After years of being involved on and off in a really play based local kink community, I'm looking for a more involved relationship with a dominant than just occasional play at parties/hotels/suspicious basements/abandoned warehouses. I want to get to know someone who can on occasion take over the wild decision making process that goes on in my brain. I am active in my local community but like to be thorough, so leaving no stone unturned I'm looking online too.

About me, I am one of those people who played sports and did nerdy stuff so I'm half in the machismo jock world and half in the basement dwelling nerd world. I wear a lot of hats: D&D nerd, ice hockey player, kink guinea pig, hot tub repair man, 3d printer, or cocktail chef. My interests are all over the place, I find digging into a hobby from an outside perspective very rewarding. I'm generally sort of a dry, goofy, sarcastic person if I were to describe my personality. I try to keep a pretty hard line between my vanilla life and my kink life so I'm outwardly pretty straight laced.

What does that make you? Ideally we have some compatible kinks but more importantly someone intelligent and confident outside of the "kink space". I'm looking for someone more on the sadistic side who lives within a few hours of Ohio preferably 25-45 years old, but if we click, we click so don't let any of that be a deterrent (I like talking to people anyway).

I am a switch but that doesn't mean I want to "tame" anyone or that when I am in a submissive role I'm not a "twue" submissive. I get told switches are greedy sluts who don't know what they want, which is ridiculous because I know exactly what I want. I default to sub when I'm around people who give off dominant energy or just assume a dominant role.

I am also poly, so I have current romantic partners and several other play partners. You are not obligated to interact with any of my other partners, but you need to be okay with their existence. Poly is not an excuse to cheat, they all know I'm here posting personals.

I feel like kink lists don't do justice to the why we enjoy each activity. My primary enjoyment from kink is based in objectification and experimentation. To go from regular person with agency, to thing to be used at your leisure (and then back). Its just coincidence I like it too. I enjoy heavy impact, bondage, pegging/anal, sensory deprivation/play, tease and denial, chastity, body worship, massage, fire play, collar/leash, primal play, confinement, trampling, mild CBT and (now that I think about it) pretty much anything not on my hard limits list, especially if a perspective partner is REALLY into it.

Hard limits: head strikes, toilet play, purposeful blood play, needles, permanent damage, body modification, public play in vanilla spaces, blackmail. All parties involved must be consenting adults.

Feel free to shoot me a message if something caught your interest or just feel like reaching out. Hope to hear from you soon!