement for storage and exercise equipment. Gaming room? Study? Dungeon! Either way I want to create a home with someone, a space for ourselves to relax and feel safe. And a dishwasher! The actual machine, not just me. Still bitter about leaving my last place which had one.
I tend to get ahead of myself with thoughts. This can be good and bad based on the situation. For instance, I care about saving up for events and long-term future. I enjoy making lists of things I want to do, even if it’s just “eat dinner and go to bed early.” I also enjoy not following my own instructions. Being bad is just so thrilling. I sometimes feel stressed when I can’t find a calendar for the following year in October because I figured out a bunch of trips and want to physically write them in. Well not it’s December and I didn’t even open my 2024 calendar yet but at least I am not worrying. I also come up with too many scenarios. Teamed up with a few guys at Barcade to beat Ninja Turtles? They’re definitely going to want to hang out with me all the time and go to an anime convention. Random message online from someone with no pictures? Probably my ideal match. I should determine whether they are interested in marriage and want to select a wedding venue. But seriously I do have some wedding ideas if that happens.
My days of partying aren’t what they used to be. I’ve been going out after work to social events or board games but am no longer excited to be out until the sun rises. I think it did happen once this year, where I was chained up until the party ended so at least I had a good reason to be out- joyful helplessness. We later thought the keys were lost but that just made it more exciting. I’m sure it can still be fun to stay out so late but I prefer to get to bed and wake up at a reasonable time the next day so that I can exercise in the morning. This can also be an argument against city life- I don’t need all the after-hours action on a weekly basis.
As for what I’m looking for, a long-term relationship with someone to spend the rest of my life with. Friends would be nice also, as I'll sometimes meet others at events but they don't return next time. While I understand the nature of the subreddit I’m posting this in, I need to take care of my partner in order to feel fulfilled. I once read that the man should do the chasing in a relationship and realized how this is definitely true for me in regard to a successful relationship. Being the domme doesn’t mean that person should do all the work, or have their needs ignored. Regardless of who is in charge, I would want to help my partner get to bed at a healthy hour, and encourage them to drink enough water throughout the day. Yes cages and touching butts are nice things but I need my partner to be healthy and feel cared for so that we can prolong our joy together.
Being able to open up and feel vulnerable is not something I’ve always been able to do. The dynamics which are prevalent throughout this subreddit do not reflect the social norm so perhaps others will agree that communication and understanding are necessary for discovering who the other person is. For me, being silly with someone is a good sign that I feel accepted. When other couples act disturbed but are secretly envious of us? Perfect.
My second picture here was going to be me during a session, showing the kind of situation I enjoy being in, but I decided not to post. No nudity but nsfw. Perhaps I’ll share if people ask to see.
Regarding interests, I’ve always enjoyed hands-on activities, especially as means to create. As a kid I played with Legos often, and occasionally paint and Play-Doh. Video games, reading, and exercise became more prevalent as I grew. I’m proud of my progress with reading lately, having picked up plenty of books over the last few years while finishing school, though I can’t keep the same interest with video games anymore. I don’t like giving up on that hobby but maybe now is just not the time. Playing co-op together could be fun though.
Vacation time tends to be spent on trips over an extended weekend. I attended BoundCon in Germany earlier this year and went to the west coast for a gaming convention. Also hiked while I was out there. It would be especially nice to have company during these events, where we could plan out our outfits and convention schedules.
Actual second picture: Some of the books I bought or read in 2023. I’ve been branching out from the typical cyberpunk and fantasy I would tend to look for.
https://imgur.com/a/m6ZfIAx
I don't know what else to put. 6ft, physically active, drink occasionally, no smoking.
I wanted to provide more of a sense of who I am rather than list kink interests or act as though only a certain type of person would be a good match. I would be happy to discuss both those interests and vanilla ones further as I get to know someone better. Is my post reasonable overall? I hope that you feel welcome to reach out if you think there’s some compatibility.